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    Feb 26, 2013 2:07 PM GMT
    thinking about posting some face pics but could hurt my career and im not out. Anybody got any ideas
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    Feb 26, 2013 2:20 PM GMT
    How about adding your face pics in private folder?
    That's what private pics are for, isn't it?
    you can unlock only to your friends or people you trust.

    & don't forget to mention that your private pics are face pics in your profile...or else people who visit you might think something else! ;)
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    Feb 26, 2013 2:22 PM GMT
    Harry7785 saidHow about adding your face pics in private folder?
    That's what private pics are for, isn't it?
    you can unlock only to your friends or people you trust.

    & don't forget to mention that your private pics are face pics in your profile...or else people who visit you might think something else! ;)


    This.
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    Feb 26, 2013 2:22 PM GMT
    Come out first.
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    Feb 26, 2013 2:45 PM GMT
    I had to make the same choice myself, and understand your dilemma. I was happy and comfortable with what I did for now. I am curious myself what others think and their suggestions are.
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    Feb 26, 2013 3:37 PM GMT
    For guys in the US or other Western countries, I wonder exactly where it is they live and exactly how they think it would affect them.

    I think that "career" is often a bogus excuse. Being out clearly affected my career on some level when I was younger, but things were different then and it didn't kept me from being pretty darn successful overall. Nowadays it's almost a yawner to be gay and out at work - sometimes it's even a benefit, as big company clients are fixated on diversity and want to see racial, ethnic and sexual orientation diversity in their service provider teams.

    Don't put off coming out for too long, in most cases you're doing yourself a big disservice and it just makes you look weak. For that reason faceless profiles here are often ignored.

    Hey, you asked.
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    Feb 26, 2013 3:40 PM GMT
    showme saidFor guys in the US or other Western countries, I wonder exactly where it is they live and exactly how they think it would affect them.

    I think that "career" is often a bogus excuse. Being out clearly affected my career on some level when I was younger, but things were different then and it didn't kept me from being pretty darn successful overall. Nowadays it's almost a yawner to be gay and out at work - sometimes it's even a benefit, as big company clients are fixated on diversity and want to see racial, ethnic and sexual orientation diversity in their service provider teams.

    Don't put off coming out for too long, in most cases you're doing yourself a big disservice and it just makes you look weak. For that reason faceless profiles here are often ignored.

    Hey, you asked.
    Guess it depends on the company. It's completely legal to fire someone for being gay in most US states.
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    Feb 26, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
    Post your face pics and hope and pray they fire you for being gay. You'll own the company! It's illegal to fire someone for being gay in Illinois. Look it up.
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    Feb 26, 2013 3:41 PM GMT
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    showme saidFor guys in the US or other Western countries, I wonder exactly where it is they live and exactly how they think it would affect them.

    I think that "career" is often a bogus excuse. Being out clearly affected my career on some level when I was younger, but things were different then and it didn't kept me from being pretty darn successful overall. Nowadays it's almost a yawner to be gay and out at work - sometimes it's even a benefit, as big company clients are fixated on diversity and want to see racial, ethnic and sexual orientation diversity in their service provider teams.

    Don't put off coming out for too long, in most cases you're doing yourself a big disservice and it just makes you look weak. For that reason faceless profiles here are often ignored.

    Hey, you asked.
    Guess it depends on the company. It's completely legal to fire someone for being gay in most US states.


    Legal but increasingly frowned upon. Most big companies have antidiscrimination policies that cover LGBT folks. Since I made the choice to be out very young in much harder times I tend to think many guys who shy away from it in today's much more tolerant environment are wusses.
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    Feb 26, 2013 3:46 PM GMT
    If you're really that concerned about hurting your career, don't do it! But at the same time, don't be surprised if guys on this site (or any site) ignore you because of their want to see your face first.
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    Feb 26, 2013 5:19 PM GMT
    thanks for the input but the career is on tv , so prob not a good idea
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    Feb 26, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    jockcock78 saidthanks for the input but the career is on tv , so prob not a good idea


    Stick with the face pics going in your private pics until you're ready.
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    Feb 26, 2013 5:43 PM GMT
    You don't have to post a face pic if you're not comfortable doing it. Ultimately it's your life and no one has the right to judge you. More importantly, no one knows your particular circumstances except you. If you screw up, you will suffer the consequences, not any of us. I finally found the courage to post a face pic on here a couple of weeks ago, and I ultimately deleted it because it raised a lot of issues with which I wasn't quite ready to deal. I understand that many gay men have come out without jeopardizing their career, but who can say with 100% certainty that you will be as lucky as them? Who can say with 100% certainty that your employer will be as understanding as theirs? Each circumstance is unique and there's no de jure or de facto standard against which coming out of the closet can be generally measured. Come out when you're ready.
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    Feb 26, 2013 5:49 PM GMT
    jockcock78 saidthanks for the input but the career is on tv , so prob not a good idea


    Can I have your autograph!! icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 26, 2013 5:53 PM GMT
    DOMINUS saidYou don't have to post a face pic if you're not comfortable doing it. Ultimately it's your life and no one has the right to judge you. More importantly, no one knows your particular circumstances except you. If you screw up, you will suffer the consequences, not any of us. I finally found the courage to post a face pic on here a couple of weeks ago, and I ultimately deleted it because it raised a lot of issues with which I wasn't quite ready to deal. I understand that many gay men have come out without jeopardizing their career, but who can say with 100% certainty that you will be as lucky as them? Who can say with 100% certainty that your employer will be as understanding as theirs? Each circumstance is unique and there's no de jure or de facto standard against which coming out of the closet can be generally measured. Come out when you're ready.


