Prostate stimulation

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    Feb 19, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    So I like to bottom for my partner cause I know he likes to get off. Also, I like the feeling of the sphincter getting stretched, however, I don't get any pleasure from my prostate that I can tell. Now I've gone down on myself to massage it and still nothing and no time when bottoming have I noticed an intense pleasure that feels anything like cumming.
    I read that it may take time to warm up to sensations, just like with masturbation the first couple times. I have just kind of decided I have an inactive prostate in that department, but I still cum large and shoot far so that is why I am confused. Perhaps mine is offset or further up?

    Anyone experience anything like this?
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    Feb 19, 2013 9:12 PM GMT
    Tskunt saidSo I like to bottom for my partner cause I know he likes to get off. Also, I like the feeling of the sphincter getting stretched, however, I don't get any pleasure from my prostate that I can tell. Now I've gone down on myself to massage it and still nothing and no time when bottoming have I noticed an intense pleasure that feels anything like cumming.
    I read that it may take time to warm up to sensations, just like with masturbation the first couple times. I have just kind of decided I have an inactive prostate in that department, but I still cum large and shoot far so that is why I am confused. Perhaps mine is offset or further up?

    Anyone experience anything like this?

    Yes, my prostate was never very sexually responsive to stimulation. Some men are like that. Other guys can cum just from having it massaged. Keep pleasing your partner, maybe one day you'll develop greater sensitivity. Especially as any residual discomfort originating in your sphincter begins to fade, which may still be masking more subtle pleasures in your prostate.
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    Feb 19, 2013 9:39 PM GMT
    Relaxation isn't masking anything. I relax just fine, no pain except if he enters a bit too fast on occasion at the start.
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    Feb 19, 2013 11:27 PM GMT
    Tskunt saidRelaxation isn't masking anything. I relax just fine, no pain except if he enters a bit too fast on occasion at the start.

    Then you may have a prostate that doesn't produce pleasurable sensations when stimulated. Some men are like that. You can also try different positions, to get him to hit your prostate from a different angle. Doggie, side spoon, missionary, straddling him facing forward or away - try them all.
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    Feb 19, 2013 11:42 PM GMT
    Oh I've been busy trying it out. I will keep trying I guess. I explore on my own and cannot stimulate a response either. Is there a way to train the body to allow it or perhaps I have some kind of prostate health related issue? Maybe I need to eat food that have nutrients to support the prostate?
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    Feb 19, 2013 11:56 PM GMT
    Tskunt saidOh I've been busy trying it out. I will keep trying I guess. I explore on my own and cannot stimulate a response either. Is there a way to train the body to allow it or perhaps I have some kind of prostate health related issue? Maybe I need to eat food that have nutrients to support the prostate?

    You're a bit young for prostate health problems. Have you ever had a urinary tract infection? It's possible to develop prostatitis, though in that case the response to stimulation may be pain (I had that condition in my 20s).

    If you really want to explore all possibilities, have a doctor do a DRE (digital rectal exam) to check for tenderness, swelling and hardness. Also have your PSA checked. The doctor may also "milk" your prostate to produce a discharge from your penis that will be cultured, and examined under a microscope. They may also have you provide an ejaculate sample for lab testing. All that was done to me.

    But it's more likely that you simply have a prostate that isn't naturally sensitive to stimulation. They exist.
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    Feb 20, 2013 1:08 AM GMT
    And I just cannot do anything about it?

