What are the ethics of being attracted to your second cousin?

  • rnch

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    Feb 28, 2013 6:18 PM GMT
    Ok, I realize this prolly sounds like a Jerry Springer show outline....but anyway....

    I recently established contact with my second cousin, a man that I have seen perhaps 3 times in my lifetime. (Our extended family is not a close knit, "touchy-feely" type of family).

    He's in his late 30's, thin, quite "easy-on'the-eyes", intelligent, personable, clean cut, somewhat fussy hair style, my blue eyes, neatly trimmed moustache and goatee.

    Quite unusual for me, we "hit it off" and have chattered away several limes as if we have known each other all of our lives. He commented that this seldom happens for him also.

    Not only do I like the guy as someone I'd like to be around....but the guy keeps making my internal "gaydar" meter twitch.

    From what he has said, he has never been married..

    So.....my question is.....what are the ethics, the conventions, the moral & ethical implications of gay second cousins hooking up?
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 28, 2013 8:44 PM GMT
    You should probably just be cousins and not try hooking up.icon_eek.gif
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    Feb 28, 2013 8:45 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidYou should probably just be cousins and not try hooking up.icon_eek.gif
    This.
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    Feb 28, 2013 8:46 PM GMT
    Go for it. It's not like you're gonna have inbred babies.
  • rnch

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    Feb 28, 2013 8:57 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidGo for it. It's not like you're gonna have inbred babies.




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    Highly doubt that it will ever happen.
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    Feb 28, 2013 9:06 PM GMT
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  • HottJoe

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    Feb 28, 2013 9:27 PM GMT
    Another thing to consider is that you might ruin the relationship. In fact, you probably will if you have sex with him.
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    Feb 28, 2013 9:29 PM GMT
    You can marry your first cousin in my state... but not if you're gay.
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    Feb 28, 2013 10:53 PM GMT
    It's gross
  • HottJoe

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    Feb 28, 2013 11:34 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidMy first - er - time was with my first cousin. We're still close today (even though he's married and claims no memory of it).

    #whitetrashfamily


    Same here. We were kids. My cousin is now married, and we've never talked about it. Maybe he forgot?!
  • hanzo83

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    Mar 01, 2013 3:59 AM GMT
    I think ethics and morals made up by other people don't mean much to me. You have a brain and a heart and emotions to let you know what feels right and what doesn't. If I were attracted to a cousin I wouldn't shout it from the roof tops but I wouldn't be ashamed of it either. You can't help who you're attracted to really. It's easy for others to judge a situation they are not in or have never been in themselves.
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    Mar 01, 2013 4:02 AM GMT
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    Mar 01, 2013 4:04 AM GMT
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  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 01, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    As far as I know there is no law in this world or the next against it .. so go for it
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    Mar 01, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    So many men to choose frm... Why? Here's my question to you. Let's say he is gay and you guys hit it off and start dating. How awkward would it be for your relatives and why create that kinda drama and tension?
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    Mar 01, 2013 4:24 AM GMT
    I don't think there are any
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    Mar 01, 2013 4:25 AM GMT
    HottJoe saidYou should probably just be cousins and not try hooking up.icon_eek.gif


    Pretty much. I couldn't read through it all. Ick.
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    Mar 01, 2013 4:38 AM GMT
    Incest is best!

    Now, have I introduced you to mah cousin, Colonel Beauregard T. Lingus?









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    Mar 01, 2013 4:39 AM GMT
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    Mar 01, 2013 4:40 AM GMT
    Listen to paul, I would go for it.
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    Mar 01, 2013 4:40 AM GMT
    Just remember you have: Your cousin then your 1st cousin then your 2nd cousin, so it is somewhat distant.

    Thank you Mean Girls.
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    Mar 01, 2013 4:40 AM GMT
    Myol said
    HottJoe saidYou should probably just be cousins and not try hooking up.icon_eek.gif


    Pretty much. I couldn't read through it all. Ick.

    Neither could I....

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    Mar 01, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    msuNtx saidJust remember you have: Your cousin then your 1st cousin then your 2nd cousin, so it is somewhat distant.

    Thank you Mean Girls.

    That's just nasty dude come on
  • Montague

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    Mar 01, 2013 4:44 AM GMT
    Aren't we all related anyhow from long, long, long ago relatives?
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    Mar 01, 2013 4:46 AM GMT
    If that makes you feel better about getting it in with a blood relative go right ahead