Would you take him back? (Re: For those who have been in relationships but aren't now, what do you miss most?)

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    Feb 13, 2013 8:56 AM GMT
    I ran into the "For those who have been in relationships but aren't now, what do you miss most?" thread (http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3011802 ) and I thought it was pretty amazing how a lot of the folks have been very positive about their exes despite that the relationships left the RJ posters with broken hearts. I did not want to hi-jack that thread, so I thought maybe I'd ask this on a separate thread.

    If you posted on the previous thread, would you take your ex back with no reservations? or do you feel that things are better for you now that you're separated and dealing with a broken heart? (it'll be cool also if you can further expand on your response. I want to hear more stories. icon_biggrin.gif)

    Oh, and props to all of you who loved and shared your stories in the previous thread. I'd be a happier man if I can experience what most of you experienced.
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    Feb 13, 2013 10:31 AM GMT
    I'm better alone...Can't take him back!...I tried...he's impossible to change...

    He is like a little complaint box which fills the complaint himself, puts it in the box & when the time is right, he will open it & starts reading one by one again and again...
    This box will not accept my complaints. when I try to put it in...he not only rejects it but also justifies himself...

    He is good & innocent but also
    he is crazy & arrogant!

    No vengeance & No regrets...
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    Feb 13, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    since I've done it more times then I can count why not again?
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    Feb 13, 2013 4:50 PM GMT
    It never even had a chance to start!

    We were friends before all that drama that probably was all my fault.
    I think I made him think I wanted a relationship and he wasn't ready for one.
    And all I wanted was more sex and spending more time together. Maybe I scared him off or annoyed him, because I got a little jealous when I see him flirt with other guys.
    I still feel like it's all my fault. And I want to make it right this time.

    Would I take him back if we rekindle how we were before?
    YES!
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    Feb 13, 2013 5:08 PM GMT
    But to be serious...NO I WOULD NOT. lol
  • jayatl56

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    Feb 13, 2013 10:18 PM GMT
    No. he was a user/manipulator. we can be friends but that's it. He told me recently that he might be taking a job in Dubai. I congratulated him and then he said I could come visit. I laughed and said I don't think so. When he asked why I laughed, I said there would be nothing in Dubai that was of interest to me. I know it hurt his feelings but that's the way I feel.

    When he thought I was coming to Prague for a visit he insisted that I stay with him. I told him no, I'd stay with some other friends. But he insisted saying he wanted me to be there with him and even mentioned sleeping together.

    I don't really think he even thinks about our break up. I don't think it even dawns on him what happened and why I moved back to the US - that he was a major reason for trying to start over. To this day I don't think he knows how hurt I was and that I still to this day feel the hurt from time to time.

    So no. I wouldn't take him back.
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    Feb 13, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    I posted in that thread but my response was about missing being in a relationship and not missing any of the guys that I've dated. That's a whole, very different question. I'm a serial monogamist so I miss being in a relationship.

    Would I date any of the five again? Yes to one and no to four.
  • deep388

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    Feb 13, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    I've had only one proper boyfriend to date, and even if he came back to NZ from Ireland again than no, I wouldn't take him back but only because he has moved on *cue Adele*

    No, I'm completely over him and I think that even if he were single and came back, we would probably be better as friends than lovers. But he will always be that first love you never forget:- Awesome guy, wonderful personality, amazing passion etc etc.
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    Feb 13, 2013 11:17 PM GMT
    The first guy I loved I would not take back. He was incredibly selfish and is still incredibly selfish, and the distance has made me see that in such a way that I'm not even attracted to him at all.

    The second guy I loved... I'm not sure. I'd have serious doubts and he would have to work pretty hard to overcome those doubts. But then again, our problem before was that he wasn't willing to do the work.

    The most recent guy, I'd definitely take. But that's because my heart still hurts over him and I don't have enough strength to say no, even though he's treated me with such contempt.
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    Feb 13, 2013 11:31 PM GMT
    i doubt i would take mine back.... i do miss the familiarity, and of course he was awesome in bed.... i miss that the most... he knew how to make me tic... icon_wink.gif
  • nubScotty

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    Feb 13, 2013 11:40 PM GMT
    Absolutely not to all 3 of my exes.

    As for the last guy I dated seriously, seeing as its been about 6 weeks and I still think about him...yes I'd start seeing him again, but would have reservations simply due to the way things ended between us. He was my ideal in all aspects, physical/personality/etc and I thought we had an incredible friendship which could of been built into a great relationship; alas that was not the case.

    However I'm still debating if there is a possibility of a friendship for us, but still having feelings for him that probably won't ever change. Don't know how that'll work out.
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    Feb 13, 2013 11:45 PM GMT
    No I would not. Too damn triflin'
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    Feb 14, 2013 4:02 AM GMT
    Nope. Not into nostalgia one bit.