InterFACIAL dating

  • highforthis

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    Feb 17, 2013 5:54 PM GMT
    Even the bonking on a ping pong table part doesn't happen much in the gay world it seems lol

    "People dating above their looks: the last relationship taboo?"
    -The Globe and Mail

    "...Following the latest episode of Lena Dunham’s cultural pot-stirrer Girls, critics couldn’t seem to digest that a girl like Hannah, dimpled and ghost-pale, would ever score a good-looking, high-status male like Dr. Joshua...

    Poor Hannah would be attractive enough for a fling, but the handsome doctor would probably marry a beautiful and successful woman when he does settle down. Most men want to marry eventually, and spouses generally match on beauty, and on occupational status, income and education,” says Elizabeth McClintock, an assistant professor of sociology at the University of Notre Dame, who looks at attractiveness and mate choice.

    The disheartening suggestion that Hannah was attractive enough to bonk on a ping-pong table, but not hot enough to turn into wifey, is echoed by McClintock’s recently published findings, which found very physically attractive young women were more likely to commandeer committed relationships than engage in sexual flings. The findings, which looked at 21-year-olds from a longitudinal survey of 20,000 American respondents, also found that very attractive women were also more likely to postpone sex until after the first week of meeting a partner. Just as good looks can help secure status and money, female attractiveness apparently allows more control within romantic liaisons...


    Rest of article: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/interfacial-relationships-the-last-taboo/article8707243/?cmpid=rss1
  • PR_GMR

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    Feb 17, 2013 5:58 PM GMT
    I think it does happen in the gay world. In my experience, men see some partners as boyfriends and others as fuckbuddies, depending on looks. I had a fuckbuddy once who pretty much said that I wasn't good-looking enough to be his boyfriend. There are many (selfish, assholeish) men like him out there.
  • highforthis

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    Feb 17, 2013 6:01 PM GMT
    Interesting, because I always assume that my eventual boyfriend will be less attractive than any hypothetical fuck buddies, because from the boyfriend I'd want the complete package personality-wise hence would sacrifice some looks haha.
  • Angelix90

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    Feb 17, 2013 6:17 PM GMT
    I don't think looks alone is enough to become a boyfriend material. For the first few weeks, I might be dazed by his handsome face and hot body but after a while, I'll get bored if he's uninteresting and empty as a rock.
  • highforthis

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    Feb 18, 2013 4:55 AM GMT
    Angelix90 saidI don't think looks alone is enough to become a boyfriend material..


    Haha, you think?
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    Feb 18, 2013 9:25 PM GMT
    Well, realjock is all about claiming to "date for their personality" or "date all races", while hotlisting "all-american" blonds.
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    Feb 18, 2013 9:29 PM GMT
    hungrykittenz saidWell, realjock is all about claiming to "date for their personality" or "date all races", while hotlisting "all-american" blonds.

    Though I tend to agree with you on that statement, not all of us are like that. My overall preference is a nice Asian guy.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 18, 2013 9:38 PM GMT
    My college professor once stated something to the effect that people think they are going to get a long last relationship from someone who might not be as good looking as them, but the truth is it doesn't have any sort of legitimacy, because people are always going to he who they are not matter what they look like. I will have to say that 3 of my previous relationships were definitely a few grades below me in the looks department and I have to tend to agree with the professor to some extent ... a less better looking person has just as much potential as any one else for being a fucking asshole. So if you have to take the chance, you may as well take it was someone good looking. There was this guy I was acquainted with, and he was really good looking and he married a God awful muther fucking ugly ass looking woman because he thought she would be true to him. She cheated on him with some other ugly ass. So don't expect that by lowering your standards you will get someone with a better personality. It's just not true. Maybe the ugly inside them is what made the ugly outside them. And ugly people don't just want to be ugly on their own, they want to do everything they can to drag you down to their level of ugly too ... just say no.
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    Feb 18, 2013 9:55 PM GMT
    I was told the opposite...

    Because attractive people tend to have it easier in life, it is harder for them to develop empathy. Of course, less attractive people have more insecurities and maybe baggage, so it depends on what is important in the personality one is looking for.
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    Feb 18, 2013 9:58 PM GMT
    hungrykittenz saidI was told the opposite...

    Because attractive people tend to have it easier in life, it is harder for them to develop empathy. Of course, less attractive people have more insecurities and maybe baggage, so it depends on what is important in the personality one is looking for.

    So basically, you have a pretty easy life then?

