Fell for a guy too late

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    Feb 25, 2013 12:23 PM GMT
    Hey guys, this is my first post. Just wanted to get an idea of what my fellow homos think.

    I've never dated a guy before. I've always been a bit unstable when it came to long term anything, so when I first started university, and a guy made advances I told him how I felt and basically pushed him aside. We stayed friends and to this day I still consider him one of my closest friends.

    Anyway, VERY long story short, I fell for him somehow, and love him so much but he's now with someone else. He tells me he loves me and wants, may even need me in his life, just we can't be together. I need and want him in my life, but I don't know.

    Is it easier to just distance myself, or fight through the pain. I ask cause he's the first guy I've fallen in love with and all these feelings are new to me. Wanna no if I'm just holding out for something that'll never work or if it is possible to live with the person you love in your life and still get over them?
  • Amira

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    Feb 25, 2013 2:20 PM GMT
    Can't say I've been in your situation in terms of falling deeply for a friend.. But I do think it's in your best interest to distance yourself from him.. There is a lot of potential for you to get emotionally hurt in this situation if you wait around for someone who is in a relationship with someone else. I'm not saying that it couldn't go in your favor which would be him ending up with you, it just comes down to whether or not you want to take the chance of that possibility. Now if you don't wish to lose your friendship with him then you are going to have to cool off with the strong feelings for him and keep it strictly at a friend zone. I know it's easier said then done but after all he's with someone who gave him a chance that you didn't. And I'm not saying that in a rude way but guys do move on.