Gay roommate?

  • pharmstudent

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    Feb 12, 2013 6:44 AM GMT
    I'm planning to move out soon but I couldn't save as much money as I anticipated. I really want my own place but I think having a gay roommate is the next alternative. Do you have a roommate, who is also gay? How is it better or different from having a straight roommate.
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    Feb 12, 2013 6:45 AM GMT
    Lesbians are awesome!
  • pharmstudent

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    Feb 12, 2013 6:55 AM GMT
    Neight saidLesbians are awesome!


    never thought about them.. it actually eliminate the physical attraction or the thought of banging my roommate.
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:05 AM GMT
    It could go either way. I had a gay male roommate inn 2002 who drove me up the wall (not in the good way).
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    Feb 12, 2013 7:31 AM GMT
    I met my current room-mate on this forum! He's from Brazil and now living in Melbourne.

    So far it's been a great experience. Being both gay we share common interests and don't feel the need to hide anything. I would say we are good friends now and do common things together.

    My roomate also isn't someone who will often bring a guy round. Since I'm coupled I prefer to live with someone who won't have strangers around each weekend.

    So I guess it worked out well for me. I think it just depends on the person though. Ask yourself is he a good person, seems trustworthy, willing to clean, able to give you space etc.
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    Feb 12, 2013 1:04 PM GMT
    Ask for reference. I have cool straight roommates
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    Feb 12, 2013 1:25 PM GMT
    In the past, I've had straight, gay and bi roommates. All of them were great!
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    Feb 12, 2013 2:08 PM GMT
    The sexual orientation of one's roommate is irrelevant. You will run into just as many problems with straight roommates as you will with LGTB roommates.

    Everything you do will be affected by the person with whom you live.

    The first step is the most important one, and that's knowing what you're looking for. From there, you need to ask potential roommates the right questions. Do they work? Know their work hours (it's always better to find a roommate on a different work schedule. The less time you spend together, the better off you wil be). Do they have pets/want pets? Do they party a lot? What are their thoughts on sharing food/television/entertainment system, etc.? What type of music do they like? What are their habits (smoking, drinking)? Do they have any allergies? What are they looking for in a roommate?
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    Feb 12, 2013 2:14 PM GMT
    I have a gay roommate and he always wants to hookup with me which I don't do with roommates unless we dating. It can go either way tho.
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    Feb 12, 2013 2:16 PM GMT
    Neight saidLesbians are awesome!


    I second this. My roommate of almost two years is gay, and it's been great. I barely knew her when we moved in together, and now she's one of my best friends.
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    Feb 12, 2013 2:17 PM GMT
    pharmstudent saidI'm planning to move out soon but I couldn't save as much money as I anticipated. I really want my own place but I think having a gay roommate is the next alternative. Do you have a roommate, who is also gay? How is it better or different from having a straight roommate.


    My advice is pick a straight roommate who knows.
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    Feb 12, 2013 2:33 PM GMT
    Both my roommates are gay. No different I was open about my life before and now.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 12, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    why does your roommate have to be gay? i am not saying he has to be straight either but just curious as to why they have to be gay.
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    Feb 12, 2013 3:25 PM GMT
    If you're "out" then it really doesn't matter if your roommate is gay or straight.
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    Feb 12, 2013 3:48 PM GMT
    Before considering a roommate make sure you know they're cool. Gender, race, sexuality, are bull.
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    Feb 12, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    I have had straight and gay roommates. The gay roommate I have now is an awesome 75 year old guy who works out all the time and gets more ass than a toilet seat lol. But I have also had a pair of queens (never again). I have done much better with straight or bi roommates, less drama and more in common.
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    Feb 12, 2013 5:07 PM GMT
    I never had one but I had straight roommates and at any rate living with someone else can be difficult. It's better that you define exactly the nature of your relationship when you move in with them. Are you friends moving into together or just two people moving into together who don't intend on becoming close with one another? Because we all have habits and quirks and flaws that come to the surface especially when we are in such close quarters with someone and it always becomes messy when it's your friend who your crap is coming to. Or when you have to deal with their shit.

    Also if a roommate was gay I don't think it would be much of an issue. I'm not attracted to every man I see.
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    Feb 12, 2013 5:18 PM GMT
    Focus on someone who is gay friendly, responsible, clean, a person of their word and has a job/or good work ethic. Now whether they be male/female is etirely up to you. But I would have that on the bottom of my list.
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    Feb 12, 2013 5:33 PM GMT
    Integrity11 saidFocus on someone who is gay friendly, responsible, clean, a person of their word and has a job/or good work ethic. Now whether they be male/female is etirely up to you. But I would have that on the bottom of my list.


    good game plan.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 12, 2013 5:44 PM GMT
    If you can avoid roommates ... then avoid them if you can ... it is easier living in your own mess then living in someone elses mess ... oh sure, at first it is all fun and games .. but in the end, you will have regretted it and maybe have lost a friend. Maybe 10% of roommate situations work out ok, but do you really want to take that chance with those odds?
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    Feb 12, 2013 5:50 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidIf you can avoid roommates ... then avoid them if you can ... it is easier living in your own mess then living in someone elses mess ... oh sure, at first it is all fun and games .. but in the end, you will have regretted it and maybe have lost a friend. Maybe 10% of roommate situations work out ok, but do you really want to take that chance with those odds?




    It you can't live with roommates most likely you will be one of those gay guys who will remain single forever with the delusion that they are looking for Mr. Right. ( someone they are compatible with) .
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    Feb 12, 2013 5:56 PM GMT
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    AMoonHawk saidIf you can avoid roommates ... then avoid them if you can ... it is easier living in your own mess then living in someone elses mess ... oh sure, at first it is all fun and games .. but in the end, you will have regretted it and maybe have lost a friend. Maybe 10% of roommate situations work out ok, but do you really want to take that chance with those odds?




    It you can't live with roommates most likely you will be one of those gay guys who will remain single forever with the delusion that they are looking for Mr. Right. ( someone they are compatible with) .


    That seems like a false equivalency. There are plenty of people like myself who cannot live with other people but that does not mean we can't live peacefully with someone we are in a romantic situation with.
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    Feb 12, 2013 9:29 PM GMT
    Over the years, I've gone down both paths. My most recent roommate and I had a wonderful time, but, I've had roommates who were beyond awful. It depends on who you live with, their situation, and their demeanor, as well as how your station in life is. There are times I've been best off being alone, and others when it was much better having someone around.

    As human beings, and social creatures, we're designed to be around others. To live long, it's said these things are needed.
    1. Exercise.
    2. Nutrition.
    3. Avoid stress.
    4. Avoid being lonely.

    Lots of studies support this view.

    If you're gay, or bi, then, clearly, you might have a higher comfort level in your home if your roomie is like-minded or at least friendly to the notion.

    If you're a closet case, do yourself a favor and live by yourself. No one wants to deal with your crap.

    A naggy, nelly, roommate, regardless of preference, would get a notice from me. I wouldn't and don't put up with it. You wanna' live with me? Be reasonable, fun, know how to giggle and have a good time.
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    Feb 12, 2013 10:46 PM GMT
    I've had gay and straight roommates. Both have their pros and cons. It all boils down to whether or not they're good people.