I need some critical advice on dating/relationship...

  • Matt2004

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    Feb 19, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    I always ended up dating guys that are masculine and don't express their feelings. I love MASCULINE GUYS but the side effects is the expressing their feelings that ends up one day they aren't interested and stop talking and text. I do have a flaw...I hate being ignored within 24 hours if I don't hear from you I just think you not interested and that usually happen so I end up being anal whenever a guy don't text or call...I automatically thinks he isn't interested and I go into psychic mode and texting and calling (a couple times than end the dating/relationship that usually LAST FOR A MONTH)

    My question...how can i have a relationship that last more than a month?
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    Feb 19, 2013 2:26 AM GMT
    Dude, if you have a psychic mode, why bother texting or calling at all, just use your psychic mode and track him down and watch over him with your psychic abilities, that's what I'd do.
    Damn I wish I had psychic abilities. I am old school, I have to text to bother my lover and most of the time he tells me how he "don't even have no phone and shit," which is, of course true, so I have been texting some complete stranger, which is neither here nor there.
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    Feb 19, 2013 2:51 AM GMT
    Matt2004 saidMy question...how can i have a relationship that last more than a month?

    Tantric texting. You must cum 5 times to every one text.
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    Feb 19, 2013 3:49 AM GMT
    Emotionally distant does not equal masculine. If you are searching for emotionally distant men, maybe the problem's in you...?
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    Feb 19, 2013 4:08 AM GMT
    ccclaw saidEmotionally distant does not equal masculine. If you are searching for emotionally distant men, maybe the problem's in you...?

    *Drops the mic and walks away. Boom.
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    Feb 19, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    huhwhat said
    ccclaw saidEmotionally distant does not equal masculine. If you are searching for emotionally distant men, maybe the problem's in you...?

    *Drops the mic and walks away. Boom.


    ^Yep that.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 19, 2013 4:19 AM GMT
    Something that is hard to undo is something that has been imprinted into how the family works in this world, and FOR THE MOST PART, it is that men do not talk about their feelings.

    I had this very same issue with my past relationship. It was such a struggle to get my boyfriend at the time to open up. And when I talked about the importance of talking about stuff, he just wouldn't get it. Even when he did manage to talk about his feelings, he had such a hard time expressing it correctly.


    For example he told me that he felt his parents could care less what he did and that they only talk to him because they are his son, and he feels more like a tenant at their house than a son.

    But when I met them and started visiting often, it was the complete opposite. they were like any other parent. They loved him and bombard him with questions every ten minutes like any other parent does.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 19, 2013 4:20 AM GMT
    If you have to really work to get someone to open up about their feelings, then it might be a waste of time. At least for me I am tired of wasting my own time to get people to open up about their feelings with me.
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    Feb 19, 2013 6:07 AM GMT
    Most men are afraid to be emotional
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    Feb 19, 2013 8:12 AM GMT
    MidwesternKid said It was such a struggle to get my boyfriend at the time to open up. And when I talked about the importance of talking about stuff, he just wouldn't get it.


    I don't believe in words... Research shows that words are only 7% of communication. Words can only communicate so little. One's actions speak for himself.

    If he doesn't give you words, but cuddles you in silence each night -- that was him communicating (hope you were paying attention). If he neither gives you words nor cuddles/touches you affectionately -- that was him being distant.