Only having oral sex in a relationship?

  • BloodFlame

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    Feb 23, 2013 9:39 PM GMT
    Well, I've been curious about this for a long time...

    You see, I really don't care for anal sex at all. I've only attempted it once and I just couldn't adjust. It didn't last very long as I told him to pull out as it killed my mood completely. You can call me whatever you want, I don't care.

    Anyway, I have no problem with oral sex at all. When I was casually dating my last guy, that's all we did and we both enjoyed it just fine. We don't see each other anymore but it just got me wondering for the long haul...

    Can a relationship last on just oral & foreplay sex? I really don't see myself trying to bottom for a guy for a long while. That may change when I meet a guy I truly like and date and attempt to try it again if he asked later in the relationship but at the question at hand, can a gay relationship last with only oral/foreplay sex.

    All answers are welcome. Thanks for reading guys and if there was a topic similar to this, I apologize...
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    Feb 24, 2013 12:07 AM GMT
    I don't see why is couldn't, unless the guy really wants to anal...
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    Feb 24, 2013 12:25 AM GMT
    I'm guessing such a relationship could last, for about 20 minutes.
  • BloodFlame

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    Feb 24, 2013 1:06 AM GMT
    smartmoney saidI'm guessing such a relationship could last, for about 20 minutes.


    Even if the guys got along well?
  • Puppymuncher

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    Feb 24, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    I guess you'd just need to find someone with the same views towards anal. You don't like anal, and if they don't like anal, it'll be perfect. Of course, that doesn't include all the other stuff you should be looking for in a relationship. But hey, don't let social norms dictate what you do behind closed doors. Good luck with your search. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 24, 2013 6:23 AM GMT
    Here you go:

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3037320
  • PR_GMR

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    Feb 24, 2013 3:01 PM GMT
    I think you can find a relationship with someone like you who doesn't like anal sex. I personally wouldn't, as I'm a top, and anal is a must for me in any relationship. But, sure, there are all types of men out there with different taste.

    I hooked up with a guy last night that gave me great oral. He talked a great game about bottoming for me, but I could tell he had no intention to. I might not see him as relationship material as a result of that, but.. he was fun. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 24, 2013 5:08 PM GMT
    Elysian_Fields said
    smartmoney saidI'm guessing such a relationship could last, for about 20 minutes.


    Even if the guys got along well?

    Yeah, even if the guys got along well. Anytime you limit your sexual choices, there is a decent chance that your "partner" will find more choices somewhere else.
  • BloodFlame

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    Feb 24, 2013 10:40 PM GMT
    Puppymuncher saidI guess you'd just need to find someone with the same views towards anal. You don't like anal, and if they don't like anal, it'll be perfect. Of course, that doesn't include all the other stuff you should be looking for in a relationship. But hey, don't let social norms dictate what you do behind closed doors. Good luck with your search. icon_smile.gif


    lol I guess so. Thanks for the advice nevertheless. icon_smile.gif

  • BloodFlame

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    Feb 24, 2013 10:41 PM GMT
    PR_GMR saidI think you can find a relationship with someone like you who doesn't like anal sex. I personally wouldn't, as I'm a top, and anal is a must for me in any relationship. But, sure, there are all types of men out there with different taste.

    I hooked up with a guy last night that gave me great oral. He talked a great game about bottoming for me, but I could tell he had no intention to. I might not see him as relationship material as a result of that, but.. he was fun. icon_smile.gif


    Fair enough. icon_smile.gif
  • BloodFlame

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    Feb 24, 2013 10:47 PM GMT
    smartmoney said
    Elysian_Fields said
    smartmoney saidI'm guessing such a relationship could last, for about 20 minutes.


    Even if the guys got along well?

    Yeah, even if the guys got along well. Anytime you limit your sexual choices, there is a decent chance that your "partner" will find more choices somewhere else.


