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    Feb 24, 2013 8:25 PM GMT
    Thanks. I adore being patronized.
  • IAmTheOneWhoK...

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    Feb 24, 2013 9:09 PM GMT
    Cause he made you leave after a few hours so he could have a friend over. Probably makes you feel like a booty call. Well, a hand call. If you're not interested in more than just fooling around with him, then I'd say you did the right thing. Whatever works for you.
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    Feb 24, 2013 11:13 PM GMT
    usingname77 saidWell, two guys I had recently been talking to had began to ignore me, and one of them had a date last night, so I figured, if he's playing the field, what's stopping me? So, this 23 year old I met on Grindr wanted me to come over to cuddle; he seemed to be expecting us to fool around, but he'd already gotten off by the time I got there (note: this was about 3a.m.), and we ended up cuddling for a few hours until I needed to leave because he had a friend of his that was stopping by. We made out a little here and there, and before I left we gave each other a handjob. He got kind of rough when we were making out (i.e. nail marks on my skin and a tear in the waist of my jeans). So, I left, walking 40 minutes back to my dorm.

    The walk of shame kind of had me feeling like a bit of a slut. I'm pretty sure the guy isn't interested in anything of substance, and after I messaged him with a pretty condensed version of "I feel like a slut" to no avail of a response, so I just blocked him on Grindr for good measure to put all the awkwardness behind me. This is the fourth person I've fooled around with (yet still maintaining my virginity) in the past six months, and I don't know how I should feel about it.

    I mean, looking at the paragraph I've just written, I do not understand why I feel like this. It really isn't a big deal. Yet why do I feel so nauseous??? Any takers?


    You feel this way because society makes us think that sex is gross, and disgusting, and shameful. It's not.
    Do you want something of substance? If your answer is yes, do you want it with this guy? If no, then what do you want? If it's casual sex, then go get some. Apparently you are OK at making it happen icon_smile.gif The more you do it, the more you will learn about sex, and yourself, and what you like. They better you will be when you DO want something of substance.

    Don't get too caught up on virginity. My first time was good, and memorable, but I have had SO MUCH MORE incredible sex since then, and you will too.

    You might also feel slutty because of the nature of the encounter. He was aggressive and you might not have been expecting that. In his mind the aggression could have been sexy and fun... his way of saying "you're hot." In your mind it could have been too much, you felt used by it. Next time say something if this is the case icon_smile.gif

    Don't let these guilty feelings get you down. Keep fucking and it passes. Just always be safe.
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    Feb 25, 2013 12:40 AM GMT
    Jesus, you feel like a slut after a handjob and some ripped jeans? I spent the weekend high as a kite with three strung out Asians doing acrobatics on my knob and you worry about a wardrobe malfunction?
    Seriously, back to the convent with your silliness.
  • Tombo

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    Feb 25, 2013 9:47 AM GMT
    Wow, some people here seem to be really open to sex.

    I get what you mean as you never went on a date or anything with him, you just went to his place at a random hour.

    Btw, I'm not judging cos I have done things a lot worse haha

    Try and find someone where you meet them first and get to know them, you will feel less like a slut
  • Tombo

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    Feb 25, 2013 9:48 AM GMT
    Also, just because other members are promoting sleeping round it doesn't mean you should do that icon_smile.gif

    Keep your integrity icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 25, 2013 10:09 AM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    Tombo said
    Keep your integrity icon_smile.gif

    See, it's comments like that which show how brainwashed you are. 'Sleeping round', as you put it, has absolutely zero to do with integrity or the lack thereof.

    Maybe he meant "dignity"? Which appears to be what the OP perceives he has probably lost after this encounter. icon_sad.gif
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    Feb 25, 2013 5:41 PM GMT
    Aristoshark said
    Tombo said
    Keep your integrity icon_smile.gif

    See, it's comments like that which show how brainwashed you are. 'Sleeping round', as you put it, has absolutely zero to do with integrity or the lack thereof.


    ^^Yup. This.