    See what I did there?
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    Feb 18, 2013 10:04 PM GMT
    I would if I was straight, but I'm not, so I'm in the unique situation of being both hot and emphathetic
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    Feb 18, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    I meant in the gay community you have it easy. It was a failed attempt to give a compliment, don't worry.
  • Sincityfan

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    Feb 18, 2013 10:33 PM GMT
    Gay men dont date they just fuck
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    Feb 18, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    blasiankid saidI meant in the gay community you have it easy. It was a failed attempt to give a compliment, don't worry.


    I already saw what you did there, and was being facetious. I don't have it easy in the gay community tho, that's for sure.
  • stratavos

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    Feb 18, 2013 10:43 PM GMT
    blasiankid said
    hungrykittenz saidWell, realjock is all about claiming to "date for their personality" or "date all races", while hotlisting "all-american" blonds.

    Though I tend to agree with you on that statement, not all of us are like that. My overall preference is a nice Asian guy.


    We all have our tastes. There's the ideal world and the real one.

    edit: there was a TED talk from a model about how even those who are supposedly "pretty" have so much that they worry about....

    I know it's around here somewhere
    >.<;
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    Feb 18, 2013 10:43 PM GMT
    hungrykittenz said
    blasiankid saidI meant in the gay community you have it easy. It was a failed attempt to give a compliment, don't worry.


    I already saw what you did there, and was being facetious. I don't have it easy in the gay community tho, that's for sure.

    That's REALLY hard to believe. You look like you could have any guy you want.
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    Feb 18, 2013 10:43 PM GMT
    Sincityfan saidGay men dont date they just fuck

    LMAO shut up haha
  • MadeinMich

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    Feb 18, 2013 11:01 PM GMT
    highforthis saidInteresting, because I always assume that my eventual boyfriend will be less attractive than any hypothetical fuck buddies, because from the boyfriend I'd want the complete package personality-wise hence would sacrifice some looks haha.


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    I totally agree.
  • MadeinMich

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    Feb 18, 2013 11:07 PM GMT
    highforthis saidEven the bonking on a ping pong table part doesn't happen much in the gay world it seems lol


    "...Following the latest episode of Lena Dunham’s cultural pot-stirrer Girls, critics couldn’t seem to digest that a girl like Hannah, dimpled and ghost-pale, would ever score a good-looking, high-status male like Dr. Joshua...



    Rest of article: http://www.theglobeandmail.com/life/interfacial-relationships-the-last-taboo/article8707243/?cmpid=rss1


    Getting a little bit off topic here, I don't understand why this fat, ugly bitch always writes parts for herself in this show where she gets to fuck cute/hot guys. I've never seen this in real life. Typically a chubby chic hooks up with or dates other chubby/fat dudes. Regardless of how "interesting" their personality is.
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    Feb 18, 2013 11:10 PM GMT
    Which reminds me... have you seen a movie by judd apatow where the fat guy with the white afro DOESN'T get to bang a hot chick?
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    Feb 18, 2013 11:20 PM GMT
    Sincityfan saidGay men dont date they just fuck

    How romantic. You're a real catch.
  • Adozark

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    Feb 19, 2013 12:38 AM GMT
    I have never seen the show the article author is talk about but I can get the point of it.

    I agree, I have noticed that for the most part, high status men, will look for a girlfriend who they think is high status (which for women, is often based on looks). Any man who is being honest will 99% of the time list looks as the main criteria of the date worthiness of a women.

    Men want women who heighten their status, and a beautiful women does that. If you see a man with a beautiful women on his arm, weather consciously or not, you see him as a higher status than if he did not.

    If you see him with an ugly women, you will think that he must not have the status (money, power, looks, or some combination) to attract a more attractive girlfriend. I don't think it is about status as much for gay men, (for the most part, because homosexuality is not a status booster in our culture) so it does not serve that purpose.

    I have a theory that men are more comfortable being very direct about their lack of attraction to a man who is coming onto them. More so than they would be to a women. They feel a greater need with women to take the "let her down easy" approach because we view women as the more emotional and insecure sex.

    So it's not always that gay men are more self absorbed, they just are more forward about the importance of looks to them, because they feel that other men can handle the real truth because they are "men".


    My bad about the thesis paper. lol
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    Feb 19, 2013 12:57 AM GMT
    hungrykittenz saidI was told the opposite...

    Because attractive people tend to have it easier in life, it is harder for them to develop empathy. Of course, less attractive people have more insecurities and maybe baggage, so it depends on what is important in the personality one is looking for.


    If you think less attractive people has more insecurities and maybe baggage, talk to Halle Berry. icon_wink.gif
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    Feb 19, 2013 1:13 AM GMT
    Sincityfan saidGay men dont date they just fuck
    Are you calling your boss a faggot? Cause I'm pretty sure that if you're not self-employed, your boss fucks you every chance he gets.