To the gym goers... How do you approach someone of interest at the gym who may or may not be gay?

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    Feb 16, 2013 9:51 AM GMT
    It'll be a faux pas to ask them, "Are you into guys?"

    To the gym goers who have some experience on this subject and have been successful... how do you figure out which guys at your gym are completely straight vs. those who appear masculine (but are either gay/bi)?

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    Feb 16, 2013 2:23 PM GMT
    Damn, everybody wants to meet dudes in the gym. Every thread and topic, how do meet guys in the gym.
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Feb 16, 2013 2:28 PM GMT
    Anyone giving you advice on how to do that is ...oh never mind. Just ask 'wanna fuck?' Then duck and go look for another gym, repeat, and end up working out at home because you've been kicked out of every serious gym. Then go on Grindr and invites guys over to work out, and avoid the anxiety of wondering (provided your jaw isn't wired shut)

    Does anybody lift because they want to lift? Anybody?

    Look, OP, are you asking because you are interested in a gay friendly workout partner? (Who the fuck am I kidding...? You're not there to work out...)
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    Feb 16, 2013 2:30 PM GMT
    MuscleComeBack saidAnyone giving you advice on how to do that is ...oh never mind. Just ask 'wanna fuck?' Then duck and go look for another gym, repeat, and end up working out at home because you've been kicked out if every serious gym. Then go on Grindr and invites guys over to work out, and avoid the anxiety of wondering (provided your jaw isn't wired shut)

    Dies anybody lift because they want to lift? Anybody?


    Well said lol
  • Whipmagic

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    Feb 16, 2013 2:30 PM GMT
    Turin saidDamn, everybody wants to meet dudes in the gym. Every thread and topic, how do meet guys in the gym.


    Are you surprised? Like the bank robber, who, when asked why he robbed banks, said "that's where the money is", gyms are where athletic gay men are.
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    Feb 16, 2013 2:33 PM GMT
    Whipmagic said
    Turin saidDamn, everybody wants to meet dudes in the gym. Every thread and topic, how do meet guys in the gym.


    Are you surprised? Like the bank robber, who, when asked why he robbed banks, said "that's where the money is", gyms are where athletic gay men are.


    I am not.Somebody's else same psot same topic icon_lol.gif

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    Feb 16, 2013 2:34 PM GMT
    Whipmagic said
    Turin saidDamn, everybody wants to meet dudes in the gym. Every thread and topic, how do meet guys in the gym.


    Are you surprised? Like the bank robber, who, when asked why he robbed banks, said "that's where the money is", gyms are where athletic gay men are.


    or just the athletic straight guys lol. There is this guy at my school gym sauna who just stares at me. I typically ignore him but when you sit in the sauna for thirty minutes and a guy stares at you the whole time you begin to question. Decided next time I am just going to ask him whatsup.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 16, 2013 2:40 PM GMT
    I'd pick a topic that makes sense to discuss... the "Superbowl" a week or two ago would have been a great topic. Straight or gay may have an opinion, but it leads to discussion of other topics. I think, based on approach and discussion, you can probably pick out who may be gay and who certainly isn't.
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    Feb 16, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    Check to see what underwear he's wearing when changing in the locker room. Chances are if he's changing into Aussie Bum, he's gay. Old man style boxer shorts, usually straight but not 100% guaranteed.icon_lol.gif

    It's a gym, people go to workout.
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    Feb 16, 2013 2:51 PM GMT
    See if they stare at other guys' butts.
    And don't forget to install a camera on your butt so you know who is staring.

    But seriously, you should focus on exercises.
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    Feb 16, 2013 2:51 PM GMT
    I would just be friendly to them..the only way to know someone is to talk to them..I don't know why it seems people want a universal sign of hey I'm a queer..communication gets you answers..just talk about normal shit like a normal person and if he responds then that's a good start that he at least likes you enough to be friendly and if continues to be a regular thing then eventually a sex topic will come up..if he talks about banging chicks I'm guessing hes probably straight.
  • kiwi_nomad

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    Feb 16, 2013 3:12 PM GMT
    in before YCYL
  • Dominican_Gen...