    Well, at least you are being honest.
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    Feb 24, 2013 10:53 PM GMT



    "Only having oral sex in a relationship?" Realjock is not an accurate snapshot of the real world.
    In the real world, there are many couples that are:
    versatile couples
    top and bottom couples
    oral only couples
    frottage couples
    anal only couples (with lots of interesting toys)

    ...and couples into every imaginable kink that you can, well, imagine.
  • BloodFlame

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    Feb 25, 2013 7:08 AM GMT
    meninlove said


    "Only having oral sex in a relationship?" Realjock is not an accurate snapshot of the real world.
    In the real world, there are many couples that are:
    versatile couples
    top and bottom couples
    oral only couples
    frottage couples
    anal only couples (with lots of interesting toys)

    ...and couples into every imaginable kink that you can, well, imagine.


    Guess it goes in saying with how the world isn't always black and white. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 25, 2013 9:20 AM GMT
    When I was in my ill-fated marriage in Toronto... I would have given my left nut for some decent oral. I could have lived on that alone, LOL.
  • great_scott

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    Feb 25, 2013 7:14 PM GMT
    Lesbians do it all the time.
  • Import

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    Feb 25, 2013 9:12 PM GMT
    I think u can totally have a relationship on oral alone.
    Of course, your partner needs to feel the same way. If you're partner doesn't like anal and desires no anal, then perfect. Yall are a match.

    If your partner does want anal and u cannot provide. I imagine your partner will eventually find anal some place else.

    U need to meet someone on the same wavelength as u are and you're golden.
  • gwuinsf

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    Feb 26, 2013 12:19 AM GMT
    smartmoney said
    Elysian_Fields said
    smartmoney saidI'm guessing such a relationship could last, for about 20 minutes.


    Even if the guys got along well?

    Yeah, even if the guys got along well. Anytime you limit your sexual choices, there is a decent chance that your "partner" will find more choices somewhere else.


    I think you're assuming here that one wants and the other doesn't. I think there's someone for everyone. Limiting your sexual choices means also limiting your pool of potential partners, but there's no reason that the OP couldn't find someone who has the same sexual tastes as him. I don't know why this is any different than something like BDSM or WS. You find someone with similar interests.

    That being said, when I was younger and afraid of anal sex, I was of this opinion. I only wanted a relationship where anal sex was not involved. And I had them. But now that I'm older and I'm over my issues, I can't imagine sex without it.

    So to the OP, I say, be a little adventurous. You don't have to love anal sex now, but be open to the idea. Maybe you just need to meet someone who you're totally comfortable with and can experiment a little more. That's how it was for me.
  • BloodFlame

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    Feb 26, 2013 1:53 AM GMT
    gwuinsf said
    smartmoney said
    Elysian_Fields said
    smartmoney saidI'm guessing such a relationship could last, for about 20 minutes.


    Even if the guys got along well?

    Yeah, even if the guys got along well. Anytime you limit your sexual choices, there is a decent chance that your "partner" will find more choices somewhere else.


    I think you're assuming here that one wants and the other doesn't. I think there's someone for everyone. Limiting your sexual choices means also limiting your pool of potential partners, but there's no reason that the OP couldn't find someone who has the same sexual tastes as him. I don't know why this is any different than something like BDSM or WS. You find someone with similar interests.

    That being said, when I was younger and afraid of anal sex, I was of this opinion. I only wanted a relationship where anal sex was not involved. And I had them. But now that I'm older and I'm over my issues, I can't imagine sex without it.

    So to the OP, I say, be a little adventurous. You don't have to love anal sex now, but be open to the idea. Maybe you just need to meet someone who you're totally comfortable with and can experiment a little more. That's how it was for me.


    I'm not saying that I think I will detest anal forever. I'm sure I will at some point but yeah, it'll have to be someone I'm very comfortable with and gentle with it because like I said, the one time I tried it, it instantly turned me off.

    But thank you for the advice, I truly appreciate it.
  • BloodFlame

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    Feb 26, 2013 1:54 AM GMT
    great_scott saidLesbians do it all the time.


    I know they do but I was referring to gay men lol Which I know the answer to now heh.