What makes you happy?

  • MikeW

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    Feb 25, 2013 8:44 PM GMT
    By "happy" I don't necessarily mean "horny," although, obviously, that works too.

    Things have changed in my life over the past few years and I find myself feeling happy a lot more than I ever did. Why, I don't really know. Maybe I'm just getting old and senile. Last Friday I had a great day and thought then about making this thread but am just now getting around to it.

    I went for a walk with the dog, Beebs. We do this quite a lot. It was a beautiful day. Winter is almost over. The plums, magnolias and jasmine are blooming. The sky was clear and the sun was bright. Still a bit cool but warm enough to wear my cargo shorts.

    Along the way we passed a very inquisitive squirrel on a telephone pole. I stopped and 'talked' to him telling him how smart he looked. He climbed up the pole just a ways and perched on one of the foot rungs and made heavy eye contact with me while Beebs watched excitedly. Soon, though, he'd had enough of us and scampered up the pole and dashed across the wires.

    Our long walks take us into the redwoods where five-pettled lavender flowers are blooming. I don't know what they're called but they're geometrically perfect. We walked up to the dirt track where the jocks run and past the pool where the swimmers are then around the football stadium and onto the campus. I take Beebs off the leash and let her run in the grass. There are usually other dogs there for her to play with too.

    Eventually we find a warm spot in the sun where we sit close together and watch the students passing by. I amuse myself wondering what they're studying, what their lives will be like. Some look happy and invigorated, others like they are burdened with the world already. I seldom interact with them but that's ok. I enjoy just seeing them and remembering what it felt like to be their age.

    All I'm really saying is that for me happiness is a state of mind. I'm not always happy, of course, but more often than ever before. It isn't anything specific, just lots of little things like that squirrel, or watching Beebs run like the wind, so free. In a lot of ways life sucks, no doubt about it. But everywhere, if you look, are things that can make us happy to be alive. At least so it is for me.

    What about you?
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    Feb 25, 2013 8:54 PM GMT

    We're on the same page, Mike.


    ....although my happy is often a little more colourful and tasty due to an interesting anomaly - synesthesia. O.o
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    Feb 25, 2013 8:55 PM GMT
    Beautiful is what wrote . cloudy windy weather makes me sooo happy , also Eating spicy potato chips makes me happy too icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 25, 2013 9:24 PM GMT
    Beautifully written, Mike! This thread rocks.

    I love being outside when it's "calm before the storm."
    In the summer I still like catching lightning bugs and letting them go.
    Cycling down a hill extremely fast.
    Puppy kisses!
    Jogging barefoot.
    Playing video games after an intense lifting session.
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    Feb 25, 2013 9:36 PM GMT
    Uh..

    New.

    Which can potentially be problematic, unless you expand what "new" means.

    Something as old as the universe can be new.

    Something you've had forever can present a sense of new.

    And then again something new can also just be something conventionally new.

    It doesn't have to be something physically tangibly new.

    It can be something new inside me.
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    Feb 25, 2013 9:53 PM GMT
    I wake up every single day happy as a deranged clown on meth. I never bothered to give it much thought, it's just the way it is. That said, there is a bitter young woman who works at the coffee shop near my loft and recently I saw her smoking outside one morning as I walked past and I said "great morning to be outside, right?" and I believe she said something like, "shut up."
    So, maybe not everyone wakes up like a happy clown on speed.
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    Feb 26, 2013 1:44 AM GMT
    MikeW... I think you said it perfectly. Only YOU can make yourself happy / unhappy. Not anyone else.
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    Feb 26, 2013 1:47 AM GMT
    Hmm still looking for the things that makes me deeply happy.

    But so far:

    - Climbing (when the ol'joints allow)
    - The feeling of a good pump after a hard workout
    - Great coffee at a nice coffee shop
    - Good friends sharing stories over a beer
    - Sharing my homemade chicken pot pie with said friends
    - Making more and more good memories in contrast to the bad ones

    Although, gotta admit--back when I was more religious--having a calling was really nice too.
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    Feb 26, 2013 1:49 AM GMT
    Various forms of entertainment make me happy, movies, videogames, music, reading. Being with friends, the beach, hiking, learning new things. Life makes me happy when people aren't hating each other 24/7...
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    Feb 26, 2013 1:50 AM GMT
    When a cute guy my age that lives in the same town messages me looking for true love. This hasn't happened yet, but I'm sure it would make me happy.
  • Amira

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    Feb 26, 2013 1:53 AM GMT
    Right now it's this strawberry cheesecake ice cream.. Mmm
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    Feb 26, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    what makes me happy.. thats easy, watching the Lakers win!!
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    Feb 26, 2013 2:22 AM GMT
    100% Mike,

    It's a state of mind. (my belief, anyhow - like yourself)
    A state of mind which is awareness. Awareness of yourself and how you literally are possible of anything. (within reason, of course)
    And I also do not think it is hard to get there, but staying in that state of happiness is where it gets fuzzy.
    Like happiness, the opposite is also a state of mind; sadness, ignorance, etc.
    Ignorance is a sense of distractions. Distractions from nature, distractions from interactions, distractions from involving yourself, distractions from thinking about yourself, distractions from happiness. Happiness = you.

