Need help guys!

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    Feb 24, 2013 9:51 PM GMT
    Ok here is the issue my boyfriend and I we love each other but I am not satisfied in the bedroom. The problems are 1 he is worried he is going to rip again few years ago he ripped the skin on his penis but was not using lube. 2 he ends up losing his erection and does not like cock rings then he starts thinking about his performance. the size does not really matter because when things are going well it is fine he is smaller then the average im about 7.5 and he is about 5.5 No disrespect please... but I need to know if anyone may have advise for me so that I can make him feel more confident we are going to try switching from water based lube to silicon lube because we have to reapply and it also causes problems any respectful help would be great guys!
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 24, 2013 10:10 PM GMT
    How does one rip the skin on their penis??? Prince Albert?
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    Feb 24, 2013 10:13 PM GMT
    More foreplay
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    Feb 24, 2013 11:03 PM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidHow does one rip the skin on their penis??? Prince Albert?


    Skin is ripped when there is too much friction. It is very common
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 24, 2013 11:51 PM GMT
    those are friction burns .. but it does not actually rip skin ... friction burns are not always caused because of dry fucking (and I don't know anybody that can get fucked in the ass dry) It is usually caused from fucking for too long of a period, like maybe an hour or more without cumming .. I had this happen when I was younger (much younger). Too much drugging and alcohol can prevent you from reaching climax, so you end up fucking longer, which can cause friction burns, even if you do use good lube. It is the heat and constant motion that causes it.
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    Feb 24, 2013 11:54 PM GMT
    gun oil. silicone. problem solved.
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    Feb 25, 2013 12:42 AM GMT
    willular saidgun oil. silicone. problem solved.


    Agreed! The erection problem, however, is a deeper issue that may only be solved with therapy that he may need. You have not supplied enough data here and quite frankly, your answers won't be found here regardless. See if you can get him to talk to someone trained for this and help him that way. Good luck.
  • barriehomeboy

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    Feb 25, 2013 2:24 AM GMT
    Lubes are always disappointing. You need to experiment with them with his involvement in the choices and selection. And the couples therapy is a good idea if you want to stay together.
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    Feb 25, 2013 4:57 AM GMT
    shockandAWD said
    willular saidgun oil. silicone. problem solved.


    Agreed! The erection problem, however, is a deeper issue that may only be solved with therapy that he may need. You have not supplied enough data here and quite frankly, your answers won't be found here regardless. See if you can get him to talk to someone trained for this and help him that way. Good luck.


    I was doing research because we talked about his stroking Techniques and he i guess does what is called the death grip and that is one reason he loses erection because his penis is just not satisfied with nothing else but I guess he needs to train it people say to enjoy the lighter feeling as well idk
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    Feb 25, 2013 4:58 AM GMT
    barriehomeboy saidLubes are always disappointing. You need to experiment with them with his involvement in the choices and selection. And the couples therapy is a good idea if you want to stay together.


    We don't need couples therapy just need to figure out the bedroom situation
  • MikeW

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    Feb 25, 2013 5:04 AM GMT
    nightcast0 saidWe don't need couples therapy just need to figure out the bedroom situation

    So you come to a public forum to get the answer? icon_rolleyes.gif

    Denial is not a river in Egypt.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 25, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    nightcast0 said

    I was doing research because we talked about his stroking Techniques and he i guess does what is called the death grip and that is one reason he loses erection because his penis is just not satisfied with nothing else but I guess he needs to train it people say to enjoy the lighter feeling as well idk

    Not sure, but it sounds like your saying that he lack the sensitivity sensation to get off ... dead nerves maybe? If he is top, maybe he needs something like a vibrating cockring or butt plug or you might try some of the lubes that are suppose to increase sensitivity.
  • Kairr

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    Feb 25, 2013 5:26 AM GMT
    When I see "rip" I was thinking of a "torn foreskin"...

    ouch...