One day, I'm going to learn my lesson about older guys

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    Feb 15, 2013 12:47 AM GMT
    They claim to not be about childish games, yet do something they don't like, they resort to the childish ass games! See, I can't believe this guy I was FWBs with held on to a grudge of something that happened in 2012! I apologized again and again, but I didn't get any responses. So tonight, he's going to text me, "I'm not going to ignore you anymore, so I'm going to be a man and ask you to lose my number." That's not the EXACT text, but that's the gist of the text overall. WTH?! See, if he was a REAL MAN like he said, then he would've told me from the jump and I would have been moved on. But the fact that he ignored me, pouted in the distance, and didn't even accept my apologies just pushed me over the edge.

    I dunno if I'm overreacting, but I really just hate passive aggressive individuals. Be direct from the get go.
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    Feb 15, 2013 1:10 AM GMT
    Yeah, older guys can suck. Then again, so can younger guys if you believe a lot of other threads. Maybe it's just guys, or the guys you choose to be FWB's with? Yeah, that's probably it.
  • PR_GMR

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    Feb 15, 2013 1:22 AM GMT
    What actually happened between you and this guy?
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    Feb 15, 2013 1:43 AM GMT
    PR_GMR saidWhat actually happened between you and this guy?


    Well, long story short we were spending time together and then I get a text from my friends about getting ready to go out. So I told him that I had to get ready, because my friends are from out of state, so I really wanted to spend the last night of the semester with them before they went him. He left like everything was okay, but obviously, that wasn't the case.

    However, he finally responded to my text messages tonight and we resolved the issue. I'm just giving him his space for now, which I have been doing already while trying to reach out a little bit, but IDK where we stand right now.
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    Feb 15, 2013 2:37 AM GMT
    MrPerfect7592 said
    PR_GMR saidWhat actually happened between you and this guy?


    Well, long story short we were spending time together and then I get a text from my friends about getting ready to go out. So I told him that I had to get ready, because my friends are from out of state, so I really wanted to spend the last night of the semester with them before they went him. He left like everything was okay, but obviously, that wasn't the case.

    However, he finally responded to my text messages tonight and we resolved the issue. I'm just giving him his space for now, which I have been doing already while trying to reach out a little bit, but IDK where we stand right now.


    Sounds like he felt dissed when you went out with your friends. How much older is he? You say he's just a FWB, but.. does he have more feelings for you? Good to hear you were able to discuss it and reach an understanding.
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    Feb 15, 2013 2:52 AM GMT
    Childish games are awesome. Why would older guys pretend to not enjoy them?
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:34 AM GMT
    All older guys are evil and we must ignore them when they speak to us and avoid eye contact with them.
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:44 AM GMT
    paulflexes saidChildish games are awesome. Why would older guys pretend to not enjoy them?


    Judging by this comment, YOU'RE the awesome thing around here sir. Just a few more notches and you'll get up to my level icon_razz.gif
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:53 AM GMT
    Us gay guys BECOME the 'older' guys much sooner than you think
  • LJay

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    Feb 15, 2013 6:56 AM GMT
    Nabisco saidUs gay guys BECOME the 'older' guys much sooner than you think


    You're gay?!
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 15, 2013 7:10 AM GMT
    how about you had been the mature one and just have moved on. if he had not responded to you. why didn't you get the hint and leave him alone. it took all of that and finally you got the message. wow, i would think after the first few no responses that you would gotten the picture.
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    Feb 15, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    Nabisco saidUs gay guys BECOME the 'older' guys much sooner than you think


    yep one day your out clubbing in the latest fashion knowing everything and being fab the next your home alone friday night on RJ and loving the peace and quiet
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    Feb 15, 2013 3:58 PM GMT
    Am I understanding this story correctly...

    Last year you were hanging with an older guy, having sex with him, but trying to just keep it friendly.

    He was at your place one night and then you tell him to get the fuck out because you want to hang with some school friends your age.

    You were texting him for months and he didn't respond because he didn't want to deal with you. You didn't take the hint and kept texting him.

    He finally responds and says STOP TEXTING ME.

    And then you complain to the internets that this is exclusively a problem with older guys.

    I think you're overreacting. There's going to be plenty of guys in your future that stop replying to your texts. I doubt it will be limited to older guys only.

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    Feb 15, 2013 4:10 PM GMT
    As a counter point. My buddy from work met a 23 year old (he is 44) and had the bright idea dating him would be a good thing. He decided to invite his new boy to the grammy awards. The new boy being poor, didnt have a car. So my buddy took him to the mall to find the right clothes to wear, because, being poor, he didnt have them. I suspect my buddy paid for the new duds but he didnt mention that. Fast foward to sunday he was supposed to meet the bf at a starbucks or something at 10:30am to head to the pre telecast awards. Boy isnt there. He calls, texts, nothing. The entire day, checks his phone, nothing. Gets a call THE NEXT DAY saying "sorry, I was out late and fell asleep".

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    Feb 15, 2013 4:18 PM GMT
    All I can say is 'THE GAMES GAY MEN PLAY'...Whether you're older or younger, you should treat people in a respectful manner.
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    Feb 15, 2013 4:25 PM GMT
    Passive-aggressiveness has nothing to do with age.
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    Feb 15, 2013 4:30 PM GMT
    oh god thats creepy.
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    Feb 15, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    atxd13 saidAm I'm understanding this story correctly...

    Last year you were hanging with an older guy, having sex with him, but trying to just keep it friendly.

    He was at your place one night and then you tell him to get the fuck out because you want to hang with some school friends your age.

    You were texting him for months and he didn't respond because he didn't want to deal with you. You didn't take the hint and kept texting him.

    He finally responds and says STOP TEXTING ME.

    And then you complain to the internets that this is exclusively a problem with older guys.

    I think you're overreacting. There's going to be plenty of guys in your future that stop replying to your texts. I doubt it will be limited to older guys only.



    I was going to respond to the OP but you said everything I wanted to. Excellent response.

    Seems MrPerfect isn't so perfect.

    One other thing: Just because you extend an apology doesn't mean it has to be accepted, or that if it is, it doesn't erase the damage done and everything goes back to normal.

    MrPerfect ask yourself how would you feel if someone said to you" "Hey I was just texted by some friends who are way cooler and younger than you and a hellava lot more fun to be with so I'm going to ditch you and meet up with them." In essence that's what you did. AND HE WAS PLAYING GAMES?
  • Splendidus_1

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    Feb 15, 2013 4:36 PM GMT
    Maybe you should learn the lesson "not to generalize based on bad encounters" instead. Some people suck, some don't, meh icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 15, 2013 4:50 PM GMT
    I'm guessing the older guy learned his lesson about younger guys like MrPerfect.
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    Feb 15, 2013 4:52 PM GMT
    Oh Lawdy, not another one of THESE threads
  • Hothouse

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    Feb 15, 2013 4:58 PM GMT
    OLDER GUYS SUCK


    cock better than younger less experienced guys.
  • Timbales

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    Feb 15, 2013 5:02 PM GMT
    Men are pigs.










    Who wants bacon?
  • CityofDreams

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    Feb 15, 2013 5:03 PM GMT
    Timbales saidMen are pigs.










    Who wants bacon?












    *raises hand*
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    Feb 15, 2013 5:20 PM GMT
    LJay said
    Nabisco saidUs gay guys BECOME the 'older' guys much sooner than you think


    You're gay?!


    nah dude totally straight brah ain't into no homo shit just like putting two fingers up my bud's totally shaved tight little asshole and have his warm, pulsating sphincter contract around them but totally not gay, man.