    I think a way to describe what I mean is this:
    You're at work (school, etc.) and you are thinking about getting home and doing something. While doing this, you're not "in the moment" and you are in the "future" of your state of your mind, therefore not aware, and not happy.
    Once you get home, you distract yourself from something else. And so forth. Never really getting the chance to stop and think, and feel, and be aware that you can be happy. Stress is man-made.
    Yoga/meditation help. But the mind is so amazing that is gets used to anything. And it has gotten used to so many things, that un-winding can be time consuming.

    I'm slowly but hopefully starting to try to know myself a bit more. Yes, others cannot love you unless you love yourself, but you cannot love yourself unless you pay attention to yourself.

    I do think many have it a lot harder and more difficult than others- to be happy, or alert. For example, someone with higher amounts of problems will have less time to fully think about themselves. (problems ranging from being homeless to having so much money and losing a bet on a horse).


    I hope that made sense.

    tl;dr: I agree with you, Mike. icon_smile.gif

    Althoughhh. Some things that give me happy moments:
    Dogs!
    Running
    Music
    Broccoli
    Stretching
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    Feb 26, 2013 2:30 AM GMT
    After a crappy day at work today and on my way home I was driving past a house on the edge of town. I looked over and saw a snowman. All I could do was smile and think that some kids had fun making that snowman. It made me happy.
    Some real men make me happy too.
  • MikeW

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    Feb 26, 2013 3:04 AM GMT
    Right now this thread is making me happy icon_biggrin.gif

    Thanks to all who have contributed... I hope more do, too.

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    Feb 26, 2013 3:05 AM GMT
    Good food and even better sex.

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    Feb 26, 2013 3:05 AM GMT
    I always have been a happy bloke ( at least 90% of the time ) , and when i feel unhappy , i always look for something that makes me smile icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 26, 2013 4:00 AM GMT
    It was a beautiful sunny day today so took a drive up the coast, sat watched the ocean. This is my go to when I need a dose of happy ( and a swim too when its not February!)icon_cool.gif
  • Webster666

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    Feb 26, 2013 5:08 AM GMT
    What makes you happy ?

    --Kind or friendly words from someone I like (or from internet strangers)
    --Seeing my chiropractor
    --Reading a good book
    --Going to bed whenever I want, and sleeping in
    --Someone wonderful joining me for food
    --Planting flowers
    --Quiet
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    Feb 26, 2013 5:10 AM GMT
    -Warm cinnamon rolls in my mouth.
    -Cold Gelato in my mouth.
    -Both at the same time.
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    Feb 26, 2013 5:12 AM GMT
    Off We Go - Trent Dabbs

    http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2pt2JW8ii_g

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    Feb 26, 2013 5:15 AM GMT
    Interestingly written MikeW. It sounds like something straight out of a Fairy Tale.

    I definitely feel alot happier than when I was younger. However, life is never without its fair share of problems.

    The following are just a few things that make me happy:
    Being with Family
    Having a good time with friends.
    Certain classes in school (Major related classes)
    Learning in general (If I like it and it isn't for a grade)
    Watching TV
    Getting sucked into a good movie
    Letting my mind dwell in the world of fantasy (Any good story)
    Video games, and everything that stems from it
    Music
    Art
    Vibrant Colors
    Gloomy Days
  • Import

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    Feb 26, 2013 6:04 AM GMT
    MikeW saidBy "happy" I don't necessarily mean "horny," although, obviously, that works too.

    Things have changed in my life over the past few years and I find myself feeling happy a lot more than I ever did. Why, I don't really know. Maybe I'm just getting old and senile. Last Friday I had a great day and thought then about making this thread but am just now getting around to it.

    I went for a walk with the dog, Beebs. We do this quite a lot. It was a beautiful day. Winter is almost over. The plums, magnolias and jasmine are blooming. The sky was clear and the sun was bright. Still a bit cool but warm enough to wear my cargo shorts.

    Along the way we passed a very inquisitive squirrel on a telephone pole. I stopped and 'talked' to him telling him how smart he looked. He climbed up the pole just a ways and perched on one of the foot rungs and made heavy eye contact with me while Beebs watched excitedly. Soon, though, he'd had enough of us and scampered up the pole and dashed across the wires.

    Our long walks take us into the redwoods where five-pettled lavender flowers are blooming. I don't know what they're called but they're geometrically perfect. We walked up to the dirt track where the jocks run and past the pool where the swimmers are then around the football stadium and onto the campus. I take Beebs off the leash and let her run in the grass. There are usually other dogs there for her to play with too.

    Eventually we find a warm spot in the sun where we sit close together and watch the students passing by. I amuse myself wondering what they're studying, what their lives will be like. Some look happy and invigorated, others like they are burdened with the world already. I seldom interact with them but that's ok. I enjoy just seeing them and remembering what it felt like to be their age.

    All I'm really saying is that for me happiness is a state of mind. I'm not always happy, of course, but more often than ever before. It isn't anything specific, just lots of little things like that squirrel, or watching Beebs run like the wind, so free. In a lot of ways life sucks, no doubt about it. But everywhere, if you look, are things that can make us happy to be alive. At least so it is for me.

    What about you?


    Excellent post. Written as if I could picture myself in the exact setting that was described.
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    Feb 26, 2013 12:53 PM GMT
    Deep throat
  • NJVetteGuy77

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    Feb 26, 2013 12:59 PM GMT
    My family, the dog, my cars, Charlie's Angels, and the Lennon Sisters.