Feel like such an ass..

  • samoscratch

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    Feb 15, 2013 3:45 AM GMT
    This post is mainly to get some things off my chest, I realize it may sound melodramatic...bear with me.

    I'll try to keep it short, regardless TLDR at bottom

    Basically, since I started frequenting the gym I've been exchanging glances with a guy. I'll catch him looking my way and vice versa, this has been going on for some time. Always found it hard to approach him mainly because it's a public place and I don't want to bother him during his routine.

    If I catch him looking he turns away and all that good stuff yada yada..(Could I have misinterpreted these looks?) I had resigned myself to the fact that nothing will ever happen.

    The last few weeks my brother has been my workout partner, since then the guy has been staring even more frequently than usual, in my eyes trying to work out who this new guy is (my brother) could be wrong of course.

    Anyways, this is where it all goes south, my brother and I happened to end up at some of the same machines as this guy, that whole session it seemed like we were ending up in the same place. It was purely coincidental... he seemed a little bothered by that, not entirely sure, it's hard to read him but I shrugged it off...

    Time comes to leave and we decided to stop off at the store, as we're walking in guess who walks out....when he spotted us...let me just say that he did not look all that pleased...

    Complete coincidence, nevertheless I felt like such a stalker....what are the chances?...

    Since that night then he no longer comes to the gym, I feel horribly guilty even though in reality I haven't done anything wrong, the last thing I want is to ruin someone's workout or make them uncomfortable.

    I wish I could just talk to him one time to apologize, it may sound silly but it gets to me that there was such a misunderstanding.

    Gah, That's it, thanks for reading, feel a bit better, but not any less foolish..silly I know....

    TLDR: Random guy and I check each other out at gym for months, things get slightly awkward, by chance we run into each other outside of gym, guy doesn't seem amused, feel like a stalker. FML





  • BmwKid92

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    Feb 15, 2013 3:48 AM GMT
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  • samoscratch

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    Feb 15, 2013 3:49 AM GMT
    Noooooooo!

    Fair enough though, have to learn to keep blinders on
  • Trauts

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    Feb 15, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    I don't think you did anything. He probably didn't return for other reasons. For him to not return to a gym just because you looked like you were taken seems a little petty.

    So stop beating yourself up about it. :p
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    Feb 15, 2013 4:29 AM GMT
    I don't understand why you want to apologize in the first place... you never even talked to this man to begin with... if he gets pissed off without even talking to you, then he got some serious drama issue and it's best to stay clear of that. He stopped going to the gym? Great, one less stalker in the gym.
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    Feb 15, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    R U Catholic or Jewish? ...You got guilt over this? OMG!...NO....you did nothing wrong. The guy is making too much of this as are you....if there is a problem....man up and ask him or him as you.....gay or straight, there is common decency, etiquette and civility.icon_rolleyes.gif
  • samoscratch

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    Feb 15, 2013 5:34 AM GMT
    Yeah I can agree with what you guys are saying, I'll get over it, I guess this is my version from my perspective, who knows what he was thinking. If he was truly bothered I guess he took care of it in a way that eliminates any drama by just removing himself from the situation.

  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 15, 2013 5:55 AM GMT
    Next time learn to speak up

    You should have said something like, "We must be on the same wave length today, we keep hitting all the same places"

    If the guy was checking you out to begin with, he probably was interested in you but then you show up with your brother and start following him around and the poor guy is probably thinking, "shit they are going to beat me up for being a fag"

    People need to start learning not to be so shy. Look, if it had been some ugly bitch and the same thing would have happen, you probably would spoke up and said hi or something, because you would have felt comfortable that you had no intentions or feelings toward that person. It is only when we get that little bit of a crush feeling that we clam up and start looking away like we've been caught doing something wrong.
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:16 AM GMT
    you should not care
    this sounds like a typical case of it's his problem, not yours
    it's for him to deal with, not you
    ... that is, if your glances are the reason he left although I doubt that's the case to be honest
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:28 AM GMT
    samoscratch saidThis post is mainly to get some things off my chest, I realize it may sound melodramatic...bear with me.

