How important is anal sex for you?

  • immortality

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    Feb 17, 2013 9:45 AM GMT
    Let's suppose that you fall in love with someone. And he falls in love with you. But he doesn't like anal sex. He only likes kissing, oral sex and rubbing. In this case, do you want to make a relationship with him? How important is anal sex for you?
  • rnch

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    Feb 17, 2013 2:49 PM GMT
    As Always, it would depend on the other guy.
  • GraffitiMySou...

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    Feb 17, 2013 3:03 PM GMT
    It's essential. I could do without oral sex though.
  • wild_sky360

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    Feb 19, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
    My longest relationship was with said, type of guy. We found plenty of alternatives that pleased him. There are frottage techniques that are just as pleasurable for a top; a little less so for the bottom if he's the one into anal. I call it taint fucking

    In my current relationship we do this regularly as it's much more spontaneous when spooning leads to more passion. And it often leads to anal sex even though neither of us wanted to bother with it initially. Another plus as a top, I can ban away with abandon, rather than the more gentle restraint required.

    I'd rather have the entire palette of sexual expression to choose from, but there are mutually satisfying alternatives.
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    Feb 20, 2013 5:57 AM GMT
    I demand lengthy flip-fucking sessions in a relationship. Love is purely optional.
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    Feb 20, 2013 6:02 AM GMT
    sex is as important as the chemistry and connection...
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    Feb 20, 2013 6:11 AM GMT
    It wouldn't bother me one bit! Anal sex isn't as important to me as creativity is! icon_biggrin.gif
  • atlscruff

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    Feb 20, 2013 6:47 AM GMT
    I've never had a relationship just hookups unfortunately. Guys don't ever seem to spend the time, from my own experience of course (or lack thereof lol), to show you how to really enjoy anal sex. For me topping is uncomfortable unless I'm laying on my back. Could be from being 6'3" and the angle is just not going to work? Bottoming hurt every single time so I haven't done that in 15 years. I don't really hookup a lot. Kinda out of the loop on how guys do that unless online. I'm definitely open to new experiences or changing how I've done things in the past...when I get the chance again that is. Sounds like I'm unfortunately in the minority on this one.
  • wild_sky360

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    Feb 21, 2013 11:05 PM GMT
    atlscruff saidI've never had a relationship just hookups unfortunately. Guys don't ever seem to spend the time, from my own experience of course (or lack thereof lol), to show you how to really enjoy anal sex. For me topping is uncomfortable unless I'm laying on my back. Could be from being 6'3" and the angle is just not going to work? Bottoming hurt every single time so I haven't done that in 15 years. I don't really hookup a lot. Kinda out of the loop on how guys do that unless online. I'm definitely open to new experiences or changing how I've done things in the past...when I get the chance again that is. Sounds like I'm unfortunately in the minority on this one.


    Laying on your back is perfect for a lot of guys who would like to have some control. They can ride you exactly how they like it for a quick orgasm, with your face as the eye candy...and targeticon_wink.gif Tempting to watch, but you better close your eyes when he says he's cumming. Personally, it has to be quick because I have trouble staying hard in this passive position. I need to be more in control. You might try bottoming this way yourself. I've had my most intense orgasms riding like this.

    As for taking the time, you need a patient top, preferably one who enjoys rimming. And face down, for either of you, should eliminate issues related to height. It takes a lot of concentration to top someone who is inexperienced or just not built to take it fast or hard. When I top my boy, it's all about him most of the time. I enjoy giving him pleasure, but often forgo an orgasm myself. To go so slow and long, I kinda have to switch that thought off and it doesn't always bounce back after he cums. I don't imagine a one nighter being that generous or capable a lover. There is just too much urgency.
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    Feb 24, 2013 5:41 PM GMT
    No anal for me , getting or receiving , but i always am upfront with my date .
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    Feb 28, 2013 12:32 AM GMT
    I need a guy inside me, I'll just be patient, slow and walk him through it, but he has to be put out like we were in a prison flick.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 01, 2013 5:59 PM GMT
    pre-date interviews take care of this problem especially online.

    0. Do you have pics (face/body/cock)?

    1. Are you a bottom or at least verse?
    2. have you been tested lately?
    3. What's your penis like? And are you cut/uncut?
    4. Are you experienced?
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    Apr 06, 2013 7:19 PM GMT
    Chemistry and compromise should dictate how a couple works these things out, in my humble opinion. If one or both are lacking, the relationship is going to be a challenge.
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    Apr 06, 2013 7:59 PM GMT
    Yes, this can be an issue. I'm not into anal sex personally, top or bottom. I'd much rather top, but it's not a turn on for me. I'm all about oral and jo. This can certainly be a challenge when trying to find a partner who wants and needs more. Glad I'm not the only one though!
  • Raiju

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    Apr 06, 2013 8:08 PM GMT
    Being a bottom, it kind of makes things a bit more complicated. However, if I truly had feelings for the guy, I highly doubt it would be a problem.
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    Apr 11, 2013 8:38 PM GMT
    immortality saidLet's suppose that you fall in love with someone. And he falls in love with you. But he doesn't like anal sex. He only likes kissing, oral sex and rubbing. In this case, do you want to make a relationship with him? How important is anal sex for you?


    Not at all, I'd be the guy you're talking about.
  • gwuinsf

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    Apr 11, 2013 9:03 PM GMT
    immortality saidLet's suppose that you fall in love with someone. And he falls in love with you.


    I think that this part is so rare that I'd do what I could to make it work.

    I used to be someone who didn't like anal sex until I had a few partners that really were patient with me and guided me through it. And now I really enjoy it. So I'd like to think that things can change.