Orientation Issues are getting out of hand

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    Feb 19, 2013 9:56 PM GMT
    Ok, so some background info. I am 21, known I wasn't straight for about 5 years now, still have no idea if I am bi or gay. I can fall for a chick or have crushes on them but I am more physically attracted to guys but for the past year I have been dating a few ( at different times, just to clarify) and no one I have found I have ever felt anything for at all. which just confuses my orientation even more. help?

    any advice would be really appreciated
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    Feb 20, 2013 12:16 AM GMT
    There are a lot of people in their teen years who go through sexual orientation confusion and it's totally normal, you need to kiss a guy or kiss a girl to really find out.
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    Feb 20, 2013 12:38 AM GMT
    I've kissed both, I have had sex with both
    no feelings for guys either or
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    Feb 20, 2013 1:28 AM GMT
    This may have to do less about your sexual orientation and more of the type of guys that you're in to.

    I would advise that you stop classifying yourself as bi, or gay and just have a good time in your life instead of trying to figure out something that will become clearer when you find someone who fits you both emotionally and physically.
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    Feb 20, 2013 2:18 AM GMT
    Don't sweat it. Somethings are just not worth worrying about. If you asked me right now, I could not tell you where my best road cycle is, not a clue.
    When I was your age I was happy to have sex with anyone who would be gracious enough to have sex with me. I could care less if it was a male or a female. Enjoy the spectacle.
    Stumble for a while. It's all up to you. When you fall in love everything will get real clear, very fast. Until then, enjoy the variety.
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    Feb 20, 2013 2:41 AM GMT
    Don't rush yourself into trying to fit into a label. Just take your time. Get to know yourself. Your feelings will mature over time, and you will eventually feel comfortable being with one or the other.
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    Feb 20, 2013 4:38 AM GMT
    As others have said, no need to put a label on yourself. Sexuality is fluidic anyways. Just be open and enjoy your life whether it's with a woman, a man or both.
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    Feb 20, 2013 5:22 AM GMT
    albertaman saidI've kissed both, I have had sex with both
    no feelings for guys either or


    I think you should consider that just because you've become open about your orientation does not mean an immediate match is in the works.
    A guy who turns your crank and rocks your boat and makes your own world fabulous when seen through the lens of him will happen when it happens. Until then it doesn't, but most assuredly can't, ever, if you never try.

    warmly,

    -Doug
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    Feb 20, 2013 5:59 AM GMT
    Your uncertainty surrounding your orientation might be tainting your ability to really connect with people. Even though you have had sex with both men and women, if you were analyzing the experiences in the back of your mind the whole time it might have been stifling the feelings before they even had a chance to flow.

    I'm sure it seems entirely unhelpful to just say "don't worry about it" but that would be my advice. If you're open to it you'll eventually find someone who turns your crank. Until then, who cares if you sleep with men, women, or anyone else who will have you. Just be yourself!