Superficial Gay Men

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    Feb 12, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    I find that in the Gay Community a lot of People just care about how a Person's Body looks instead of actually getting to know the Person I find it really discouraging and sad . What are Your Thoughts ?
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    Feb 12, 2013 3:31 AM GMT
    anthony2394 saidI find that in the Gay Community a lot of People just care about how a Person's Body looks instead of actually getting to know the Person I find it really discouraging and sad . What are Your Thoughts ?


    I think men are just visual creatures. Attraction opens the door to get to know people. I think once you accept that the whole idea of "superficial gays" will dissipate and you can focus on meeting cool folks.
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    Feb 12, 2013 3:32 AM GMT
    Yes, it's a "man" thing, not a "gay" thing. The only difference is that the playing field is leveled since with gays the "superficial" are under equal scrutiny.
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    Feb 12, 2013 3:33 AM GMT
    "what are your thoughts?"


    Superficial people don't have thoughts! Silly.
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    Feb 12, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    take your shirt off first. then i'll tell you my thoughts.

    haha j/k

    but seriously though there are superficial straight men too, this isn't just a "gay" thing.
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    Feb 12, 2013 6:08 AM GMT
    anthony2394 saidI find that in the Gay Community a lot of People just care about how a Person's Body looks instead of actually getting to know the Person I find it really discouraging and sad . What are Your Thoughts ?


    Then work on your body more and quit whining
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    Feb 12, 2013 12:57 PM GMT
    We're all superficial. I'm limited by my own self, my fantasy, and my indulgences. It's the egocentricities that keep us all the same and just like everyone else. To think we are so different is egocentric in itself.
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    Feb 12, 2013 1:20 PM GMT
    How many people who say this have literally nobody who fancies them? Probably none. So what they mean is "why are people who are more attractive than me superficial, the same as I am?"

    People who say this are part of the problem, not that there is one. Other animals behave more or less the same anyway.
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    Feb 12, 2013 1:35 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidYes, it's a "man" thing, not a "gay" thing. The only difference is that the playing field is leveled since with gays the "superficial" are under equal scrutiny.

    Agreed, and as several guys here have already commented. I often look to the straight world to understand the gay one. Maybe because I tried to live in that other world for so long that I immediately recognize parallels I have already encountered there, when reading today about "gay" problems & matters. Many are fundamentally neither gay nor straight issues at their core, but human issues.

    Women often complain that straight men are only interested in their looks, and not their minds or accomplishments. Whereas men get more of a pass from women in the looks department, because females are more focused on finding a good provider who'll enable her to successfully raise a family. Or so the sociologists theorize.

    But when you put 2 men together what you frequently get, as eagermuscle notes, is double the trouble. You're both judging each other visually, and nobody gets a pass.

    But even then there are exceptions, that disprove a strict application of the OP's premise. Who hasn't seen the lovely young twink on the arm of the candidate for the nursing home? Betcha gramps has got money and twinkie doesn't, enough income to indulge his vain fantasy that he's still young looking and can attract a trophy boi.

    I see those match-ups regularly here in South Florida, where it's amazing how a little attention & flattery, and probably some good technique in bed, can make old men lose their sense of reality. And where the best wrinkle reducer in the world is a fat bank account. But here again, the same pattern we see in the straight world.

    So the OP might consider the following, assuming this affects him personally:

    - become rich & famous, or at least 1 of the 2
    - date guys who are in the same boat looks-wise (though many are in denial and think they're God's gift, deserving only the best)
    - be patient until a less visually obsessed guy comes along, since they do exist
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    Feb 12, 2013 2:57 PM GMT
    Noooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

    OP is a known super annoying troll. Don't reply. Otherwise we'll have millions of new threads asking why he's not attractive, why won't guys talk to him, etc. He's not really asking for advice. He never listens. If he replies it will be to say "thanx."

    I blame YN for invoking his name with Martin. It's like Beetlejuice. Don't say it or he'll appear!!!!!!!!!!!
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    Feb 12, 2013 2:59 PM GMT
    showme saidNoooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

    OP is a known super annoying troll. Don't reply. Otherwise we'll have millions of new threads asking why he's not attractive, why won't guys talk to him, etc. He's not really asking for advice. He never listens. If he replies it will be to say "thanx."

    I blame YN for invoking his name with Martin. It's like Beetlejuice. Don't say it or he'll appear!!!!!!!!!!!


    But he's sooooo cute and dreamy!!!!!icon_lol.gificon_wink.gif
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    Feb 12, 2013 3:00 PM GMT
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    showme saidNoooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

    OP is a known super annoying troll. Don't reply. Otherwise we'll have millions of new threads asking why he's not attractive, why won't guys talk to him, etc. He's not really asking for advice. He never listens. If he replies it will be to say "thanx."

    I blame YN for invoking his name with Martin. It's like Beetlejuice. Don't say it or he'll appear!!!!!!!!!!!


    But he's sooooo cute and dreamy!!!!!icon_lol.gificon_wink.gif



    Lol. I promise he's not.
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    Feb 12, 2013 3:06 PM GMT
    showme said
    HottJoe said
    showme saidNoooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

    OP is a known super annoying troll. Don't reply. Otherwise we'll have millions of new threads asking why he's not attractive, why won't guys talk to him, etc. He's not really asking for advice. He never listens. If he replies it will be to say "thanx."

