How long for HIV to show up?

  • wowIggy

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    Mar 02, 2013 12:00 AM GMT
    So.. about 5 months ago I slept with a guy I met in the club, we used condoms when we were performing anal sex, but we didn't use one when we were doing oral.It was the last time I had sex and I went to the clinic about 2 weeks ago to do the test and it came out Negative. Today's exactly 5 months, but even though my most recent test came out negative I am still worried. My lymph nodes were swallen for the past 3 months and I am not sure whether it's this or something else. I don't really have any other symptons and even my doctor said I AM FINE, but I am still worried.

    If you're HIV+ how long did it take to show up?
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    Mar 02, 2013 8:30 PM GMT
    You're worried about getting HIV from oral sex? Are you equally worried about getting struck by lightening?
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    Mar 02, 2013 8:43 PM GMT
    Fun Fact Of the Day: You're more likely to get hiv by having someone ejaculate in your eye-oral is not so likely.
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    Mar 02, 2013 8:44 PM GMT
    Most tests will reveal the marker for HIV infection within 3 to 6 months after exposure. If you are negative at 6 months following your last sexual encounter you should be OK. Oral is considered low risk, and if you're negative at nearly 5 months then things look good. Test again at a full 6 months if you're that anxious. And test at least annually if you become sexually active with men.

    I prefer 6-month intervals, especially since the oral swab is so quick & easy, often done free, and now you can buy the kit in many locations including the UK I believe, and test yourself anonymously. No excuse not to test routinely, and have any BFs do the same.
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    Mar 02, 2013 8:46 PM GMT
    Oral sex does not pose a risk unless you have severe severe gingivitis or just took a knife to your gums.

    If you used a condom for anal sex, you did not contract HIV.

    Also, lymph nodes swell pretty much in response to every bodily infection and aren't an indicator of anything

    I understand your concern though, I'm paranoid about contracting it too - so it's best to be informed and you'll stay negative
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    Mar 02, 2013 8:51 PM GMT
    Swollen lymph nodes? Might just be mono...

  • wowIggy

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    Mar 03, 2013 1:03 AM GMT
    I am such a freak LOL
    I keep giving myself all them diseases, I need to get a grip.
  • onefortified

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    Mar 03, 2013 1:11 AM GMT
    People use condoms during oral sex icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 03, 2013 1:16 AM GMT
    Check out http://www.thebody.com/.


    http://www.thebody.com/Forums/AIDS/Labs/Q145653.html

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    Mar 03, 2013 2:16 PM GMT
    IceBuckets saidSwollen lymph nodes? Might just be mono...



    For 3 months? OP, if you're still concerned about your nodes and need a 2nd opinion, go see a hematologist.
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    Mar 03, 2013 2:46 PM GMT
    Deadlycase saidSo.. about 5 months ago I slept with a guy I met in the club, we used condoms when we were performing anal sex, but we didn't use one when we were doing oral.It was the last time I had sex and I went to the clinic about 2 weeks ago to do the test and it came out Negative. Today's exactly 5 months, but even though my most recent test came out negative I am still worried. My lymph nodes were swallen for the past 3 months and I am not sure whether it's this or something else. I don't really have any other symptons and even my doctor said I AM FINE, but I am still worried.

    If you're HIV+ how long did it take to show up?


    If you want to know whether you've been exposed very shortly after an incident, a doctor can order a viral load blood test (as opposed to a regular HIV test). If you have been exposed, it will show up in this test virtually immediately.

    In addition, if you might have been exposed, prophylactic treatment is possible, but it must be administered within about 24-48 hours.
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    Mar 03, 2013 2:51 PM GMT
    Deadlycase saidSo.. about 5 months ago I slept with a guy I met in the club, we used condoms when we were performing anal sex, but we didn't use one when we were doing oral.It was the last time I had sex and I went to the clinic about 2 weeks ago to do the test and it came out Negative. Today's exactly 5 months, but even though my most recent test came out negative I am still worried. My lymph nodes were swallen for the past 3 months and I am not sure whether it's this or something else. I don't really have any other symptons and even my doctor said I AM FINE, but I am still worried.

    If you're HIV+ how long did it take to show up?


    Do see a doctor concerning your lymph nodes. This just isn't normal.