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    Feb 16, 2013 3:17 PM GMT
    Ask him to spot you doing some exercise. Doing so strike some light and trivial conversation, maybe ask how to do better said exercise. If filtracious conversation ensues you have a green light. Otherwise say thanks, ofer to spot him in return if he ever needs it and keep on your marry way.

    Got a cook-you-dinner invitation from some BUILT guy at the gym once... I'm not telling you what came after the dinner icon_evil.gif
  • calibro

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    Feb 16, 2013 4:20 PM GMT
    just join equinox
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    Feb 16, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    Sometimes you just "hello whatcha working on today?"
  • E_84

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    Feb 16, 2013 4:51 PM GMT
    Personally, I find it annoying that others are there for matchmaking and finding their soul mate. Yes, social networking is fine and if you happen to meet someone then great. However, your intention should be your body.


    As for your question, This is one that tends to happen all the time in my gym. Someone wants to meet another in the gym, they go to that person using the machine/cables and ask if they don't mind sharing/taking turns (busy gym periods). Conversation, depending, starts from there.
  • SomeSiciliano...

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    Feb 16, 2013 5:09 PM GMT

    Offer them a spot and subtly put your junk in their face....see how they react.

    If your gym has personal TVs on the cardio machines, see who is watching 'College GameDay' and who is watching 'Real Housewives of ________'. icon_lol.gificon_biggrin.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 16, 2013 5:14 PM GMT
    I agree that the gym should be gay/straight neutral but it is true that we have the rest periods between sets that you have to do something with your eyes and looking at guys is naturally going to be part of it. If someone interesting looks back, just strike up a conversation that is sex neutral. And not slowing down their workout. Be gym friends first. You can figure out the rest later.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Feb 16, 2013 5:26 PM GMT
    What do some of you guys go to the gym foricon_question.gif To work out and build up your physique or to jump into some male bodybuilders pants.
  • KarlosSuave

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    Feb 16, 2013 5:27 PM GMT
    Can you spot me? Usually works for me
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    Feb 16, 2013 5:29 PM GMT
    Roguewave said
    MuscleComeBack saidAnyone giving you advice on how to do that is ...oh never mind. Just ask 'wanna fuck?' Then duck and go look for another gym, repeat, and end up working out at home because you've been kicked out if every serious gym. Then go on Grindr and invites guys over to work out, and avoid the anxiety of wondering (provided your jaw isn't wired shut)

    Dies anybody lift because they want to lift? Anybody?


    Well said lol


    yeah seriously.....+1
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    Feb 16, 2013 6:20 PM GMT
    roadbikeRob saidWhat do some of you guys go to the gym foricon_question.gif To work out and build up your physique or to jump into some male bodybuilders pants.


    You know, it's not like it's impossible to check out/socialize with other people without compromising your workout. The human mind is an amazing thing...

    These critiques would theoretically be every bit as relevant if the OP were asking about meeting platonic friends at the gym but, I suspect, he would not get the same disdainful replies...

    HndsmKansan saidI'd pick a topic that makes sense to discuss... the "Superbowl" a week or two ago would have been a great topic. Straight or gay may have an opinion, but it leads to discussion of other topics. I think, based on approach and discussion, you can probably pick out who may be gay and who certainly isn't.


    Great example. If he puts finger quotes around the Super Bowl he's probably gay icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 16, 2013 6:27 PM GMT
    CFL_Oakland said if the OP were asking about meeting platonic friends at the gym but, I suspect, he would not get the same disdainful replies...


    Don't bet on it icon_biggrin.gif
  • stratavos

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    Feb 16, 2013 6:39 PM GMT
    JimiB saidSometimes you just "hello whatcha working on today?"


    *nod* if making friends at the gym who can and will help you with your workout (and you theirs) is a priority for you ;)
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    Feb 16, 2013 7:01 PM GMT
    Thanks to those who left real response. To those who posted nothing but complain about the thread topic, thanks for bumping the thread up. icon_smile.gif

    It's ironic that the ones hating, they look like they need more gym time. XD. Also, on the other side, those who gave helpful responses sound that they have more fun at their gyms
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