In memory of the night Matthew Shepard was beaten into a coma for being gay....... he was found on the evening of 10-7-98 and died 10-12-98... RIP.

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    Oct 06, 2008 11:34 PM GMT
    We should all remember to be very aware of where we are and with whom we are associating.
    Bad things can happen if you are not paying attention, because there are people that hate gays and want to hurt or remove us from this world with extreme violence and prejudice.
    In a site with many younger guys that were maybe too young to remember the day the news reported this crime and as a partial response to a particular RJ thread......http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/300090/ know that discrimination and hate and bigotry are still a VERY REAL and at times a DEADLY crime in America....... May I never hear of another Matthew Shepard or Barry Winchell or any other person being murdered for being thought gay.icon_sad.gif
    Be well and be safe.icon_exclaim.gif
    Sporty_G.....AKA Gary

    More information from Wikipedia http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Matthew_Shepard

    A quick video of his ordeal:







    and a HAUNTING song about this crime from Mellissa Ethridge....:
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    Oct 07, 2008 4:50 AM GMT
    RIP Matthew...

    My coworker, who's a lesbian, and I are planning on wearing ribbons we made last year for this.
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    Oct 07, 2008 5:02 AM GMT
    It's such a depressing story. I saw a production of the Laramie Project in college and I cried so hard, it was very moving, especially contemplating what it must have been like for him after his beating to have waited something like 18 hours in the freezing weather until someone found him. Just horrible.
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    Oct 07, 2008 5:55 AM GMT
    I once had a house (for skiing) in Wyoming and when this happened I remember saying to my friends over and over - "Poor little guy, poor little guy." It just made me sick that anyone could do this to a fellow human being. The world can be a cruel place sometimes. I truly appreciate all my friends and each and every good and decent person I know. Matthew Shepard did not die in vain and will never be forgotten.
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    Oct 07, 2008 6:20 AM GMT
    R.I.P. Matthew.icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 07, 2008 6:21 AM GMT
    r.i.p.
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    Oct 07, 2008 6:25 AM GMT
    thanks for the reminder. and thanks for posting this.
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    Oct 07, 2008 8:27 AM GMT
    No one wants to die alone. But I am sure he would appreciate being remembered. When my baby brother died, my mother would cry and say "I just don't want him to be forgotten" I will always carry him in my heart.

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    Oct 07, 2008 9:06 AM GMT
    I remember that I was out for just over a year and in college when he was killed, and how everything just felt a little different after that.

    A few months ago, on my recent move across country, I was driving through Wyoming and stopped for gas off the highway. At first I couldn't figure out why the place I stopped seemed familiar. As I left the parking lot of the gas station & on my way out of this tiny town in the middle of nowhere, a chill came over my body as I realized that this was Laramie.. a town I had seen on the news, in documentaries and movies made about Matthew's death- the town where he lived & was murdered. There were several large fields surrounded by barbed wire fences visible while driving back to the highway, and I nearly cried as I pictured poor Matthew tied, beaten & left to die on a fence just like that, just for expressing his sexuality...

    RIP, and thanks for the reminder of the anniversary- a sad reminder that although we've come a long way, homophobia still exists (look no further than our Republican presidential ticket and their "tolerance", not acceptance, of gays) and must be fought through education and acceptance, within our society and even within the gay community.
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    Oct 07, 2008 12:19 PM GMT
    Sporty_G : thxs for the reminder .


    I repeat what I said in an old thread re: Matthew!

    Thanks Olden for bring this to our attention. Some members of society will never 'get-it' or learn from the criminal activities of others - What a DISGRACE!

    My thoughts and prayers, go out to all those lives that were touched by Lawrence King and yes - lets never forget Matthew Shepperd.

    The vicitms' families will suffer for life and I hope that they can at least get some type of financial benefit for imposed horror on their lives - The word 'Compensation' is never appropriate for the victim's loved ones, these young men leave behind; as no amount of money can replace the vicitm(s).

    WHAT A SICK INSECURE world we live in.icon_sad.gif
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    Oct 07, 2008 12:25 PM GMT
    Sporty, I knew the anniversary was coming up.

    It hit me really hard and in a way nothing (regarding gay issues) had previously. I had started along the "coming out" road and it was the first time I had really been aware of a gay attack. It was horrible and very sobering. I remember carrying on with the guy in which I had become involved (my bf). It was an eye opener.

    Matthew, our prayers were and are with you.
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    Oct 07, 2008 1:01 PM GMT
    We'll never forget. So senseless. RIP Matthew.
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    Oct 07, 2008 1:06 PM GMT
    It's tragic and senseless when any supposed minority looses their life due to someone else's bigotry!

    During that same year a transgender male by the name of Gwen, (latino) I can't recall her birth name was savagely beaten to death.

    Also and in New York I believe in Brooklyn lesbian was beaten and sat on fire while she was waiting for a bus all because she was in the wrong neighborhood from visiting her girlfriend.

    Also in Los Angeles an well known actor whose last name also can't recall darn it (but his first name was Trent or Travis) lived down the street from me and West Hollywood was beaten with a bat and was in a coma for weeks. He was merely coming from with a friend from the bars.

    While the memory of the brutal demise of Matt Shepard will always hunt me.
    The bashing or murder of a another human being for the mere reason that they are diffrent still send chills up my spine.