    Awwwww. icon_cry.gif

    Of course no one can be absolutely certain that being known to be gay won't adversely affect them in some way, shape or form at some time. It has for me, but my life overall is still fine - I would say more than fine, really good. The point is that it's quickly becoming much less likely to have negative effects, AND the corresponding benefits of being out can be huge.
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    Feb 26, 2013 5:58 PM GMT
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    DOMINUS saidYou don't have to post a face pic if you're not comfortable doing it. Ultimately it's your life and no one has the right to judge you. More importantly, no one knows your particular circumstances except you. If you screw up, you will suffer the consequences, not any of us. I finally found the courage to post a face pic on here a couple of weeks ago, and I ultimately deleted it because it raised a lot of issues with which I wasn't quite ready to deal. I understand that many gay men have come out without jeopardizing their career, but who can say with 100% certainty that you will be as lucky as them? Who can say with 100% certainty that your employer will be as understanding as theirs? Each circumstance is unique and there's no de jure or de facto standard against which coming out of the closet can be generally measured. Come out when you're ready.


    Awwwww. icon_cry.gif

    Of course no one can be absolutely certain that being known to be gay won't adversely affect them in some way, shape or form at some time. It has for me, but my life overall is still fine - I would say more than fine, really good. The point is that it's quickly becoming much less likely to have negative effects, AND the corresponding benefits of being out can be huge.


    i agree with both of you hopefully the neg affects are going away and yes its my decision and they are both pos and neg ill know when its right
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    Feb 26, 2013 5:59 PM GMT
    jockcock78 saidthinking about posting some cock pics but could hurt my career and im not out. Anybody got any ideas


    Fix'd.
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    Feb 26, 2013 6:04 PM GMT
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    jockcock78 saidthinking about posting some cock pics but could hurt my career and im not out. Anybody got any ideas


    Fix'd.


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  • great_scott

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    Feb 26, 2013 6:16 PM GMT
    People can still lift pics off this site. I've seen a few RJ guys on a certain Tumblr. Also, folks can drag and drop your images into Google and find out a shitload of info about you if you use the same pic on Facebook or any other social site. Could get embarrassing if you're on TV, especially with a s/n like jockcock. icon_lol.gif
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    Feb 26, 2013 6:26 PM GMT
    jockcock78 saidthanks for the input but the career is on tv , so prob not a good idea


    FALSE.

    On many levels.

    Since you are perfectly comfortable showing yer dick to anyone who looks - maye you should consider keeping THOSE pics private and stepping out of the shadows with your face.

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    Feb 26, 2013 6:31 PM GMT
    Cash said
    jockcock78 saidthanks for the input but the career is on tv , so prob not a good idea


    FALSE.

    On many levels.

    Since you are perfectly comfortable showing yer dick to anyone who looks - maye you should consider keeping THOSE pics private and stepping out of the shadows with your face.

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    I was hoping you'd speak up. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Feb 26, 2013 6:33 PM GMT
    great_scott saidPeople can still lift pics off this site. I've seen a few RJ guys on a certain Tumblr. Also, folks can drag and drop your images into Google and find out a shitload of info about you if you use the same pic on Facebook or any other social site. Could get embarrassing if you're on TV, especially with a s/n like jockcock. icon_lol.gif

    It has already happened to me. This is the only concern when I upload face pictures at certain gay website. Actually in India a TV channel took many pictures from Planetromeo and showed it on prime news. Talk about privacy!
    They did get a heavy fine but still the Indian gay scene is so closeted, I can hardly imagine the horror those closeted guys had to face.
  • blueandgold

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    Feb 26, 2013 6:37 PM GMT
    Ultimately, it's your life. If you're afraid to show facial pictures of yourself, I'm guessing you aren't open about your homosexuality at work either.

    We each have our own journeys to make. However, its hard for some of us who have had the courage - and faced adversity through it - to give someone full credit who is still hiding.

    I remember when I was in the military, the question of my sexual orientation came up. Basically, my commanding officer had an ex girlfriend he thought was perfect for me, and this girl loved it. I went on a few dates, and ended it. She became pretty upset and went into a full scale investigation of my personal life, and guess what she found out through some pretty high-level snooping. As a result, I was pretty much questioned point blank on my sexuality on the military (I know, its never supposed to happen)!

    And I lied. And I hated myself for it. I told myself I would never, ever debase myself like that again. I hated that I had to compromise a small portion of my integrity so that someone else felt more comfortable with me.

    Through several career changes - consultant, editor etc. I've always been out at work since. I am now a police officer, and out. Let me tell you, you may think that the problems you may face at work due to your orientation are serious, and they may be. But I doubt you wonder if your life is in danger, and if people are going to respond to your call for help a little slower because of what you are.

    But I am out, and the worry is baseless. My co-workers - the ones I care about, anyway - respect me for who I am, not where I put my dick at night. The others can go fuck a duck, and if they want to say something to my face they can expect me to stand up for myself.

    So yeah man, do what you want. But there are people out there - younger than you - who have made the leap and can hold their head high because of it. When do you want to come out? 35? 40? 45? The longer the wait the sillier you will look. I don't know your life or circumstances, but I know you're on a gay website talking to dudes... there's a part of your life you probably want to express that is long overdue now that you're in your 30's.

    Bottom line: Be happy. I wish you the best.



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    Feb 26, 2013 6:41 PM GMT
    great_scott saidAlso, folks can drag and drop your images into Google and find out a shitload of info about you if you use the same pic on Facebook or any other social site.


    You've been watching catfish haven't you.
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    Feb 26, 2013 7:00 PM GMT
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    ACE18 said

    You've been watching catfish haven't you.

    Watching it?


    It's that online dating show, but they do the whole google image search every episode to find shit out about people