    I blame YN for invoking his name with Martin. It's like Beetlejuice. Don't say it or he'll appear!!!!!!!!!!!


    But he's sooooo cute and dreamy!!!!!icon_lol.gificon_wink.gif



    Lol. I promise he's not.


    I'm still new enough around here that I can be blissfully ignorant. icon_smile.gif

    I agree that Martin's videos are insufferable though. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 12, 2013 3:07 PM GMT
    i tried to think once, but i stopped before i made lines in my face...

    what was the question again? icon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 12, 2013 3:10 PM GMT
    RedWhiteBlue saidi tried to think once, but i stopped before i made lines in my face...

    what was the question again? icon_twisted.gif


    Good thinking!
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    Feb 12, 2013 4:00 PM GMT
    A stereotypical generalization about a particular community where the one thing that I have in common with most is that I like to suck dick. But he is kinda right, I only like pretty dicks. So if that makes me shallow then so be it.
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:08 PM GMT
    eagermuscle saidYes, it's a "man" thing, not a "gay" thing. The only difference is that the playing field is leveled since with gays the "superficial" are under equal scrutiny.


    yea
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:20 PM GMT
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    showme saidNoooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

    OP is a known super annoying troll. Don't reply. Otherwise we'll have millions of new threads asking why he's not attractive, why won't guys talk to him, etc. He's not really asking for advice. He never listens. If he replies it will be to say "thanx."

    Yup. And there's just nothing superficial about all of that, is there, hahahahaha. icon_lol.gif



    all i gotta say is "karma" you make fun of me instead of helping me you know who's watching up there
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:28 PM GMT
    anthony2394 said
    yourname2000 said
    showme saidNoooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

    OP is a known super annoying troll. Don't reply. Otherwise we'll have millions of new threads asking why he's not attractive, why won't guys talk to him, etc. He's not really asking for advice. He never listens. If he replies it will be to say "thanx."

    Yup. And there's just nothing superficial about all of that, is there, hahahahaha. icon_lol.gif



    all i gotta say is "karma" you make fun of me instead of helping me you know who's watching up there


    You're invoking god to justify your past forum misbehavior? Really? icon_rolleyes.gif

    You've been about 80% better this incarnation. Hope you keep it up.
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:35 PM GMT
    showme said
    anthony2394 said
    yourname2000 said
    showme saidNoooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

    OP is a known super annoying troll. Don't reply. Otherwise we'll have millions of new threads asking why he's not attractive, why won't guys talk to him, etc. He's not really asking for advice. He never listens. If he replies it will be to say "thanx."

    Yup. And there's just nothing superficial about all of that, is there, hahahahaha. icon_lol.gif



    all i gotta say is "karma" you make fun of me instead of helping me you know who's watching up there


    You're invoking god to justify your past forum misbehavior? Really? icon_rolleyes.gif

    You've been about 80% better this incarnation. Hope you keep it up.


    were supposed to love one another not bash people
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    Apr 28, 2013 10:36 PM GMT
    anthony2394 said
    showme said
    anthony2394 said
    yourname2000 said
    showme saidNoooooooooooooo!!!!!!!!!!!

    OP is a known super annoying troll. Don't reply. Otherwise we'll have millions of new threads asking why he's not attractive, why won't guys talk to him, etc. He's not really asking for advice. He never listens. If he replies it will be to say "thanx."

    Yup. And there's just nothing superficial about all of that, is there, hahahahaha. icon_lol.gif



    all i gotta say is "karma" you make fun of me instead of helping me you know who's watching up there


    You're invoking god to justify your past forum misbehavior? Really? icon_rolleyes.gif

    You've been about 80% better this incarnation. Hope you keep it up.


    were supposed to love one another not bash people


    That was not bashing. You're not listening.
  • ignaceqbc

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    Apr 28, 2013 11:38 PM GMT
    anthony2394 saidI find that in the Gay Community a lot of People just care about how a Person's Body looks instead of actually getting to know the Person I find it really discouraging and sad . What are Your Thoughts ?

    thats true..sorry to say....mostly racist
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    Apr 28, 2013 11:39 PM GMT
    HottJoe said"what are your thoughts?"


    Superficial people don't have thoughts! Silly.


    white people are superficial
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    Apr 28, 2013 11:46 PM GMT
    anthony2394 saidI find that in the Gay Community a lot of People just care about how a Person's Body looks instead of actually getting to know the Person I find it really discouraging and sad . What are Your Thoughts ?


    Generally people dislike dickheads regardless of their sexual orientation. When someone like you constantly whinges and craps on and on about poor little ugly me, no one likes me etc etc... they give up. become the person you want to attract and shut the negative whinging and trying to get newbies on your side of the arguement.

    im on a roll today blocking you also
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    Apr 29, 2013 12:20 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    yiboz said
    anthony2394 saidI find that in the Gay Community a lot of People just care about how a Person's Body looks instead of actually getting to know the Person I find it really discouraging and sad . What are Your Thoughts ?


    Generally people dislike dickheads regardless of their sexual orientation. When someone like you constantly whinges and craps on and on about poor little ugly me, no one likes me etc etc... they give up. become the person you want to attract and shut the negative whinging and trying to get newbies on your side of the arguement.

    im on a roll today blocking you also

    Lol. you are on a roll! icon_biggrin.gif


    lol..what ever