atlscruff saidI've never had a relationship just hookups unfortunately. Guys don't ever seem to spend the time, from my own experience of course (or lack thereof lol), to show you how to really enjoy anal sex. For me topping is uncomfortable unless I'm laying on my back. Could be from being 6'3" and the angle is just not going to work? Bottoming hurt every single time so I haven't done that in 15 years. I don't really hookup a lot. Kinda out of the loop on how guys do that unless online. I'm definitely open to new experiences or changing how I've done things in the past...when I get the chance again that is. Sounds like I'm unfortunately in the minority on this one.
Laying on your back is perfect for a lot of guys who would like to have some control. They can ride you exactly
how they like it for a quick orgasm, with your face as the eye candy...and target
Tempting to watch, but you better close your eyes when he says he's cumming. Personally, it has to be quick because I have trouble staying hard in this passive position. I need to be more in control. You might try bottoming this way yourself. I've had my most intense orgasms riding like this.
As for taking the time, you need a patient top, preferably one who enjoys rimming. And face down, for either of you, should eliminate issues related to height. It takes a lot of concentration to top someone who is inexperienced or just not built to take it fast or hard. When I top my boy, it's all about him most of the time. I enjoy giving him pleasure, but often forgo an orgasm myself. To go so slow and long, I kinda have to switch that thought off and it doesn't always bounce back after he cums. I don't imagine a one nighter being that generous or capable a lover. There is just too much urgency.