How do you deal with heartache?

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    Feb 17, 2013 5:17 AM GMT
    Most of us had our heart broken and we can all relate to the pain one feels when that happen, but what to do to ease the pain? what did you do to get over your ex boyfriend/husband?


    how long has it been since you broke up ? and do you still miss him?
  • LEANDRO_NJ

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    Feb 17, 2013 5:24 AM GMT
    butterwoth saidMost of us had our heart broken and we can all relate to the pain one feels when that happen, but what to do to ease the pain? what did you do to get over your ex boyfriend/husband?




    You don't and probably never will let go off the pain!? first of all I don't think when someone or something makes you feel so emotional, that this is not such a bad thing or painful for that matter! perhaps temporarily but in the long run experiences such as these WILL make you a much happier person, trust me!!.real everlasting happiness is not the one that brings a smile to your face, but the kind that makes you a better person for it!
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    Feb 17, 2013 1:32 PM GMT
    I just kept myself occupied and tried not to do some stupid shit that reminded me of my relationship....like watch a chick flick or go to bars/clubs looking for a rebound fuck. You'll heal eventually. It takes time and that time is subjective.
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 17, 2013 1:35 PM GMT
    I would agree with some of whats been said.... I do think you need to work through it.... come to a conclusion, but once you have, you need to move forward and focus on your future. Don't focus on mistakes or "should have done's" What is... is.. you need to accept it and move along.
  • Lincsbear

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    Feb 17, 2013 9:41 PM GMT
    There`s no easy answer to heartache. You have to get on with your life and do what you have to/enjoy doing.

    At some point you`ll stop hurting and move on.
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    Feb 17, 2013 9:42 PM GMT
    I generally walk away =/
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    Feb 18, 2013 3:19 PM GMT
    My last break up was in 2010 after three years together:

    -I accepted that I wasn't that special. He cheated on me, and he would've cheated on anyone he was with. There is nothing special or different about me or my circumstance.

    -I allowed time to mourn the loss of something/someone special. I treated him like a possession just as much as he treated me like a possession. I hadn't been there for three years if I wasn't getting something out of it.

    -I allowed myself to be angry. How I dealt with the anger was another story because in the beginning I didn't deal with it very well.

    -I stopped blaming him but started asking myself, "Why are you attracted to unhealthy relationships?" Then the slow process of forgiving myself could start, and I could focus on the #1 relationship: Me.
  • Zinc

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    Feb 18, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    Aspirin.
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    Feb 18, 2013 3:35 PM GMT
    I learned to breathe.
  • NJVetteGuy77

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    Feb 18, 2013 3:36 PM GMT
    Watch a lot of episodes of The Mary Tyler Moore Show, especially the Rhoda years.
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    Feb 19, 2013 4:07 AM GMT
    Love yourself.

    A lesson hard to understand, but really simple once you get the hang of it.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 19, 2013 4:10 AM GMT
    I became single on Black Friday 2012. I got over it by surrounding myself with friends and family. Also picked up extra shifts at work. It helped pass the time so I didn't have time to think about it.
  • Doodles

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    Feb 19, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    Definitely agree with everyone here. I just went and did things to keep myself more occupied. Though I think blogging may help or talking about it to some friends would help initially (just dont go overboard and make it something you bring up in every conversation though).
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    Feb 19, 2013 6:52 AM GMT
    I started to take natural anxiety pills that helps with the pressure inside my chest, without the constant reminder I can now focus and think straight...
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    Feb 19, 2013 6:55 AM GMT
    Advil.
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    Feb 19, 2013 6:55 AM GMT
    Zinc saidAspirin.


    dammit I was gonna post a bottle of Bayer as my response to this thread icon_confused.gif
  • ATLANTIS7

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    Feb 19, 2013 6:56 AM GMT
    Time heals and that's it.
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    Feb 19, 2013 7:06 AM GMT
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    Feb 19, 2013 7:12 AM GMT
    Emo music.

    But I listen to that when I'm happy too.
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    Feb 19, 2013 7:15 AM GMT
    Temporary solution : sleep & doing activities to distract myself like movies, meeting friends etc.,.

    Permanent solution: forget about it(because, no matter how hard or how loud you cry, at the end you'll realize that you can't change the past and only nothing but tears are left with us!)
    & find some one else....


    I agree that it's easy said than done, but I also agree that it is inevitable!
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    Feb 19, 2013 7:17 AM GMT
    I went thru it for 5 months or so after dating for 7 months. When you find you love someone and they don't love you back it really hurts. I saw him at the gym and couldn't face him or want to. Luckily I was off and running to swim.
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    Feb 19, 2013 7:17 AM GMT
    I twerk it all away.
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    Feb 19, 2013 7:38 AM GMT
    Invest in yourself.

    Judging by your story from the other thread, this heartache you're experiencing will be a longggg one. Lots of alone time... lot's of what if's... lot's of everything. (Just don't go berserk and avoid being a slut.) All of these thoughts and feelings are normal. However, never be "against yourself" and hate yourself about the breakup. You must be "for yourself," always. Yourself is the most important person you got.

    Since your thoughts and feelings are all over the place right now, your physical state is the easiest to control at the moment. I'd suggest taking a dance class and start learning a new sport or activity. Learning an activity that you enjoy will slowly tap on your feelings and thoughts to give their focus back to yourself.

    Him staying was never fully under your control. What you can control is you being "for yourself." So learn that activity, finish that interior design project that you have, and each time you accomplish a goal, you're basically being "for yourself."

    Invest in yourself.
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    Feb 19, 2013 7:43 AM GMT
    aidenMaximus saidInvest in yourself.

    Judging by your story from the other thread, this heartache you're experiencing will be a longggg one. Lots of alone time... lot's of what if's... lot's of everything. (Just don't go berserk and avoid being a slut.) All of these thoughts and feelings are normal. However, never be "against yourself" and hate yourself about the breakup. You must be "for yourself," always. Yourself is the most important person you got.

    Since your thoughts and feelings are all over the place right now, your physical state is the easiest to control at the moment. I'd suggest taking a dance class and start learning a new sport or activity. Learning an activity that you enjoy will slowly tap on your feelings and thoughts to give their focus back to yourself.

    Him staying was never fully under your control. What you can control is you being "for yourself." So learn that activity, finish that interior design project that you have, and each time you accomplish a goal, you're basically being "for yourself."

    Invest in yourself.


    thanks....my schedule went from school and work to school work gym, violin class, italian class so I wont have time to think about it..as often...


    maybe being a slut wouldn't be so bad...sluts don't fall in love..


    but yeah...thanks icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 19, 2013 7:47 AM GMT
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