Is there more open relationship in the gay community than straight?

  • Matt2004

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    Mar 03, 2013 7:10 AM GMT
    The reason I ask because it seems there is more open relationship in gay than straight. If so, it seems like the gay community is more lustful than love...what you guys think?
  • RSportsguy

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    Mar 03, 2013 2:06 PM GMT
    In my experience, I know a few in gay relationships but none in straight. This is only my experience though!
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    Mar 03, 2013 2:15 PM GMT
    Matt2004 saidThe reason I ask because it seems there is more open relationship in gay than straight. If so, it seems like the gay community is more lustful than love...what you guys think?


    I'm not sure that anything has been solidly proven, but there's significant and scientific evidence that gay men in long-term relationships do frequently open their relationships up--especially after they have been together for several years. It probably happens more frequently with them than with straight couples.

    However, I'm not sure it is fair to say that the "community is more lustful than love". That's fairly judgmental. Perhaps you might observe that gay men are honest about their enjoyment of sex and do not always adhere to the traditional heterosexual notion that one must be monogamous. Perhaps it is easier for gay men to separate sex from love. Just because you have sex with someone other than your long-term partner does not necessarily mean you don't love him.
  • jackooh

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    Mar 03, 2013 2:19 PM GMT
    in my experience there are more gay guys in open relationships than girls too, maybe its cus guys are considered to be more lustful than girls? n also cus its less socially acceptable and the norm in the straight world to have open relationships

    doesnt mean there isnt love in the gay community, between open and closed relationship couples
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    Mar 03, 2013 2:24 PM GMT
    Probably more in the Gay community than the Straight..

    Straight couples 'swing' and cheat though.. so I dont know if either model is more or less successful..

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    Mar 03, 2013 2:33 PM GMT
    I think there are more open relationships in straight people than what we believe. I work with a bunch of women and the topic of open relationships is taboo to them while gay men are more willing to accept it. So it's my opinion that it's more of a frequent occurrence but it's not open for discussion .
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    Mar 03, 2013 2:43 PM GMT
    I think there are nore and in either ncase not a good idea Commitment to one is important
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    Mar 03, 2013 3:01 PM GMT
    duh
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    Mar 03, 2013 3:08 PM GMT
    I think straights have open relationships quite often as well. I always talk to friends and I'm like "oh so are you guys dating" and they say "no we're just talking (fucking)" and they'll hookup with someone else a month later, or the girl will be talking to 5 other guys. I think a lot of relationships begin with flirting, hanging out a lot, hooking up, and then kind of agreeing that you're friends with benefits but not exclusive; if you want to take it to another level then you'd take her out to dinner or buy him something nice, etc.

    Gays are just more open about it maybe? Could be wrong.
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    Mar 03, 2013 3:28 PM GMT
    Of course not.
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    Mar 03, 2013 3:29 PM GMT
    In the hetero world..There is always a wife willing to looking the other way..
    .. I think heteros are WAY more freaky than homos...We are just more open about it !
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    Mar 03, 2013 3:51 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidIn the hetero world..There is always a wife willing to looking the other way..
    .. I think heteros are WAY more freaky than homos...We are just more open about it !

    We have straight friends who bought a house in a large city near us.
    They found out over the next year that the entire neighbourhood was full of straight couples n families where the adults were all wife swapping for the night, and sometimes exploring group stuff. O.O



    It's an enormous underworld in straight society. We're constantly amazed at how huge it is. Think iceberg. How much do you see of it floating above the waterline?
    Ironically, the same could be said about gay couples. I think monogamous gay couples are much larger a group than is apparent - most of them don't go about advertising it. Every once in awhile (like here for example) you get a topic where some of them come out, so to speak, and post about how they met etc.
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    Mar 03, 2013 4:12 PM GMT
    meninlove said
    Anocxu saidIn the hetero world..There is always a wife willing to looking the other way..
    .. I think heteros are WAY more freaky than homos...We are just more open about it !

    We have straight friends who bought a house in a large city near us.
    They found out over the next year that the entire neighbourhood was full of straight couples n families where the adults were all wife swapping for the night, and sometimes exploring group stuff. O.O



    It's an enormous underworld in straight society. We're constantly amazed at how huge it is. Think iceberg. How much do you see of it floating above the waterline?
    Ironically, the same could be said about gay couples. I think monogamous gay couples are much larger a group than is apparent - most of them don't go about advertising it. Every once in awhile (like here for example) you get a topic where some of them come out, so to speak, and post about how they met etc.