    Tombo. "Sleeping around" comes in all kinds of forms. Yes, one can sleep around having lots of dangerous encounters and unsafe sex with men that are questionable, but someone can also sleep around with well known friends who they care about and trust.

    Integrity doesn't come from your behaviors alone... It comes from how you conceptualize and intellectualize your behaviors. There have been points in my life where I am having a lot of sex, often with different men. I am honest, open, safe, loving, and kind when it happens. I have integrity. icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 25, 2013 5:47 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidJesus, you feel like a slut after a handjob and some ripped jeans? I spent the weekend high as a kite with three strung out Asians doing acrobatics on my knob and you worry about a wardrobe malfunction?
    Seriously, back to the convent with your silliness.


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  • spunkywasabi

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    Feb 25, 2013 5:49 PM GMT
    usingname77 saidWell, two guys I had recently been talking to had began to ignore me, and one of them had a date last night, so I figured, if he's playing the field, what's stopping me? So, this 23 year old I met on Grindr wanted me to come over to cuddle; he seemed to be expecting us to fool around, but he'd already gotten off by the time I got there (note: this was about 3a.m.), and we ended up cuddling for a few hours until I needed to leave because he had a friend of his that was stopping by. We made out a little here and there, and before I left we gave each other a handjob. He got kind of rough when we were making out (i.e. nail marks on my skin and a tear in the waist of my jeans). So, I left, walking 40 minutes back to my dorm.

    The walk of shame kind of had me feeling like a bit of a slut. I'm pretty sure the guy isn't interested in anything of substance, and after I messaged him with a pretty condensed version of "I feel like a slut" to no avail of a response, so I just blocked him on Grindr for good measure to put all the awkwardness behind me. This is the fourth person I've fooled around with (yet still maintaining my virginity) in the past six months, and I don't know how I should feel about it.

    I mean, looking at the paragraph I've just written, I do not understand why I feel like this. It really isn't a big deal. Yet why do I feel so nauseous??? Any takers?


    Your only pic on here is a adult pic of your torso and base of your cock. icon_eek.gif Plus you have no info in your profile. I imagine, but not totally sure, your Grindr profile is similar. Seems like a face pic and a bio would maybe help people see you as more than a sexual object. Plus you are using Grindr....icon_question.gif I am confused at what you expected.
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    Feb 25, 2013 5:52 PM GMT
    Miss that, what will the neighbors say when they find out, feeling. Le sigh* icon_neutral.gif
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    Feb 25, 2013 6:12 PM GMT
    Just enjoy it. You did nothing wrong, if it makes you feel guilty dont do it again.
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    Feb 25, 2013 6:17 PM GMT
    You're a slut!
  • HndsmKansan

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    Feb 25, 2013 6:17 PM GMT
    Things like this remind me why Grindr really has no interest for me at all.

    I don't think you did anything wrong in the least, I've heard stories about guys who meet up, have sex, then go back online to find a 2nd guy to screw with.... you were a saint compared to some of them.

    Use it as a guidepost and follow the course of action that make you feel the best, but know, you were no slut.
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    Feb 25, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
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  • HPgeek934

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    Feb 25, 2013 6:30 PM GMT
    spunkywasabi said
    usingname77 saidWell, two guys I had recently been talking to had began to ignore me, and one of them had a date last night, so I figured, if he's playing the field, what's stopping me? So, this 23 year old I met on Grindr wanted me to come over to cuddle; he seemed to be expecting us to fool around, but he'd already gotten off by the time I got there (note: this was about 3a.m.), and we ended up cuddling for a few hours until I needed to leave because he had a friend of his that was stopping by. We made out a little here and there, and before I left we gave each other a handjob. He got kind of rough when we were making out (i.e. nail marks on my skin and a tear in the waist of my jeans). So, I left, walking 40 minutes back to my dorm.

