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  • LaxJock26

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    Feb 22, 2013 11:56 PM GMT
    It may just be me, but does anyone else feel upset or uninspired when looking across this site and seeing all of these really fit and muscular guys??
    I know that seeing these people's progress can be a great inspiration to lots of people, but it just doesn't work for me. It makes me feel ashamed of my own body.
    Is the cultural media just getting to me, or am I just weird? What inspires you?

    Thanks for the answers and further questions.
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    Feb 23, 2013 12:09 AM GMT
    I don't feel ashamed of myself at all. I know where I stand in life, and what decisions I do or don't make that have gotten me to where i'm at now. Sure, there's a lot of good lookin fit men on here, and I find some of them inspirational, but ultimately I know I'm in control of myself, not anyone else.
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    Feb 23, 2013 12:42 AM GMT
    It is not the actual pictures that inspire me when I see someone fit on this site. It is always the story behind them, how hard they had to push to get to the point they are now, the sort of processes they tried and the things they learned from it. I usually find when talking to someone very muscular or fit, is that they have been working at it for many years. I think that's the impressive stuff about some of the photos/profiles.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 23, 2013 1:55 AM GMT
    At some point I realized that my body is not like the guys I drool over, and that I need to be happy with what I have and make the best of it.

    I didn't have any muscle on me, so I did the Muscle Building Workout.

    I had unwanted baby fat on me so I upped the cardio and shaved off 40lbs since August 2012 and kept it off.

    I have a body now that I have never had before and I am loving it. I don't look drop dead amazing like some of the guys on this site, but I love myself and that is enough.


    I only get irritated when some guys turn their nose up to the idea of talking to me when I just want to make conversation. Just because I am one gay guy trying to talk to another, doesn't mean I want to sleep with you.
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    Feb 23, 2013 3:40 PM GMT
    I don't see any inspiration there. As someone who works in healthcare, I've come across many people who look fit but are not. They eat tons of junk, smoke, have high cholesterol, etc. They give this illusion that they are models of health. My primary source of inspiration is myself. I workout and eat healthy because they're for me and not because I want to look like someone else.
  • mizu5

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    Feb 23, 2013 4:31 PM GMT
    Mostly just
    body shame that I offset with self deprecating humour.
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    Feb 23, 2013 4:35 PM GMT
    Most of the time. But that feeling is becoming increasingly fleeting these days. And I just remind myself that if my diet wasn't shit and I'd be at this longer, I'd look better
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    Feb 23, 2013 4:35 PM GMT
    Nope, I know if I work hard I will one day be muscular.

    Many of these guys were one day scared and felt insecure of the way they looked. They worked hard and that is the end result.

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    Feb 23, 2013 4:36 PM GMT
    It can be intimidating especially since some of the hottest guys on here have such ugly/elitest type personalities. Some people are lucky, others have worked hard. I see it as a way to push myself even harder I made it from 250lbs and 22% body fat down to 171 and 12% so I am proud. Trick is to not measure yourself up to others be proud of what you have achieved versus someone elses personal achievements.
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    Feb 23, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    MidwesternKid said
    I only get irritated when some guys turn their nose up to the idea of talking to me when I just want to make conversation. Just because I am one gay guy trying to talk to another, doesn't mean I want to sleep with you.
    You totally misled me, bro. icon_mad.gif


    To the OP, you just posted your fears and insecurity. It's normal to have em. Figure out how you can slowly move forward from this perspective.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 23, 2013 4:38 PM GMT
    You lack inspiration ... motivation?
    Bring me my whip! icon_surprised.gif
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    Feb 23, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    I like it when guys write about their struggles to get to their new body. Genetics plays a big factor in how much effort you'll have to put in, but it isn't the only factor.
  • Beastmode

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    Feb 23, 2013 4:43 PM GMT
    Not at all. I look at their pictures and admire their efforts. It takes a certain amount of discipline and drive to look the way they do. I love ice cream perhaps a little too much to look like that. icon_razz.gif

    I exercise for me, not for anyone else. Looking good and feeling great for it is an added bonus.

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    Feb 23, 2013 4:45 PM GMT
    Some guys lack the the Testosterone to be motivated to compete and build muscle. It's the definition of an Alpha male . It's pretty much hormonal. The thing I don't get is the high T guys that are homos. You would think High T would steer a guy the other way.
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    Feb 23, 2013 4:46 PM GMT
    No, it motivates me, and it's also asking them for advice on training and techniques is a great way to meet people and break the ice.
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    Feb 23, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    Inspiration has to come from within. Get rid of the shame. Set realistic goals for yourself based on what you are looking to improve upon or change but don't let that "cultural media" get to you. Fit looks very different from one person to the next. There are also many different aspects to fitness other than just the size of your muscles. If I compared my pictures to other guys on the site, I would give up on working out entirely and embrace my inner fatty.

    Let me preface this next statement by telling anyone with a six pack to begin the preemptive eye roll....Physique is only one aspect that you should measure yourself on. Granted this is RealJock, but just because someone is in excellent shape doesn't mean that he has achieved greatness.

    Also, just think that most of the guys checking out your profile are feeling a sense of defeat because they can't pull off a Link costume quite like you.