    I'll try to keep it short, regardless TLDR at bottom

    Basically, since I started frequenting the gym I've been exchanging glances with a guy. I'll catch him looking my way and vice versa, this has been going on for some time. Always found it hard to approach him mainly because it's a public place and I don't want to bother him during his routine.

    If I catch him looking he turns away and all that good stuff yada yada..(Could I have misinterpreted these looks?) I had resigned myself to the fact that nothing will ever happen.

    The last few weeks my brother has been my workout partner, since then the guy has been staring even more frequently than usual, in my eyes trying to work out who this new guy is (my brother) could be wrong of course.

    Anyways, this is where it all goes south, my brother and I happened to end up at some of the same machines as this guy, that whole session it seemed like we were ending up in the same place. It was purely coincidental... he seemed a little bothered by that, not entirely sure, it's hard to read him but I shrugged it off...

    Time comes to leave and we decided to stop off at the store, as we're walking in guess who walks out....when he spotted us...let me just say that he did not look all that pleased...

    Complete coincidence, nevertheless I felt like such a stalker....what are the chances?...

    Since that night then he no longer comes to the gym, I feel horribly guilty even though in reality I haven't done anything wrong, the last thing I want is to ruin someone's workout or make them uncomfortable.

    I wish I could just talk to him one time to apologize, it may sound silly but it gets to me that there was such a misunderstanding.

    Gah, That's it, thanks for reading, feel a bit better, but not any less foolish..silly I know....

    TLDR: Random guy and I check each other out at gym for months, things get slightly awkward, by chance we run into each other outside of gym, guy doesn't seem amused, feel like a stalker. FML







    Fuck Dude, you're making this all way too complicated. Ever play sports competitively? Grow up in a small town? Walk over and introduce yourself! DOH! I do it all the time. Life is too short for all the drama. If you act like a creeper, of course, he's gonna' think you're one. Introduce yourself, and if he's interested, you'll find out. If he's not interested, you'll find out. It's the creepy part that gets really annoying. Someone creeps me in the locker room...I walk over and shake their hand. LOL. Sometimes, they get frightened, sometimes, I make a friend, but, in either event, it's dealt with. If he is creeping you, then, take it away from him by introducing yourself. Problem solved.
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:33 AM GMT
    Wow, this sucks.

    My thoughts are that he may have been interested in you and felt you were flaunting this new guy in front of him.

    I honestly don't know why he took it so hard. Then again I know nothing about gym ettiquette. icon_rolleyes.gif
  • samoscratch

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    Feb 15, 2013 6:34 AM GMT
    Truth...I learned my lesson!

    Damn he was fine as hell too

    watcha gonna do....
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:55 AM GMT
    samoscratch saidTruth...I learned my lesson!

    Damn he was fine as hell too

    watcha gonna do....


    Grow a pair! A closed mouth never gets fed!

    Demonstrate interest by making a meaningful effort to communicate. And while you're at it, take a few minutes to fill out your REALJOCK profile. It's empty, so none of your profile viewers can read anything about you.

    What if this gorgeous guy from the gym happened by your profile a few minutes ago? He could say to himself, "Here's the guy at the gym. His profile is empty--no effort made on REALJOCK. No wonder he made no effort at the gym."
  • samoscratch

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    Feb 15, 2013 6:58 AM GMT
    BlkMuscleGent said
    samoscratch saidTruth...I learned my lesson!

    Damn he was fine as hell too

    watcha gonna do....


    Grow a pair! A closed mouth never gets fed!

    Demonstrate interest by making a meaningful effort to communicate. And while you're at it, take a few minutes to fill out your REALJOCK profile. It's empty, so none of your profile viewers can read anything about you.

