Should I stay or should I go?

  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 27, 2013 5:52 AM GMT
    I have been reconnecting with a guy where feelings are resurfacing between us. It feels genuine and worth looking into. Only catch is he is from Southern California and me Chicago.

    I have the money to buy the flight. In fact it is on sale and now the round trip is the price of a one way originally. There are added bonuses for going to see him the weekend we are thinking of. There is a big gay volleyball tournament in his city, and friends I haven't seen for near 3 years will be there. Handsome guy, friends, and volleyball, a sweet deal right?

    What is stopping me? I keep thinking about the money I would be spending. I just payed off my credit debt, cut my phone bill in half, and have a second job that is very generous and gives me a couple hundred a month for little work.

    We make money to spend it right? I feel I would regret this if I didn't go, even if we just have a fun weekend together and that is it. I still get some volleyball in and see so many old friends.

    Everybody weigh in please!
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 27, 2013 7:04 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidIt sounds like a good idea, but of course we're only looking at this from your perspective. I'd need you to unlock your private pics and let me analyze them for his enjoyment before I could give you my honest opinion. icon_cool.gif


    If I were a bit more tired, I probably would have fallen for that.
  • squally

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    Feb 27, 2013 7:30 AM GMT
    Is money stopping you? I mean when will the next time this will happen again for you?

    You're a young guy with two jobs, so recovering your finances is not an issue. I say DO IT!
  • MidwesternKid

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    Feb 27, 2013 2:11 PM GMT
    squally saidIs money stopping you? I mean when will the next time this will happen again for you?

    You're a young guy with two jobs, so recovering your finances is not an issue. I say DO IT!


    I should have clarified a bit more. I have the money right now to pay for the round trip without it hurting my ability to pay bills or daily essentials such as gas. I keep thinking to myself, "there are more important things to spend that money on, like student loans."

    But when I am older what would I be more proud of? That I took chances or that I saved money really well?
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    Feb 27, 2013 3:38 PM GMT
    MidwesternKid said
    squally saidIs money stopping you? I mean when will the next time this will happen again for you?

    You're a young guy with two jobs, so recovering your finances is not an issue. I say DO IT!


    I should have clarified a bit more. I have the money right now to pay for the round trip without it hurting my ability to pay bills or daily essentials such as gas. I keep thinking to myself, "there are more important things to spend that money on, like student loans."

    But when I am older what would I be more proud of? That I took chances or that I saved money really well?


    I say go, one weekend ticket will not hinder you saving money. Sometimes in life you have to take chances and if you think it's worth it and won't regret it go! Even if its just a fun weekend everyone deserves a fun weekend from time to time, plus the chance to reconnect with old friends is always worth it.
  • Import

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    Feb 27, 2013 3:40 PM GMT
    I say do it.
    Life is meant to be lived.

    Don't deny yourself an amazing time with good memories.
    Yes, it will prob be a bit expensive, but the memories and potential joy u get from the trip will far outweigh the cost.

    DO IT, have fun. You deserve it.
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    Feb 27, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
    Go for it!!!
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    Feb 27, 2013 3:52 PM GMT
    It is going to be in the 80's this weekend in San Diego. That could be a nice deciding factor!! He he I am bad!
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    Feb 27, 2013 4:15 PM GMT
    MidwesternKid said
    squally saidIs money stopping you? I mean when will the next time this will happen again for you?

    You're a young guy with two jobs, so recovering your finances is not an issue. I say DO IT!


    I should have clarified a bit more. I have the money right now to pay for the round trip without it hurting my ability to pay bills or daily essentials such as gas. I keep thinking to myself, "there are more important things to spend that money on, like student loans."

    But when I am older what would I be more proud of? That I took chances or that I saved money really well?


    You're asking the right questions, congrats! The student loan debt is a factor.
  • Amira

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    Feb 27, 2013 4:20 PM GMT
    Hell, if you don't go I'll go for you. icon_lol.gif
  • Destinharbor

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    Feb 27, 2013 4:25 PM GMT
    Go, man. Have a great time. That's what it's all about!
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    Feb 27, 2013 4:26 PM GMT
    You have answered your own questions.
    GO.
    You will regret it if you don't.

    You seem like a responsible kinda guy who manages his money well, you may have to make more sacrifices when you return....but as the kids say: YOLO.
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    Feb 27, 2013 4:37 PM GMT
    Do it. When you're old, I bet you regret more what you didn't do rather than what you did do.
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    Feb 27, 2013 4:44 PM GMT
    You should Fly...!

    Is not like every year right? but hmm 3 years 39.gif is like 3 days ago, if it was 5 I would! 4.gif

    well listen to your heartbeat heartbeat.gif

    My final answer : Go!

    *If it was me personally I stay, my priorities are different...just saying.
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    Feb 27, 2013 4:55 PM GMT
    Sounds like an opportunity that would be a nice vacation. You sound responsible and you're on the right track for keeping yourself financially solvent but included in that is a little 'me time'.

    I'd say go, consider it your big trip for the year or maybe even the next couple of years. Be responsible for your other debts and take advantage of the opportunity. You'll be working your entire life. Go, have some fun and then come back re-energized and ready to pay off more debt icon_smile.gif
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    Feb 27, 2013 5:17 PM GMT
    If you really are connecting you should just wait a little longer to make sure you feel comfortable about your financial standing, he shouldn't mind the wait. Go when it fits in a vacation schedule too, you can make it a nice regular old vacation out of it.
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    Feb 27, 2013 5:44 PM GMT
    I think you should go! Life is about creating your own memories. Seize the opportunity! Plus, no one on their death bed ever said "I'm glad I saved a bunch of money so that I can be buried with it..yay!"
  • Rincore

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    Feb 27, 2013 5:47 PM GMT
    Go foo!!! youre aren't losing anything. and while youre here in SoCal come visit me haha....
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    Feb 28, 2013 3:09 AM GMT
    this popped up in my head as soon as I saw the thread title

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    Feb 28, 2013 8:37 AM GMT
    You should quote The Clash some more
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    Mar 01, 2013 12:32 AM GMT
    Definitely take a chance and go. At the end of the day, the money will still be earned. Besides, it's a huge plus to see old friends - that's what life is about, making an effort.