Is it wrong to not want to deal with certain ppl?

  • easterndude69

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    Feb 24, 2013 10:03 PM GMT
    For example, someone may feel uncomfortable with having a gay roommate even though they have gay friends and have nothing against gay guys. Is it wrong for them to feel uncomfortable about the situation in which a gay guy is their roommate? Also, there are people who, while they don't mind transgenders(as in they don't condemn them or hate them or think they are scum), don't feel comfortable being around them and just don't want anything to do with them. But can you blame people for being uncomfortable around certain people? It was the way they were brought up, so it's not entirely their fault. I understand everyone wants to be given a chance and perhaps deserves one, but people are still intolerant of certain people, and no one's perfect. I don't believe anyone is perfectly tolerant of everyone. Is that an issue, or is that just the way it is and always will be? Not everyone can like you, and not everyone gets along. Also, is it wrong for you to try to avoid someone if you just don't like them(like you're not attracted to their personality or the way they are and see no reason to have anything to do with them)?
  • mizu5

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    Feb 24, 2013 10:06 PM GMT
    dislike someoneor feeling uncomfortable ebcause theya re trans makes you an ignorant fuck.

    It's like saying you dont mind black people but you just are comfortable around them. it's racist.
  • TheBizMan

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    Feb 24, 2013 10:12 PM GMT
    Ask yourself the same question but insert black, asian, indian /some other minority.

    No it is NOT ok to let intolerance and ignorance flourish.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 24, 2013 10:18 PM GMT
    People are entitled to hang with whom ever they want to hang with. For instance there are heavy hispanic, black, asian, italian, jewish, etc. communities in this country, where people within those communities don't go outside their community because that is their world and that is where they feel most comfortable. Since when does freedom and the pursuit of happiness include forcing people to go outside their comfort zone?
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    Feb 24, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
    Well that's why we have freedom of association so it's not my place to say whether it's wrong or not. It's the decision of the individual.
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    Feb 24, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    I see what you're saying but I also think you're mixing up words. ^_^ If someone is uncomfortable around someone, that's a feeling that can't really be controlled....for example, I'm uncomfortable around big bodies of water....I don't wanna be, but I can't help it.

    To answer your question, I guess it's okay to not wanna deal with certain people, because you're not really doing any harm to them so to speak, but at the end of the day, you have to ask yourself what the reason you don't wanna deal with them is. Let's take the trans person you mentioned as an example. If the fact that they had a sex change makes someone else feel uncomfortable, it's okay to avoid them, but that's some type of insecurity that the person avoiding the trans person has harbored inside....

  • barriehomeboy

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    Feb 25, 2013 2:33 AM GMT
    well said.

    What is it about being around those people that is a problem for you?

    I'm still not clear on if you're thinking what you posted or the victim of what you posted.
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    Feb 25, 2013 2:34 AM GMT
    no
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    Feb 25, 2013 2:38 AM GMT
    I can hang out with females and be friends with them, but no, I would not want a female roommate as it would make me uncomfortable. And I don't really care to examine why it would make me uncomfortable. Life is too short to analyze everything that creeps you out.
  • easterndude69

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    Feb 25, 2013 3:13 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidI can hang out with females and be friends with them, but no, I would not want a female roommate as it would make me uncomfortable. And I don't really care to examine why it would make me uncomfortable. Life is too short to analyze everything that creeps you out.


    It would be different to say the least for me to room with a girl. In some ways, it would be uncomfortable, and I'm sure they'd feel that way as well. Something that I did notice is that we often try forcing acceptance by guilting people into it. We make people feel like assholes if they don't accept someone because they're different. It sounds politically and morally wrong not to accept them. This may often make the individual feel even more uncomfortable though. Forcing acceptance or tolerance is NOT the way to increase tolerance and awareness. It'll only make people resent those who they feel uncomfortable with and are forced to deal with. As gay men, we often forget that tolerance is something that must be developed and not forced on the public.
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    Feb 25, 2013 3:14 AM GMT
    No, I ignore you all the time.
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    Feb 25, 2013 4:13 AM GMT
    easterndude69 said
    Scruffypup saidI can hang out with females and be friends with them, but no, I would not want a female roommate as it would make me uncomfortable. And I don't really care to examine why it would make me uncomfortable. Life is too short to analyze everything that creeps you out.


    It would be different to say the least for me to room with a girl. In some ways, it would be uncomfortable, and I'm sure they'd feel that way as well. Something that I did notice is that we often try forcing acceptance by guilting people into it. We make people feel like assholes if they don't accept someone because they're different. It sounds politically and morally wrong not to accept them. This may often make the individual feel even more uncomfortable though. Forcing acceptance or tolerance is NOT the way to increase tolerance and awareness. It'll only make people resent those who they feel uncomfortable with and are forced to deal with. As gay men, we often forget that tolerance is something that must be developed and not forced on the public.



    +1. I say this all the time. However, rights are a different story.
  • MikeW

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    Feb 25, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    This is one of those questions that is worded as if it has to do with other people. Are you really asking about yourself? If so, why not word it that way.

    Whatever I think or feel about anyone else says way more about me than the other person.

    That said, in my personal life, I choose who I associate with based on my assessment of a person's character, not their race, sexual orientation or what have you.

    In my business life I have less choice of association but regardless of my assessment of their character will try to conduct myself in a professional manor. If, however, the client is rude, disrespectful or otherwise a total asshole, I don't mind showing them the door.
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    Feb 25, 2013 4:37 AM GMT
    The big secret about comfort zones is that they tend to get bigger the more you push them, allowing you to cover more terrain in your comfort zone.

    Step 1. Differentiate mental fears from actual threats.
  • TheBizMan

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    Feb 25, 2013 5:03 AM GMT
    Scruffypup saidI can hang out with females and be friends with them, but no, I would not want a female roommate as it would make me uncomfortable. And I don't really care to examine why it would make me uncomfortable. Life is too short to analyze everything that creeps you out.

    You live in a nutshell. But if you are content with that...
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    Feb 25, 2013 5:06 AM GMT
    You can think and feel aaaaaanything you want in the whole wide world, even horrible, despicable things.

    The thing is you can't disclose it, or rather understand that there are several inherent problems to openly saying things you think and feel and defend that it's ok to say them just because you think and feel them.
  • TheBizMan

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    Feb 25, 2013 5:08 AM GMT
    easterndude69 said
    Scruffypup saidI can hang out with females and be friends with them, but no, I would not want a female roommate as it would make me uncomfortable. And I don't really care to examine why it would make me uncomfortable. Life is too short to analyze everything that creeps you out.


    It would be different to say the least for me to room with a girl. In some ways, it would be uncomfortable, and I'm sure they'd feel that way as well. Something that I did notice is that we often try forcing acceptance by guilting people into it. We make people feel like assholes if they don't accept someone because they're different. It sounds politically and morally wrong not to accept them. This may often make the individual feel even more uncomfortable though. Forcing acceptance or tolerance is NOT the way to increase tolerance and awareness. It'll only make people resent those who they feel uncomfortable with and are forced to deal with. As gay men, we often forget that tolerance is something that must be developed and not forced on the public.

    Speak. For. Your. Self.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 25, 2013 5:43 AM GMT
    All gays need to embrace Fred Phelps, Pat Roberston, Dr Dobbson, Billy Graham, et.al., and their congregations and get to know them better and become friends with them

    Fuck that shit icon_mad.gif