    What if this gorgeous guy from the gym happened by your profile a few minutes ago? He could say to himself, "Here's the guy at the gym. His profile is empty--no effort made on REALJOCK. No wonder he made no effort at the gym."


    Alright, alright, hehe

    I'm a realjock nooby but I'll get on that icon_cool.gif
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 15, 2013 7:05 AM GMT
    dude, do not bother. why don't you just count this up as a misunderstanding. however, the next time you are that close to each other or someone else you maybe interested in. why don't you try introducing yourself. i mean surely there is no harm in saying hi to someone. especially if you two have been staring at each other that long. its easy, trust me. i am not out and i do it quite a bit.
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    Feb 15, 2013 7:54 AM GMT
    "A closed mouth never gets fed.".......I gotta' remember that saying.
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    Feb 15, 2013 9:49 AM GMT
    I don't understand why you feel like an ass. It was a coincidence. Stop caring. If he was pissed off, maybe it's a good thing he stopped going to the gym. The last person in my life I'd need is someone who'd get pissed off that easily.
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    Feb 15, 2013 10:01 AM GMT
    I understand why you feel that way, but even if that's the case, the fact that something like that ran him off is his issue not yours.

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    Feb 15, 2013 10:08 AM GMT
    Maybe he didn't quit but goes on a different schedule?
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    Feb 15, 2013 10:32 AM GMT
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    Feb 15, 2013 10:44 AM GMT
    chuckystud said
    Fuck Dude, you're making this all way too complicated. Ever play sports competitively? Grow up in a small town? Walk over and introduce yourself! DOH! I do it all the time. Life is too short for all the drama. If you act like a creeper, of course, he's gonna' think you're one. Introduce yourself, and if he's interested, you'll find out. If he's not interested, you'll find out. It's the creepy part that gets really annoying. Someone creeps me in the locker room...I walk over and shake their hand. LOL. Sometimes, they get frightened, sometimes, I make a friend, but, in either event, it's dealt with. If he is creeping you, then, take it away from him by introducing yourself. Problem solved.


    I must agree with this approach. Go and shake his hand. Deal with it like a man! I feel a lot better about myself since I've started doing it this way.
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    Feb 15, 2013 2:58 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    chuckystud said

    Fuck Dude, you're making this all way too complicated. Ever play sports competitively? Grow up in a small town? Walk over and introduce yourself! DOH! I do it all the time. Life is too short for all the drama. If you act like a creeper, of course, he's gonna' think you're one. Introduce yourself, and if he's interested, you'll find out. If he's not interested, you'll find out. It's the creepy part that gets really annoying. Someone creeps me in the locker room...I walk over and shake their hand. LOL. Sometimes, they get frightened, sometimes, I make a friend, but, in either event, it's dealt with. If he is creeping you, then, take it away from him by introducing yourself. Problem solved.

    The world must be ending.;....I agree with Chucky.


    lol
  • samoscratch

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    Feb 15, 2013 5:35 PM GMT
    I would definitely handle it differently now, but he doesn't come to the gym anymore folks, that was in the post, my fault for not putting it in the TLDR.
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
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    Lol!! icon_lol.gif

    He reminds me of this girl..

  • Import

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    Feb 15, 2013 6:59 PM GMT
    ummmm, stop exchanging annoying and creepy glances at guys at the gym.
    so effin annoying.

    Dude prob just wants to work out and now he's gotta worry about you oogling his shit all day and making eye contact and that weird feeling of being watched by someone is beyond creepy.

    I know exactly what you're talking about and I think it's such a huge and annoying problem within the gay community. That "eye contact".... just cuz someone makes eye contact with u doesn't mean they wanna get with you, be with you, etc... yet gay men when they make eye contact with eachother, it's like they have this moment of bliss!! struck by love. it's ridiculous

    Ppl randomly make eye contact with me all the time, dont really think much of it. They're prob just adimiring my amazing good looks.