Good looks

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    Oct 05, 2008 6:25 AM GMT
    There are alot of handsome good looking men on this site as well as other gay sites. My wondering eyes always are attracted to the guys that look hot. My question is to the the guys that consider themselves HOT, GQ Good Looking, Handsome, or have something going physically. How far do your good looks get you before you realize that your looks alone is not what will sustain a relationship after the first date, the first week, the first month, a year, or a lifetime? Guys that are attractive always get my attention, but the ol' saying is true: You can't judge a book by it's cover. Any thoughts?
  • chitown_mofo

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    Oct 05, 2008 6:50 AM GMT
    I always like to look at a guy i find attractive and then mentally visualize them 25 lbs heavier with less hair and another 10 yrs on their face. If i'm really turned off then I know I prob just like him for his looks. But if theres more to it than a physical attraction, then usually I'll think the mental image is kinda cute, although somewhat less boner-inducing...
  • GQjock

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    Oct 05, 2008 9:04 AM GMT
    It's a Cliche' that seems funny right now
    but it's true to some extent We've all heard the term

    Ah... he's a Monet
    A great looking man who looks good from far away
    but when you get up close? icon_confused.gif Not so much

    There are SO many guys ... great to look at
    but when you talk to them? It's a huge disappointment
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    Oct 05, 2008 9:51 AM GMT
    uhmmm if i dont find a guy physically attractive but still he is a nice person, im gonna keep him as a very good friend but not more than that since the alternative is just gonna make me loose him completely(some guys would understand what i mean by this).

    If I find him attractive but still the guy is an "idiot" i loose the interest for him right away.

    If the guy is attractive and he doesnt think he is the center of the universe and I feel he likes me as well and we can have a nice conversation together and smile...well im still waitin for that to happen, so far the "hot guys" ive met turned to be "idiots".
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    Oct 05, 2008 10:41 AM GMT
    GQjock said

    There are SO many guys ... great to look at
    but when you talk to them? It's a huge disappointment


    Hehe. So true.

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    Oct 05, 2008 4:46 PM GMT
    What's attractive to one may not be to another. I personally stay away from guys/profiles who state that they're VGL, hot or whatever; just comes across as stuck on oneself and not in a good way. Beauty should always be left up to the one looking, however we should all have pride in ourselves and know what kind of person we are. A pretty face/a hot bod will always get the immediate attention and sometimes MORE however if that is ALL that person is about, nothing is lasting more than a FUCK!! I get my share of compliments and it's great and MUCH appreciated, however I will NEVER go as far as to assume I'm anything more than a Joe Schmoe!!!!



    ps....Don't you hate the hot, masculine appearing guy that when he speaks that purse falls out of his mouth??? SO disappointing!!!
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Oct 05, 2008 5:59 PM GMT
    I don't think it really matters how "good looking" some may think you are, because there will always be others who, for whatever reason, just don't find you attractive. Beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder, and what is hot to some, just doesn't do a thing for others. Granted, sometimes looks can get you in the door, but it takes a great deal more than just looks to keep you in the room.
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    Oct 05, 2008 6:05 PM GMT
    Some guys have found me attractive. Sometimes I see their point and sometimes I don't. I am not my "type". Guys I find attractive are eccentric, intelligent, considerate, have strong self-esteem and are comfortable in their own skin. I have rarely been tempted to sleep with or date a really "hot" guy. The sexual fireworks will eventually wear off and then you will have to work harder to find other things about the guy that attract you.

    So to answer your question, looks will get you one, maybe two dates. If the sex is great then maybe more. But if other attributes are not there then the relationship will die a natural death.
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    Oct 05, 2008 6:17 PM GMT
    My two cents on the matter...in terms of a relationship, looks can only go so far. Granted, the initial basis for any relationship is physical attraction (you dont see a guy in a club and go "OMG...look at the size of his brains") but after a while, no matter how gorgeous your partner is, the fact of the matter is that you will get used to looking at that gorgeous face/body all the time and after a while, pure physical attraction wont sustain the relationship alone. If there isnt anything more to sustain the relationship then (at least from my experience), the relationship becomes more of a burden and the partners good looks become more of a nuisance than anything else. For some, this realization comes sooner and for others, later but eventually, one needs something beyond a pretty face to offer to a relationship in order to make it work. There's no real set time though....it just happens when it happens.
  • vince_the_cyc...

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    Oct 05, 2008 7:14 PM GMT
    Hiker,

    Let me know if I'm reading your question wrong, but your perception seems a bit slanted... as if it's a negative thing to consider oneself attractive, and that all good looking guys hope to coast through relationships based on solely on their appearance. These are unfair, inaccurate stereotypes.

    In my experience appearance and personality rarely show any type of correlation.

    Good looks might spark an initial attraction, but few guys I know (good looking or otherwise) actually expect their appearance to serve as the foundation for a relationship.
  • pierced

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    Oct 05, 2008 7:31 PM GMT
    vince_in_chicago saidHiker,

    Let me know if I'm reading your question wrong, but your perception seems a bit slanted... as if it's a negative thing to consider oneself attractive, and that all good looking guys hope to coast through relationships based on solely on their appearance. These are unfair, inaccurate stereotypes.

    In my experience appearance and personality rarely show any type of correlation.

    Good looks might spark an initial attraction, but few guys I know (good looking or otherwise) actually expect their appearance to serve as the foundation for a relationship.


    This guy that said the above is absolutely right. Good looks, nice body, etc. will only go so far. Intelligence, good personality, sense of humor, among other things are what really make an individual attractive to me. I get hit on quite often and told "I'm hot;" from lots of guys and my initial reaction is thanks for the complement but I'm a lot more than what appears on the surface. Nature was kind to me and I've worked hard to get and keep my body in shape so I know that helps, but its really whats on the inside that counts especially when it comes to your relationships and friends.
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    Oct 05, 2008 7:34 PM GMT
    Appearance may be the spark, but it takes a lot more to keep the fire going.
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    Oct 05, 2008 7:52 PM GMT
    A kind heart and a kind face, that is what I want to see the rest of my life. Loving-Kindness never grows old or becomes ugly.
  • silverfox

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    Oct 05, 2008 9:25 PM GMT
    I find that the guys who I am most attractive to are guys who may look great now...but may not have looked so hot when they were younger. Usually a guy like that is humble and doesn't take his good looks for granted.
  • GQjock

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    Oct 05, 2008 9:57 PM GMT
    Errrmmm... I might be goin' out on a bit of a limb here ...

    but I don't think a lot of you guys sayin' that ...
    oh, looks don't mean a thing to me

    Me thinks you may be atemptin' to spread a falsehood or two icon_wink.gif
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    Oct 05, 2008 9:59 PM GMT
    I think this thread is a bit strange when you read the original poster's profile which is all about how much he appreciates abs, ripped bodies and muscle marys. Not bein a bitch or anything but...