ART_DECO saidThen I guess this pastor would be a strong supporter of gay men serving in the military. What can be a more masculine experience than that, where you also overcome fears, and develop communication skills? Enlist gay, exit straight. Well apparently it worked the opposite way with you.
LOL! Well, with all those men living around me in close quarters, it was inevitable.
In seriousness, the Army reinforced my mistaken notion that I was straight, because enjoying that lifestyle as I did was contrary to the stereotypical image I had of gays. I thought if I can thrive at this military stuff and really like it then I can't be gay, it isn't compatible with what I'm doing, the one precludes the possibility of the other.
A couple of years after retirement my sister told me when I enlisted in the Army at 20 our parents confided in her their fears for me. They told her for the first time that I was gay (wish they'd told me!), and they worried less that the Vietcong would kill me than my fellow soldiers in the barracks would, when they discovered I was gay. Or that I'd end up in a military prison, which also happened to gays at that time if caught in the act.