    I once had swollen lymph nodes many years ago in addition to fatigue and a low-grade fever for several weeks. I saw a couple of doctors who couldn't figure out what the problem was. Even had to have a biopsy, but it showed nothing abnormal. It wasn't AIDS or HIV. Finally, on its own, it went away. Go figure.
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    Mar 03, 2013 3:05 PM GMT
    Deadlycase saidI am such a freak LOL
    I keep giving myself all them diseases, I need to get a grip.


    I even posted a thread regarding how paranoid I am regarding stds, trust me, not many people are worse than me. I will say, there are VERY few cases of people getting HIV through oral and even then they're inconclusive because that's really hard to prove.

    Regarding the lymph nodes, I don't know about you or the environment you surround yourself in, but in college a LOT of kids have swollen lymph nodes for long periods of time, such as myself. It's part of your body's immune system so it's always fighting something. If I go to a techno event in a cutoff tank and shorts at 12am in 40 degree weather, my lymph nodes are gonna be fighting to keep me healthy cause obviously I can't (true story). Basically, don't worry, but next time you go to the doctor just talk to them about your ongoing concern, I have, they said its normal.
  • Eccomi09

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    Mar 03, 2013 3:06 PM GMT
    IceBuckets saidSwollen lymph nodes? Might just be mono...



    Imagine all the boys he gave that to in the past 5 months! icon_lol.gif

    Seriously, though,OP-- HIV should be in the category of concern like diabetes, cancer, and heart disease. Work hard to prevent any chronic illness but don't be paranoid and fearful to a point you cannot function in life.

    HIV is a chronic illness, and not a death sentence. It hasn't been a death sentence in the US for 20 years.

    Why does it seem like a death sentence? Because we see in more posts than not the association of HIV with being "clean." Other chronic illnesses don't carry this heavy a stigma of cleanliness. Perhaps diabetes approaches it because of our loathe for obesity. But, still, HIV has no association to whether someone is a good or evil person, or even sexy or not.

    If someone is HIV positive, there is still a stigma. People then don't get tested, don't reveal their status so regularly, and don't have the meaningful conversations. I'm not saying this is your behavior. I'm just reflecting on the general societal ignorance.

    There are many positive people who love perfectly normal lives with negative partners. They even have unprotected sex, but just time it right with medicine. That's a risk I wouldn't take, but people do.

    Just some more information on HIV for you. And yes, I'd still date you with your chronic lymph node illness, HIV or Mono. I've had mono twice (the unlucky 0.05% or so), so I'm not that worried icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 03, 2013 3:24 PM GMT
    Deadlycase saidI am such a freak LOL
    I keep giving myself all them diseases, I need to get a grip.

    Well, you could be a hypochondriac, or just reacting to the increase in STIs throughout the world, especially in your age group. And HIV is for keeps, at least at the present time, and remains potentially fatal even with today's drugs, though survivability is steadily increasing.

    It pays to err on the side of caution with HIV. Always have safe sex, and test routinely. Require your BFs to test. The only time you can risk barebacking is when you've been 100% monogamous with a guy for 6 months, only had safe sex during that time, and both test HIV negative at the 6 month anniversary of safe sex monogamy.

    Thereafter you're putting your lives in each other's hands that neither of you ever cheats. A cheating partner killed both my late partner and his partner previous to me. It also killed my present partner's last partner, though it wasn't passed to my husband. We're both negative while all 3 of them are dead to AIDS. You don't have to be paranoid about HIV, but you do need safe sex education, common sense and will power.
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    Mar 03, 2013 3:34 PM GMT
    Eccomi09 said
    HIV is a chronic illness, and not a death sentence. It hasn't been a death sentence in the US for 20 years.

    AIDS killed my partner in 2004, 9 years ago. It still kills men in this community where I live, though in reduced numbers compared to previous years.
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    Mar 03, 2013 3:57 PM GMT
    Who has sex once every 3-6 months? What are you a nun? The fact of the matter is that the tests aren't sensitive enough to keep up with how fast people are hooking up thanks to technology and hookup websites and apps. Add to this the fact that bareback porn is highly prevalent and the norm now; it used to be that gay porn always used condoms as opposed to straight porn. Kids 10 years younger than me didn't grow up with safe sex education to my knowledge, still, and they are secretly watching porn. Few people take the classes in college (and not everyone even goes to college) that discuss how STDs are passed and the current research on them, so I would not be surprised if we have statistics soon that show it's on the rise.

