Why do people lie about their age?

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    Feb 25, 2013 10:27 PM GMT
    I noticed that this is becoming a common trend as we get older. It's not just women who do it... Do you feel ashamed of your age?
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    Feb 25, 2013 10:30 PM GMT
    ven_detta said.. Do you feel ashamed of your age?


    Nope. Bill's 18 and I'm 21. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 25, 2013 10:31 PM GMT
    I see no reason to lie. My age is only one of MANY reasons guys won't date me.
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Feb 25, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
    Because they want to be like the girls in Poise Magazine.
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    Feb 25, 2013 10:43 PM GMT
    ven_detta saidI noticed that this is becoming a common trend as we get older. It's not just women who do it... Do you feel ashamed of your age?

    More trapped by it than ashamed. But I have encountered gays who lie about being younger than they are, mainly when I was single and looking. I guess they wanna stay competitive, not get left behind and shut out of the game. And maybe a touch of male vanity, and that's where the shame of reality comes in, I dunno.

    I even had one future BF who had taken off 10 years when I met him at a club. Next morning in bed he confessed his lie to me, but afterwards he would never believe me that I preferred his real age, almost my own. We had a 2 year relationship, and he continued to tell others he was 40s, not 50s, and made me swear to never give away his secret. So I'd stand there and listen to him telling this lie to others, and to me it was his most disappointing character flaw.

    Whether that's a "common trend" or not, I know it happens. And guys must figure it gives them an edge, especially in the gay world, or I assume they wouldn't do it.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 25, 2013 10:45 PM GMT
    omg .. I was thinking this same thing
    I've got accounts on stupid Cupid and Adam and othesr ... and I swear I look at some guys pics that list themselves as my age, and there ain't no fucking way, because they look at least 10 to 15 years older.

    And the same holds true for guys that list themselves as 10 to 15 years younger than me. By their pics, they look at least my age.

    Oh, and they are all looking for someone younger.

    And then just as bad, 30 yo's trying to dress like 18 yo's and come off looking like they forgot to graduate from HS.

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    Feb 25, 2013 10:52 PM GMT
    People should just be themselves... Fitting in with the crowd would not be good for the long term. I really hate it when there are 40-50 year olds hitting on me.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 25, 2013 11:55 PM GMT
    I think maybe I understand why some would lie about their age since anyone that is 10 years or more younger than you thinks your dumb fuck stupid and not worth listening to, because you are just talking out your senile old ass, while they hold your nose to it like rubbing a dogs nose in his own shit. icon_evil.gificon_twisted.gif
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    Feb 25, 2013 11:56 PM GMT
    56 years old. I've never lied about my age.
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    Feb 25, 2013 11:57 PM GMT
    I notice this a lot. When you don't post your age, I assume the worst.
  • toybrian

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    Feb 25, 2013 11:58 PM GMT
    not ashamed of my age at all..56 here but feel 40 but on many sites if I put my age many guys would not give me the time of day even though I look younger. Just part of life here in NJ..That is why some guys take 5-10 yrs off their age..
  • grtsmilesd

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    Feb 26, 2013 12:02 AM GMT
    I am who I am... age is a number.

    Do I feel the need to hide or change the number... No.

    Do I feel my age? No.

    Am I happy with my life? YES!

    It may make a difference to someone else, but if that is the case then move on.
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    Feb 26, 2013 12:02 AM GMT
    meninlove said
    ven_detta said.. Do you feel ashamed of your age?


    Nope. Bill's 18 and I'm 21. icon_biggrin.gif

    Hmmm....doesn't sound right, you said you were 25 last week! I'm not buying it and that photo of you two....got that off the internet didn't you? icon_twisted.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Feb 26, 2013 12:02 AM GMT
    toybrian saidnot ashamed of my age at all..56 here but feel 40 but on many sites if I put my age many guys would not give me the time of day even though I look younger. Just part of life here in NJ..That is why some guys take 5-10 yrs off their age..

    If some guys take 5-10 yrs off and other don't, then does that mean you don't want to meet guys your own age, and if you do, then how do you expect to ever meet if the guy that doesn't lie is looking for some one his own age?
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    Feb 26, 2013 12:04 AM GMT
    to get laid
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    Feb 26, 2013 12:05 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidI see no reason to lie. My age is only one of MANY reasons guys won't date me.

    There you go...that's exactly why guys lie. Trying to find that one thing that will draw in that forbidden date. Perhaps they'll overlook all the other reasons if they think that you're actually 30 years younger than you are!
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    Feb 26, 2013 12:05 AM GMT
    I just can't be bothered to be something I'm not. And you know what? It ain't hurting my prospects in the least.
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    Feb 26, 2013 12:06 AM GMT
    Old Joke:

    You have so many numbers to count, you forget.
    At least those of us who are bad with math.
  • roadbikeRob

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    Feb 26, 2013 12:10 AM GMT
    msuNtx saidOld Joke:

    You have so many numbers to count, you forget.
    At least those of us who are bad with math.
    You're bad with thinking, so why should anyone be surprised.
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    Feb 26, 2013 12:14 AM GMT
    I am proudly turning 40 this year and would never lie about it. I am in the best shape of my life so what do I care. And I wouldn't say that there is an increase, I have only come across that twice in the 2 years I have been single. Of course when I find out that they lie, I mentally check out of the conversation. My first lover lied about his age among as almost everything about his life. Sad thing about that is that he was 25 but said he was 27, I was 19. icon_rolleyes.gif
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    Feb 26, 2013 12:14 AM GMT
    roadbikeRob said
    msuNtx saidOld Joke:

    You have so many numbers to count, you forget.
    At least those of us who are bad with math.
    You're bad with thinking, so why should anyone be surprised.


    Yet even with my bad thinking and my Texas edumacation, I still am a more intelligent being than you could ever be.
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    Feb 26, 2013 12:14 AM GMT
    You make it seems that gay men only lie about their age. People LIE.
    how much do they weigh?
    how much do money they make?
    how big is their penis?
    are you disease and drug free?
    are you employed?
    are you educated?
    do you cheat?
    are you ready for a relationship?

    the list is endless. I will say, my partner lied to me about his age, but quickly fessed up....He was approaching 50, and most gay guys are so shallow, they will not give us middle aged guys a second look. The point is that was one of the few lies he's told me. Its their foundation you should look at closely. If they are good people in their core, you will be fine.
  • mr_bijae

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    Feb 26, 2013 12:20 AM GMT
    Proud to have made it to 40. I'm still surprised at being 40 cause I surely don't feel it.

    Anyone that lies about their age or has a problem with some one else age is shallow. Shallow people don't get to know the person for who they really are. No sense lying about it, it's going to come out eventually and once trust is broken it's harder to regain.
  • calibro

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    Feb 26, 2013 12:23 AM GMT
    because i don't want guys to know i'm 80
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    Feb 26, 2013 12:32 AM GMT
    ven_detta saidPeople should just be themselves... Fitting in with the crowd would not be good for the long term. I really hate it when there are 40-50 year olds hitting on me.


    DUDE! The 40-50 crowd is the best. You're missing out icon_twisted.gif