    Prostate health issues can affect people of all ages.
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    Feb 20, 2013 3:44 AM GMT

    see if you can get one of these to work, by yourself

    http://www.aneros.com/

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    Feb 20, 2013 6:12 AM GMT
    I did read that there is hyper simulators that are used to TRAIN your body to recognize that it is being pleasured, as I said before, similar to when you first start to masturbate.
  • vaiXLY

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    Apr 01, 2013 12:51 AM GMT
    I used to seek out the elusive prostate orgasm myself but, I stopped cuz I shifted gears into the wonderful world of topping (I got a new bf and finally had the opportunity to try topping). I never achieved the prostate orgasm but I share my experiences below. As for you, I don't know about the location of your prostate. I surmise that, yes, prostates are different for every guy but, I don't think the location varies all that much from guy to guy. For a long time, I felt like I couldn't find my prostate because I believed that when I "found" it I would feel an intense pleasure and that never happened. Well, I realized later that I was being silly. I'd been touching it for years haha. In story number 1 that I share below, I believe I started experiencing the "intense pleasure that feels like cumming" because of arousal and... surprise(??) haha

    I've read on a handful of forums in the past where a lot of dudes were confessing their love of this type of orgasm and their stories, so it definitely seems like a real thing. One of my gay friends told me he had an anal orgasm once (not the prostate orgasm) from just the stretching of the ass and all those wonderful feelings. He said it was extremely powerful and centered in his ass and caused by the stretching-stimulating factor (he thinks). He said he ejaculated and that the orgasm was like full-body and it seemed to last longer. He was using fat dildo, like the circumference of a small wrist. He hadn't touched his penis, which he said was rock hard, at all. Also, like my story in number 1, he said it happened extremely soon after insertion and surprised him.

    My experience with prostate orgasm is limited but here it is:

    1) I used to bottom with my ex. He was an upward-curved guy. I was a voracious bottom at the time. When he topped me I would be rock hard the entire time, leaking precum and turned on without touching myself ever. He could plow for minutes upon minutes and I'd be painfully hard forever but with no signs of prostate orgasm, however. The only feeling I'd get is that interesting 'pee' feeling. However, I only felt the magical hands-free anal/prostate orgasm coming one time when we were in a semi-doggie style position, which was surprising since I thought that with an upward-curved penis that missionary would do the trick. It was surprising cuz he had just put his dick in me and started going (no foreplay, we were just really aroused at the time) and I felt the most amazing pleasure building in my ass. It was really powerful and totally took me by surprise. It was a really amazing pleasure, all in my ass. BUT, he came in like 1 minute! That was the only time he ever finished that early (normally he could go for minutes upon minutes). It was quite the unusual fuck session due to all those uncommon occurrences.

    2) ~2 years later, single, I started using an average sized dildo or my fingers to masturbate frequently. I always focus on the ass play for a long time before I start touching my penis. Well, a few times, when using my fingers, I felt a growing tingling pleasure in my ass (and I could tell it was actually some form of prostate pleasure as my prostate is what I'd focus on when fingering myself). It would hover there and remain static indefinitely. But, I never came from it. It felt good though. Then, another time, I was using the dildo for a while, got really worked up and started jacking off. I was reaching the point of no return and I stopped working my dick-just pumped the dildo and the orgasm completed itself just with the ass-feelings. It was like the normal orgasm you have when you're jacking and getting fucked but just the ass half of the orgasm. I ejaculated too but there was no stimulation to the penis so I didn't feel anything from it.

    Well, I hope that gives you some food for thought! I hope you do get the orgasm. Like I said, my experience is limited but my suggestion is to not think about the prostate orgasm a lot. Just get really into the sex or whatever and let the feelings in your ass flood your mind during sex. Good luck!
  • vaiXLY

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    Apr 02, 2013 2:32 PM GMT
    Oh gosh, I forgot to mention. Earlier, I said that I don't think the location varies from man to man but, I do think the sensitivity does vary, as Art said above. This is because, I’ve pursued the p-orgasm extensively and I know when I’m touching my prostate now-I know how to touch my own. In fact, I think it’s easy for everyone to touch it very quickly but it might take you a long time to realize you’ve found it since for some people, like myself, no special sensation occurs when touched. I’ve tried rubbing it gently myself, having it stimulated by someone else (i.e. dick). I’ve tried constant stimulation for 10-15 minutes at both gentle and hard pressures but all I’ve achieved has been slight-to-medium-sized sensations of pleasure. I’ve never had the mind-blowing, full-body hands-free orgasms I’ve read about from others but, I’m not saying that it doesn’t happen for some people. I’m sure you’ve read this before but, the prostate should be in the general vicinity of half a finger’s depth on the upper(inward) side of the ass. I like to think of it as the location of the ‘root’ of the cock. Haha I like to imagine it as such.
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    Apr 03, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    It's happened to me once. I was completely surprised that it happened as I thought it was just a porn myth. I think it was a combo of the top knowing what he was doing and where the right spot was and being in the right physical position. It's probably different for different people but I think you have to experiment with position, including your legs.
  • takashi