    I can recall the horror stories that my southern grandparents used to tell me about how they witnessed a lynching while growing up in the "deep south".
    The things we do to each still boggles the mind!

    God bless all of you who have lost their lives due to ingorance and bigoty!
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    Oct 14, 2008 2:46 AM GMT
    Such a painful story.

    One message of hope is the amazing work that Judy and Dennis Shepard have done following the death of their son. Instead of a hateful attack on the homophobic society that breeds such intolerance, they vigilantly crusaded for change and acceptance of one another. They created the Matthew Shepard Foundation shortly after Matthew's death, with a goal to "Replace Hate with Understanding, Compassion & Acceptance".

    Currently the Matthew Shepard Foundation's "Erase Hate" Initiative
    is an investment in change in our schools and at the legislative level. I encourage all to visit their website, get a bracelet, T-shirt and/or contribute to this campaign.

    Thanks.
    http://www.matthewshepard.org/site/PageServer?pagename=Erase_Hate_Project_Main_Page
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    Oct 14, 2008 2:51 AM GMT
    I play on lighting a candle for him at Church on Sunday
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    Oct 14, 2008 3:09 AM GMT
    And gays are STILL not covered by any federal hate crime legislation. I wonder why that is...icon_mad.gif
  • metta

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    Oct 06, 2011 9:53 PM GMT
    "Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that." It's with all the love in our hearts that we remember Matt, who was attacked 13 years ago today.
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    Oct 06, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    The end result of unchecked and unchallenged homophobia and bullying. Terrorists cannot be reasoned with or negotiated with, and they must be called out and where possible confronted.

    R.I.P. Matthew. icon_cry.gif
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    Oct 06, 2011 9:58 PM GMT
    My church, Trinity Episcopal, Seattle- has an annual Matthew Shepard sermon. This coming Sunday the guest preacher will be Derek Penwell, whose church in Louisville, KY voted this spring not to issue any marriage licenses untill full marriage equality has bee achieved.

    These sermons have brought a lot of people into Trinity, and helped move us toward greater inclusion - so Matthew's death has at least had that good effect.

    Our special collect:

    Heavenly Father, who are the Author of all Mercy, and who gave us a New Commandment through your Son Jesus Christ to love one another: we pray for the soul of your servant Matthew Shepard, and for all who have suffered because of prejudice and ignorance, as well as for those who have caused suffering. We ask for your forgiveness for the times when we have hated, and for your divine help in learning to do the work of loving all mankind; through Christ Jesus our Lord. Amen.
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    Oct 11, 2013 6:13 AM GMT

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    Fifteen years after Matthew Shepard's murder, Wyoming remains anti-gay

    Kidnapped, tied to a fence, pistol-whipped and tortured, Shepard died from his injuries. Though the crime sparked nationwide debate, his home state has remained resistant to change


    http://www.theguardian.com/world/2013/oct/10/matthew-shepard-wyoming-gay-rights-laws


    Gay rights in the US, state by state
    Gay rights laws in America have evolved to allow — but in some cases ban — rights for gay, lesbian and transgender people on a range of issues, including marriage, hospital visitation, adoption, housing, employment and school bullying. The handling of gay rights issues vary by state and follow trends by region


    http://www.theguardian.com/world/interactive/2012/may/08/gay-rights-united-states
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    Oct 11, 2013 6:19 AM GMT
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    Oct 11, 2013 4:13 PM GMT
    Bloody oath , cannot believe it has already been 15 years !!
    How can i forget , one of my crew-mate was a second cousin of his ! What a strong and unified family the Sheppard's are , they have done so much for all of us..
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    Oct 11, 2013 4:23 PM GMT
    tazzari saidMy church, Trinity Episcopal, Seattle- has an annual Matthew Shepard sermon. This coming Sunday the guest preacher will be Derek Penwell, whose church in Louisville, KY voted this spring not to issue any marriage licenses untill full marriage equality has bee achieved.

    These sermons have brought a lot of people into Trinity, and helped move us toward greater inclusion - so Matthew's death has at least had that good effect.

    Our special collect:

    Heavenly Father, who are the Author of all Mercy, and who gave us a New Commandment through your Son Jesus Christ to love one another: we pray for the soul of your servant Matthew Shepard, and for all who have suffered because of prejudice and ignorance, as well as for those who have caused suffering. We ask for your forgiveness for the times when we have hated, and for your divine help in learning to do the work of loving all mankind; through Christ Jesus our Lord. Amen.


    AMEN!!
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    Oct 11, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
    Colbert_Nation saidAnd gays are STILL not covered by any federal hate crime legislation. I wonder why that is...icon_mad.gif


    Huh. Obama signed federal gay hate crime legislation into law in 2009. The Matthew Shepard and James Byrd, Jr. Hate Crimes Prevention Act.

    The Hate Crime Statistics Act of 1990 28 U.S.C. § 534, [2] requires the Attorney General to collect data on crimes committed because of the victim's race, religion, disability, sexual orientation, or ethnicity. The bill was signed into law in 1990 by Republican George H. W. Bush, and was the first federal statute to "recognize and name gay, lesbian and bisexual people.

    Democrat Clinton regressed gay rights by signing DOMA and Don't Ask Don't Tell into law.

    The second President Bush added prescription drug benefits to Medicare that include HIV Treatment.

    So why has Obama increased US Foreign Aid to countries which execute and imprison gays?