Marriage, unions, love, and cooking.

  • helios01

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    Mar 02, 2013 9:29 PM GMT
    hello Rj peeps
    I had a question for those who are living together, married, and/or in a civil union. In my culture, usually when a guy and a girl get married, the girl is usually the one with the skills of cooking. the husband may know a few things but the wife is the master. Now my question is how did you guys handle this? did you learn before hand? did you have to take classes? did you hire a chef? do you just eat out every night?
    I notice both me and my bf have very little cooking skills. If we were to get hitched tomorrow we would be stuck eating eggs, rice, beans and breaded chicken... that or the dollar menu at Mickey D's. lol. even if you aren't living together with someone and/ or you are single feel free to give your P.O.V.

    thanx in advanced icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 02, 2013 9:57 PM GMT
    helios01 saidusually when a guy and a girl get married, the girl is usually the one with the skills of cooking. the husband may know a few things but the wife is the master.


    And you glean this conclusion from what....Leave it to Beaver reruns?
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    Mar 03, 2013 2:23 AM GMT
    helios01 saidhello Rj peeps
    I had a question for those who are living together, married, and/or in a civil union. In my culture, usually when a guy and a girl get married, the girl is usually the one with the skills of cooking. the husband may know a few things but the wife is the master. Now my question is how did you guys handle this? did you learn before hand? did you have to take classes? did you hire a chef? do you just eat out every night?
    I notice both me and my bf have very little cooking skills. If we were to get hitched tomorrow we would be stuck eating eggs, rice, beans and breaded chicken... that or the dollar menu at Mickey D's. lol. even if you aren't living together with someone and/ or you are single feel free to give your P.O.V.

    thanx in advanced icon_smile.gif


    I taught myself out of excellent cookbooks. Three of the early influential ones were The Vegetarian Epicure, The Thousand Recipe Chinese Cookbook, and Mastering the Art of French Cooking.

    Other possibilities are watching cooks on TV (but some are terrible), taking classes, and exploring Websites devoted to cooking.

    Just make sure, for the most part, you are cooking with fresh ingredients. If the first instruction in a recipe is, "open the can of tomato soup" etc., you may wish to pass it by.
  • Medjai

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    Mar 03, 2013 2:42 AM GMT
    I got a culinary degree. I might be overcompensating though.
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    Mar 03, 2013 2:44 AM GMT
    Roles in the domestic part of a relationship are similar to the roles in the bedroom. Some times they are defined, and other times they are blended. Although I am considered the top (the majority of the time) in the sexual part of our relationship and the highest earner in the family.I take the primary role of the domestic stuff. I handle majority of the cooking, cleaning and laundry. its something I enjoy and I am told I am good at it...

    Just play it by ear, and see where things fall. Always remember to be flexible.
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    Mar 03, 2013 2:45 AM GMT
    Obviously break up with your boyfriend and hire a chef. duh.
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    Mar 03, 2013 2:48 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI already knew how to cook.. but when I met my man, I became more of a kitchen assistant since he's an Exec. Chef by trade. I'm a Corp. Maitre d', so we both know how to make a killer dinner and serve it up as well.
    A little bit of Southern hospitality can make for a really fun evening!


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    Mar 03, 2013 2:48 AM GMT
    TheGuyNextDoor saidI already knew how to cook.. but when I met my man, I became more of a kitchen assistant since he's an Exec. Chef by trade. I'm a Corp. Maitre d', so we both know how to make a killer dinner and serve it up as well.
    A little bit of Southern hospitality can make for a really fun evening!


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  • Timbales

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    Mar 03, 2013 2:49 AM GMT
    I can cook, but I'm not great at it. I do the laundry and more of the cleaning, plus lawn mowing in the nicer weather.
  • mikeeugene

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    Mar 03, 2013 7:04 AM GMT
    Get a good cookbook, or consult recipes online, and COOK. Another option is to find an experienced cook and to spend time with her / him in the kitchen COOKING.

    An older friend of mine told how she had a finicky father, which meant that her mother did all of the cooking and didn't allow the kids to learn to cook. As a result, my friend only knew how to dry dishes when she got married. Fortunately, her mother-in-law taught her a lot, and this lady cooked a lot. Now, she makes the most amazing food.

    Frankly, in U.S. culture right now, very few young people, men or women, have well-developed cooking skills.

    Whenever I cook for friends, I write down what I did. The worst thing is to end up with a great meal and have no idea how exactly you did it.

  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 03, 2013 9:25 AM GMT
    In the US, women can't cook worth a shit (very few do if they can, and if they can, they are newly immigrated) So husbands and wives, eat out, order take out, by boxed dinners and occasionally cook TOGETHER ... same with gay couples. Cooking is not an inherited trait, it is something you learn how to do over time and with practice. Most men i have ever known, know how to use a cook book, read instructions on a box and can boil water. Nobody (or very few people here) make bread, cake, pie, lasagne. They go to a bakery or buy it out of a box. Most people buy their chicken already cook. What is so hard about making spagatti and a salad. You boil water, you throw noodles in and open a can of ragu or a couple cans of italian season tomatoe. Really, it's not rocket science. Who doesn't know how to make a sandwich and some tatter tots? Welcome to the twenty second century and a world where women aren't barefoot, pregnant and spend their entire day in the kitchen and cleaning house and fetching their husbands and drink an their pipe and slippers when they get home from work.
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  • Road89

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    Mar 03, 2013 9:30 AM GMT
    Cooking is not as complicated as you may think. With all things, it will take time. I began cooking when i was five (Cleaning and cooking are my thing and child rearing is not quiz for me ither - guess that makes me the wife???) so, It's not so difficult for me to pick a recipe out of a book and cook it. It's fun more than anything because something work for others that may not work for you so you may have to change things to modify the recipe for you! Cooking isn't a big thing, you just have to be as committed to learning how to cook as you would anything else that is important to you. If it's important enough you will learn - or just pack on the pounds from eating out all the time icon_razz.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 03, 2013 9:33 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    AMoonHawk said ... Welcome to the twenty second century and a world where women aren't barefoot, pregnant and spend their entire day in the kitchen and cleaning house and fetching their husbands and drink an their pipe and slippers when they get home from work.
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    Bread: easy. Pie: super easy. Lasagna: quite a bit of work, but not hard and easy to make in bulk and freeze the extra. Chicken: super-dooper easy.

    (And no adult should be eating tatter tots, lol.) icon_wink.gif

    Oh sure I know how to make just about anything, and sometimes do from time to time, and on occasion, but cooking is not a nightly chore .. at least not for me it ain't ... I ain't got time for all that.
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    Mar 03, 2013 11:44 AM GMT
    Helios...it's 2013...There are no excuses not to be able to put a nice meal together...
    A billion sources on the net including..YouTube and then there is T.V.

    You and your BF should have an interactive dinner night...plan ahead..target a few recipes and have fun...
    ..Remember .."The couple that Cucks together....F*cks together"

    (yes i am the king of cheezy)

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