    Gross.
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    Mar 03, 2013 4:33 PM GMT
    My opinion is colored a bit by living in what's considered to be the 11th most conservative county in the country and all of my very young friends are HS seniors and college age who I met and know from the gym. All are hetros and I know zero homos of any age.

    Many have GFs and seem to be absolutely dedicated to their relationship. Unusually so given that they are from 17 -20 yrs old. I hear no talk of cheating or open relationships. Many are on their first GF and expect to go on and get married. They behave like that now. I don't even hear much in the way of drama given that I'm their elder 'go to guy' who they can talk to about problems / issues that they would rather not air with others.

    However, these are all guys who spend a bunch of time working out so they have some level of dedication to even do that. I know it's a very small sample, but it a good indication that all is not lost. It's a great group of guys.
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    Mar 03, 2013 4:44 PM GMT
    I don't know the numbers but I wouldn't be surprised if that were the case. There's a lot more social pressure to follow a set of ethical paths when it comes to straight relationships that simply doesn't exist or mildly exists in gay relationships. This is due to the fact that homosexuality has been so demonized and refused by the majority that many gay couples develop a relation within a smaller setting of social expectations. Straight couples do have the exact same urges but the social implications of satisfying their desires keeps them away from trying things that are not perceived positively from a moral point of view. As gays become more accepted however, it is logical to expect lower levels of open relationships.
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    Mar 03, 2013 4:49 PM GMT
    Anocxu saidIn the hetero world..There is always a wife willing to looking the other way..


    ..yes, in the way of nearest Hermes store where she buy most expensive images and then everybody full of the happiness once more!!!...icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 03, 2013 4:52 PM GMT
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  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 03, 2013 5:09 PM GMT
    Matt2004 saidThe reason I ask because it seems there is more open relationship in gay than straight. If so, it seems like the gay community is more lustful than love...what you guys think?


    I know no straight open relationship. Most gay men assume you are in an open relationship. They don't understand what monogamous means?
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    Mar 03, 2013 5:18 PM GMT
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    Matt2004 saidThe reason I ask because it seems there is more open relationship in gay than straight. If so, it seems like the gay community is more lustful than love...what you guys think?


    I know no straight open relationship. Most gay men assume you are in an open relationship. They don't understand what monogamous means?


    Same .... I can't think of even one and this is among a group of young people in relationships who you think would be more tempted to play around. Once they commit they commit. I know one 18 yr old who is a slut whore and a tramp, but he's not in a relationship and is very immature in many ways ..... not a friend.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 03, 2013 5:20 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidI think there are more open relationships in straight people than what we believe. I work with a bunch of women and the topic of open relationships is taboo to them while gay men are more willing to accept it. So it's my opinion that it's more of a frequent occurrence but it's not open for discussion .


    Gay men love saying that. You can keep saying it, but that don't mean it is true.
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    Mar 03, 2013 5:27 PM GMT
    lol, some of you should google 'straight open relationships'.
    It was rather educational.

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    Mar 03, 2013 6:02 PM GMT
    MikePhilPerez said
    Erik101 saidI think there are more open relationships in straight people than what we believe. I work with a bunch of women and the topic of open relationships is taboo to them while gay men are more willing to accept it. So it's my opinion that it's more of a frequent occurrence but it's not open for discussion .


    Gay men love saying that. You can keep saying it, but that don't mean it is true.


    I don't see it. I'm not saying never, but nothing remotely close to homosexual relationships. Of course my crowd is almost 100% Republican or conservative and gym, old cars, gun hobby and conservative politics.
  • MikePhilPerez

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    Mar 03, 2013 6:20 PM GMT
    meninlove said lol, some of you should google 'straight open relationships'.
    It was rather educational.



    You will get anything you want on Google.

    You will always get extremes. It is considered normal in Gays.
  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 03, 2013 6:30 PM GMT
    I think it's more common with gay men. Straight men cheat and straight women cheat but they generally don't tell each other. I think it goes back to the old issue of a guy raising a child born from his wife. He wants to be sure that is his child. I raised two boys from my (now Ex) wife's previous marriage and loved them and every minute of it but most men don't see it that way. So they don't want their wife fucking around. Of course they do...
  • calibro

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    Mar 03, 2013 6:32 PM GMT
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