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    Apr 20, 2013 3:23 AM GMT
    I am a total bottom and i do not get that prostate orgasm either.
    But there have been times where my partner was pumping me at the right place and there was an intense feeling and I could feel, literally the cum being pushed out of me. I assume this is cuming with no hands. The feelng is not the same as an ejaculation, where there is alot of pleasure. This prostate-cum-pushing was different, not as pleasureable but very intense none the less.
    I do not seek it out or ask my partner to purposely push me at that location.
    Every once in awhile my partner will hit me and he knows where to hit me and it is so intense, its like cuming against your will, or forced ejaculation, actually its not an ejaculation more like forced semen pump out. Strange sensation for me at least.


  • Apr 20, 2013 11:55 AM GMT
    I'm the same way. Although I've never been bottomed, I've had guys use all kinds of toys on me, and I've tried a few on myself, and it just did nothing for me at all.

    HOWEVER, I once had a very memorable hookup where I fucked this guy until he came, and afterwards, he had me lay on my back, and gave me a handjob with one of his fingers up my ass, curled upward and massaging my prostate. I came so hard I almost passed out.
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    Apr 20, 2013 12:27 PM GMT
    takashi saidI am a total bottom and i do not get that prostate orgasm either.
    But there have been times where my partner was pumping me at the right place and there was an intense feeling and I could feel, literally the cum being pushed out of me. I assume this is cuming with no hands. The feelng is not the same as an ejaculation, where there is alot of pleasure. This prostate-cum-pushing was different, not as pleasureable but very intense none the less.
    I do not seek it out or ask my partner to purposely push me at that location.
    Every once in awhile my partner will hit me and he knows where to hit me and it is so intense, its like cuming against your will, or forced ejaculation, actually its not an ejaculation more like forced semen pump out. Strange sensation for me at least.

    The release of semen/cum is not the same as having an orgasm. This can be essentially the same as "prostate milking" that a doctor will do with the finger, when a sample of fluid is needed for lab exam. It's simple pressure to force prostatic fluid to be expressed.

    When I was "milked" by a doctor it actually hurt quite a bit, because I had a prostate infection, the cause for the doctor's action. On the other hand (or finger) many men will become erect during a routine DRE (digital rectal exam) of their prostate, which the doctor expects to happen, and should not be a source of embarrassment.

    It isn't a gay thing, as some straight men fear, but a simple direct stimulus thing. Whether it happens to you in the exam room or the bedroom, or not at all, it's just the way your nerves are wired. Now whether you can develop that response further for greater pleasure I don't know, have read nothing on that. But it wouldn't seem out of the realm of possibility, perhaps involving greater conscious awareness & appreciation of the sensations.
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    Jul 12, 2013 6:46 PM GMT
    I tried auto-stimulation by massaging, in vain, however. My question is, is it natural for it to start up randomly when one's 'happy'?
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    Jul 13, 2013 12:32 PM GMT
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    Looking_to_come_out saidI tried auto-stimulation by massaging, in vain, however. My question is, is it natural for it to start up randomly when one's 'happy'?

    Sadly, I've never felt any kind of intense pleasure, whether I was having sex or while massaging the prostate. I guess this is how it works for some men. You can be completely aroused and all 'happy', yet nothing happens. So, I guess the starting up randomly when you're happy theory doesn't work.

    I mentioned that merely because I've experienced it. I won't go into fine details, but quite often, if I'm just sitting and thinking of something arousing, it tends to develop a mind of its own.