    The walk of shame kind of had me feeling like a bit of a slut. I'm pretty sure the guy isn't interested in anything of substance, and after I messaged him with a pretty condensed version of "I feel like a slut" to no avail of a response, so I just blocked him on Grindr for good measure to put all the awkwardness behind me. This is the fourth person I've fooled around with (yet still maintaining my virginity) in the past six months, and I don't know how I should feel about it.

    I mean, looking at the paragraph I've just written, I do not understand why I feel like this. It really isn't a big deal. Yet why do I feel so nauseous??? Any takers?


    Your only pic on here is a adult pic of your torso and base of your cock. icon_eek.gif Plus you have no info in your profile. I imagine, but not totally sure, your Grindr profile is similar. Seems like a face pic and a bio would maybe help people see you as more than a sexual object. Plus you are using Grindr....icon_question.gif I am confused at what you expected.



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    Feb 25, 2013 6:38 PM GMT
    In the words of that great pop psychologist of the 1980s, Rick Springfield:

    We all need the Human Touch
    We all need the Human Touch
    I need it the Human Touch
    We all need the Human Touch
    We all need it, and I need it too

    You're just another human being looking to make a connection in a world so disconnected. If what you did makes you feel slutty then the answer is don't do it. Find what works for you but still manages to maintain your dignity (as you define it for yourself). But don't judge others who have done the same thing as you did by labeling it as slutty. It was pretty damned mild.
  • tuffguyndc

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    Feb 25, 2013 6:41 PM GMT
    i do not know. please tell us why you feel like a slut. i mean you are in college buddy. those are times that you should be having sex and trying to figure out what you like and do not like sexually. i could see if you had slept with 4 dudes within a hour than yes i would consider you a slut but even that is a bit of stretch to call someone a slut in my book
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    Feb 25, 2013 6:55 PM GMT
    tuffguyndc saidi do not know. please tell us why you feel like a slut. i mean you are in college buddy. those are times that you should be having sex and trying to figure out what you like and do not like sexually. i could see if you had slept with 4 dudes within a hour than yes i would consider you a slut but even that is a bit of stretch to call someone a slut in my book


    Is that four guys separately in an hour or four guys at one time within an hour? I'm just trying to figure out your slut scale. Or is it a sliding scale?icon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gificon_lol.gif
  • great_scott

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    Feb 25, 2013 7:07 PM GMT
    You just played yourself. It happens. But you're going about hoeing all wrong. If you wanna be a ho, then be a ho because you want to. Don't do it to try to keep up with other folks who obviously have different mindsets. You may not be able to handle the same things you think they're doing.
  • Medjai

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    Feb 25, 2013 7:09 PM GMT
    If it helps you can come by my place and cuddle for a bit. I'll make you feel better...
  • Hotgymguy22

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    Feb 25, 2013 7:13 PM GMT
    Just remember how you felt after this experience the next time you are asked to hangout like that. In general my thought is that if you are looking for hookups then that's all you will ever find. It's ok to want more and to have higher standards for what you want. If you hookup and have meaningless sex then most often that's just one less option of someone you could date. As for me, I look for friends and dates. I don't go out much, but when I do I don't want to go out and see all these faces of people I've been with. Those people usually don't know me and I want to keep it that way. Lol
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    Feb 25, 2013 7:24 PM GMT
    smartmoney saidJesus, you feel like a slut after a handjob and some ripped jeans? I spent the weekend high as a kite with three strung out Asians doing acrobatics on my knob and you worry about a wardrobe malfunction?
    Seriously, back to the convent with your silliness.




    I haven't LOL'd on this site in a looong time until this post. Thanks!

  • Hotgymguy22

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    Feb 25, 2013 7:32 PM GMT
    DJLauderdale said
    smartmoney saidJesus, you feel like a slut after a handjob and some ripped jeans? I spent the weekend high as a kite with three strung out Asians doing acrobatics on my knob and you worry about a wardrobe malfunction?
    Seriously, back to the convent with your silliness.




    I haven't LOL'd on this site in a looong time until this post. Thanks!



    LOL at you LOL. icon_biggrin.gif