Letting your soul mate go

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    Feb 15, 2013 6:31 AM GMT
    Assuming you believe in soulmates....the love & conne tion w/ another thats indescribable, intense & immeasurable. Nevertheless sometimes its not meant to be.

    Have you ever had to let someone like this go due to circumstances beyond your control?

    Ive had to do this the last few years. Its so hard....but necessary.
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    Feb 15, 2013 3:22 PM GMT
    Seems like the definition of "soul mate" would mean it's not the person you just let go. Maybe you are using the term wrong.
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    Feb 15, 2013 3:25 PM GMT
    I believe in different types of soulmates...

    either way...hardest thing ever...still haunts me, and I still have nightmares. It basically ruined me as a person.
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    Feb 15, 2013 3:33 PM GMT
    running11 saidI believe in different types of soulmates...

    either way...hardest thing ever...still haunts me, and I still have nightmares. It basically ruined me as a person.

    Buddy, you don't sound ruined as a person. Your profile sounds like a nice, hardworking, curious, athletic guy. We all have first loves. Learn to cherish the memory, not regret.
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    Feb 15, 2013 3:40 PM GMT
    done it. it was incredibly hard. but enjoy the memories.
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    Feb 15, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
    Destinharbor said
    running11 saidI believe in different types of soulmates...

    either way...hardest thing ever...still haunts me, and I still have nightmares. It basically ruined me as a person.

    Buddy, you don't sound ruined as a person. Your profile sounds like a nice, hardworking, curious, athletic guy. We all have first loves. Learn to cherish the memory, not regret.


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    Feb 15, 2013 4:15 PM GMT
    I realize different people love in different ways. But I had a connection w/ one guy that Ill never ever have again & I had to realize he wasnt treating me right so I had to let him go. I think of him everyday, wish him well but it definitely changes you & how you view love.
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    Feb 15, 2013 4:18 PM GMT
    Personally, I don't believe in soul mates at all.
    There isn't a destined person or persons out there that are 'meant' for you.
    I believe there are people who you are more compatible with sure, but the fact that I know of 2 other couples who in terms of personality are quite opposite yet have a blooming relationship, I'm convinced it really comes down to the work both people put into the relationship.
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    NerdMonastery saidPersonally, I don't believe in soul mates at all.
    There isn't a destined person or persons out there that are 'meant' for you.
    I believe there are people who you are more compatible with sure, but the fact that I know of 2 other couples who in terms of personality are quite opposite yet have a blooming relationship, I'm convinced it really comes down to the work both people put into the relationship.


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    Feb 15, 2013 6:42 PM GMT
    is this individual was ur soul mate, then why did u let them go?


    one of yalls is working way harder than the other, therefore said individual was not ur soulmate.
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:49 PM GMT
    Import saidis this individual was ur soul mate, then why did u let them go?


    one of yalls is working way harder than the other, therefore said individual was not ur soulmate.


    There's always one who does a little more in the relationship than the other- it's just the way it is. It doesn't sound fair, but it's true.
    Love takes work.
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:52 PM GMT


    Idk, if I believe in a soulmate, but sometimes I do.
    I don't know if he's my soulmate, he kind of feels like he is... At times I have thought of letting go and leaving his life, but he's so important to me I can't say goodbye =P
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    Feb 15, 2013 6:54 PM GMT
    GigoloAssassin said
    Import saidis this individual was ur soul mate, then why did u let them go?


    one of yalls is working way harder than the other, therefore said individual was not ur soulmate.


    There's always one who does a little more in the relationship than the other- it's just the way it is. It doesn't sound fair, but it's true.
    Love takes work.


    I love love.
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    Feb 15, 2013 7:04 PM GMT
    I honestly don't believe in soul mates. There is not just one person for you, but multiple people. And yes love does not happen it takes work from both people. But when you do find that person, sometimes, it isn't meant to last a life time. People come and go from our lives every day and that does include people who you love.

    Personally, yes I thought I found the person I wanted to spend my life with, but after 5 years our relationship ran its course. Did it hurt? Yes. Was it necessary? Yes. It would have been unhealthy if we stayed together. I learned a lot from that relationship and I will be ready to use what I learned in my next one.
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    Feb 16, 2013 12:14 AM GMT
    The book below has good discussions for giving this topic some thought.

    Journey of Souls: Case Studies of Life between Lives by Michael Newton

    http://www.amazon.com/Journey-Souls-Studies-Between-Lives/dp/1567184855/ref=sr_1_2?ie=UTF8&qid=1360973336&sr=8-2&keywords=Life+between+Lives

    Some people do have soul mates (plural).

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    Feb 16, 2013 12:15 AM GMT
    redbull saidI realize different people love in different ways. But I had a connection w/ one guy that Ill never ever have again & I had to realize he wasnt treating me right so I had to let him go. I think of him everyday, wish him well but it definitely changes you & how you view love.



    Me too, but never say never unless you are highly accurate about predicting the future. And then I want to talk to you about some stock picks.
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    Feb 16, 2013 1:32 AM GMT
    My endearing Redbull, How are you!? as always I love reading your posts! sweetie Soul mates aren't just limited to between lovers! it only takes someone you feel a strong emotional and spiritual affinity with to consider them a soul mate! having said that one could have several soul mates all over the map, and from all walks of life! sometimes those who gives us the hardest lessons in life are our most strong soul mate allies!

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