    Oh and people lie. The time you are lied to really fucks you up for future encounters and trust. Some downright lie, others are in their window period thanks to tests not being super sensitive unless you've been celibate for 6 weeks to 3 months. 6 weeks in the gay community is too long for the sexually active population.
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    Mar 03, 2013 4:07 PM GMT
    Damn that sucks dude. Hope it all works out but I would speak to someone at a clinic though I think its somewhere around the timeline of 3-6 months.
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    Mar 03, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    blasiankid saidDamn that sucks dude. Hope it all works out but I would speak to someone at a clinic though I think its somewhere around the timeline of 3-6 months.


    What sucks? He practiced safe sex - risk from oral is only theoretical; this dude does not have HIV.
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    Mar 03, 2013 5:02 PM GMT
    Deadlycase saidSo.. about 5 months ago I slept with a guy I met in the club, we used condoms when we were performing anal sex, but we didn't use one when we were doing oral.It was the last time I had sex and I went to the clinic about 2 weeks ago to do the test and it came out Negative. Today's exactly 5 months, but even though my most recent test came out negative I am still worried. My lymph nodes were swallen for the past 3 months and I am not sure whether it's this or something else. I don't really have any other symptons and even my doctor said I AM FINE, but I am still worried.

    If you're HIV+ how long did it take to show up?


    You are probably fine. You might want to talk to your doctor about swollen lymph glands though. You might have some other kind of infection that is causing this. Either way, HIV wouldn't cause swollen glands for three months.
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    Mar 03, 2013 5:17 PM GMT
    Shawnathan said
    Deadlycase saidI am such a freak LOL
    I keep giving myself all them diseases, I need to get a grip.

    You mean to say that you're a hypochondriac or that you're really getting STDs?


    I assumed/hoped/prayed it was the former.
  • Medjai

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    Mar 03, 2013 5:26 PM GMT
    IceBuckets saidSwollen lymph nodes? Might just be mono...


    Might be anything. Swollen lymph nodes only means there is an immune response. It could be literally anything.
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    Mar 03, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
    Reasons to HIV test every 6 months:

    - If you contract HIV the sooner it's detected and treatment begins the better your chances for a long survival, perhaps long enough to see a complete cure developed.

    - You owe it to your sex partners to be aware of your HIV status and inform them.

    - It's true men will be having sex in the interim between tests, and can have become infected. Nevertheless, frequent testing will more quickly catch those who have become infected since their last test, whereas infrequent or no testing increases the chances an undetected infection will have taken place during the longer interval.

    Fallacies about HIV testing & spread:

    - A negative test result means a person is negative today and cannot pass HIV to someone else. False. The reality is that the test indicates HIV status from 3 to 6 months ago, not whether HIV is present today. A guy can show you his negative HIV results card issued by a clinic this morning (some call them a "get out of jail card") and it tells you nothing about his actual HIV status TODAY - that's what his status was months ago. He could in fact be infected and contagious today, card or no card.

    - Until a man begins testing HIV positive he cannot infect you, he's just carrying the virus harmlessly. False. You become infectious to others within days of catching the virus, before tests will detect it. Even the latest and most expensive tests, used much less often, take about 12 days to reveal the virus, by which time it can be spreading to others.

    - A person with an undetectable viral load will not infect others. False. Undetectable merely means the viral load is below the ability of current tests to register it - it does not mean it is 100% absent. HIV never leaves the body of an infected person. A low viral load may reduce the chance of infecting others, but it does not make it impossible. Furthermore, viral loads can rise & fall over time. Unless the person is being monitored daily, the load he had 2 weeks ago may not be the higher load he has today.
  • wowIggy

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    Mar 03, 2013 6:12 PM GMT
    Shawnathan said
    Deadlycase saidI am such a freak LOL
    I keep giving myself all them diseases, I need to get a grip.

    You mean to say that you're a hypochondriac or that you're really getting STDs?


    Im a hypochondriac, obviously LOL
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    Mar 03, 2013 6:45 PM GMT
    99 percent of pathogens are removed at the Lymph nodes. Yes they are part of the Immune System and they filter the lymph. You are not a hypochondriac patient. Yes the HIV can be acquired by oral sex too. The window for HIV to appear in tests is more or less 6 weeks. There are some other medical conditions that can cause Swollen Lymph Nodes (Lymphadenopathy) Visit the CDC “Center of Disease Control and Prevention”. Here you have the link: http://www.cdc.gov/
    Thanks for asking