How to tell my ex's new bf that I'm not interested lol

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    Feb 24, 2013 10:22 PM GMT
    EDIT: CAN MODS MOVE THIS TO DATING/RELATIONSHIPS SECTION?

    Another nagging thought while answering someone's question on another thread:

    I dumped my ex 18 months ago, (tho we remain friends), and recently he's been dating a new guy. The new guy is introduced to our group... turns out it was someone who had messaged me online previously (i wasn't interested and offered to be frds since he seemed nice).

    Of course, I kept this to myself to not make things awkward... neither of us even acknowledged our prior correspondence. But he hangs out with us more and more, and is increasingly touchy-feely with me even in the presence of my ex. I feel like the air needs to be cleared, somehow, and in a sensitive way.

    Advice?
  • highforthis

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    Feb 24, 2013 11:04 PM GMT
    Tell your ex to control his bitch icon_lol.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 24, 2013 11:41 PM GMT
    Your X probably doesn't mind because he would not mind doing a 3-way with you and his 'new bf' .... to get back to you
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    Feb 25, 2013 2:48 AM GMT
    You are not the only one. My ex wanted me to meet his boyfriend and I am not interested to meet him or I don't want to be his friend either
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    Feb 26, 2013 3:33 AM GMT
    ^^Lol not the same at all. It's all friendly between me, my ex and his bf, just TOO friendly.

    AMoonHawk saidYour X probably doesn't mind because he would not mind doing a 3-way with you and his 'new bf' .... to get back to you


    He wouldn't think that because he and all our friends know I'm a prude hah
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    Feb 26, 2013 3:36 AM GMT
    You don't need to embarrass the guy or your ex.

    When he gets touchy feely just move his hand away or back away from him. If he doesn't get it, then you can be vocal
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    Feb 26, 2013 3:43 AM GMT
    ^^^ This. Address the situation if it continues or escalates. If the new guy your ex is seeing makes a move, put him down firmly and clearly. Talk to him in private, as not to embarass either.

    If that doesn't do it, then start making a conscious effort to put more distance between you and this new guy.

    My best wishes on this... I would absolutely hate for that to happen with me, D, and a new guy that either of us were to date in the future. It would be a terrible situation.
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    Feb 26, 2013 3:47 AM GMT
    Adam228 saidYou don't need to embarrass the guy or your ex.

    When he gets touchy feely just move his hand away or back away from him. If he doesn't get it, then you can be vocal


    It's almost past that stage already. Obviously this is only between me and the guy, and not my ex, but I still don't know what to say lol.
  • christastic

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    Feb 28, 2013 6:08 AM GMT
    Whatever u do, don't tell your ex. Something similar happened to me once, my ego kinda got in the way, and I had to blurt it out when my ex was making fun of me for something completely unrelated. It's just so easy for the ex's new boyfriend to lie about it and convince everyone that you're just jealous.