uoft23 saidI don't mean this with any offense, but why is skipping meals any less comparable to skipping workouts?
I have a big appetite and like eating but I can't say I want to eat my 2 servings of bran in the morning vs having some bacon.
I find this hard gaining stuff to a lot of BS. Eat. Its literally that simple. Its the easiest part of being dedicated to the gym. If you can't force food into your mouth how the hell are going to force a 400 lb olympic bar on your back up from a squat? Grow a set of balls.
Yes you're right skipping meals is no different than skipping workouts. I very rarely skip workouts, finding the motivation to go to the gym is very easy for me. But finding motivation to eat when I don't feel hungry is very hard for me. I go for 3500cal a day but I rarely get to it because I don't know how to get myself to do it.
And that's the problem.
For years I tried to workout and put on weight, and here's what actually help me to put on weight:don't just eat enough, eat too much
If you aim for a specific calorie target every day, I bet you'll be undereating half of those days. The only benchmark I have these days is: I eat till I can't eat any more. If you're filling a black water bottle, how do you know it's full? Well, if it overflows, it's full!!
The point is, just eat as much as you can, all the time, and listen to your body and watch your weight progresses. After a while you'll know how much is enough. Most of the calorie intake guide are not suitable for people like us, as we have much higher resting metabolism, and even higher when we're working out. Targeting a number distract you from listening to your body.there's no right way to eat, just eat
This is what you're having problems with: eating 6-7 small meals a day. My meal plan these days on bulking is very simple: breakfast, 2 full size lunches (12pm & 4pm), normal full size dinner, a post-workout protein shake, and a night-time MRD. No set calories or portion sizes on these, I just stuff myself. And if I don't put on weight, it means I need to eat EVEN MORE. It's that simple.
Don't worry about eating healthy. Eat junk food, eat ice cream, eat butter and whole milk. Getting fat is not your problem. Just eat whatever you can, whenever you can. If you missed a meal, an MRD is a really easy way to make up for it.carbs > protein
What surprise me the most is that I used to take 100-150g of whey protein a day and still can't put on weight. Now I take a single 800-1000 calorie weight gainer MRD at night instead and it's actually been more effective. So basically, it doesn't matter how much protein I eat, if I don't eat a ridiculously excessive amount of carbs, I'll burn all my fat + protein intake as well. This might be true for you as well.MRD > protein
Just as I mentioned above, you should try a good MRD, it's a very good way to stuff calories when you're not hungry. It packs 800-1200 calories (mostly carbs) and at lead 20-30g of protein. Keep a big jug of premixed MRD in your fringe and sip a big glass of it at night when you're watching TV. Add a post workout protein shake @ about 30-40g protein and that's more than enough protein to supplement your diet. train less, lift hard
5x/wk is too much, and you probably focus on too many isolation exercises if you're lifting 5x/wk. It's ABSOLUTELY essential that you're loading progressively. If you record hasn't gone up a week or 2, you're basically just throwing calories away, Change up your routine when you plateau, if you haven't put on any weight for a month, go back to the basics and do only the 4 major lifts (bench press, shoulder press, squat, deadlift). Don't do any other lifts until your records on all of them starting going up progressively again. When stuck, change rep/set (3x10, 5x5, 7x3, etc) and keep pushing yourself until they go up. do the big 4 before doing anything else
People say it all the time but it's really true: The best result I get is when I really try my best focus on the big 4 lifts (bench press, shoulder press, squat, deadlift): don't cheat, don't replace it with another exercise, and always try to hit a new record. Generally, if i'm not grunting at the last rep or 2, I add more weights. And if I don't fail the last rep, I do another set. The actual rep/set numbers are not important. The only benchmark is I need to lift harder and heavier than the week before on all 4 lifts.
And when done right and pushing hard enough, they're the most satisfying exercises: you're firing your CNS on all front, recruiting fibers from all over your body, and you can feel the pump 1-2 days afterwards. You'll be starving and eat like a pig the next day, and you just feel stronger and tougher overall. A lot of guys skip out on squats and deadlifts (myself included), but for guys like us they're probably the best exercises to build strength and size. I used to skip out on them too because, let's face it, they are TOUGH., until I really take the time to do my research and spent a couple weeks focusing on fixing my for, trying to improve it in every little place possible (grip angle and position, stance, foot angle, etc. EVERY LITTLE THING), now you literally have to pull me off the squat rack. eating is the real work
You can actually get big by doing only the big 4 lifts 2x/wk and nothing else, as long as you eat enough and lift hard enough. Eating is something you need to do 7 days a week, so it's actually much harder work.
Nobody else can tell you how much is enough, only your body can. So how about spend a month or 2 focusing on getting into an eating routine that you can stick to and produce good result for you?