Dating Someone who has never been drunk

  • college220

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    Mar 04, 2013 1:48 AM GMT
    Ive been dating this guy for about 3 months and met him at a local gay bar. he goes there every weekend but never drinks. in conversation he said he was never drunk in his life? hes 34 and i find this very hard to believe. i dont know one single person who hasnt tried alcohol.

    do you think this is odd and could he be hiding a bigger underlying issue?

    thoughts?

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    Mar 04, 2013 1:55 AM GMT
    Dump him, guys are only worth their time if they've been shit faced numerous times in their lives.
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    Mar 04, 2013 1:56 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidDump him, guys are only worth their time if they've been shit faced numerous times in their lives.

    I'll drink to that. icon_cool.gif
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 04, 2013 1:57 AM GMT
    Ariodante saidDump him, guys are only worth their time if they've been shit faced numerous times in their lives.


    He's right. You can't trust a teetotaller.
  • college220

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    Mar 04, 2013 2:00 AM GMT
    hahaha thats too funny because i say that also. i dont trust people who dont drink. like what are you worried about saying or doing if your drunk

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    Mar 04, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    sdlk797098797 saidhahaha thats too funny because i say that also.



    Except I was being sarcastic.
  • college220

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    Mar 04, 2013 2:04 AM GMT
    hahahaa that is a mistake im 31. i have no idea
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 04, 2013 2:05 AM GMT
    Ariodante said
    sdlk797098797 saidhahaha thats too funny because i say that also.



    Except I was being sarcastic.


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  • college220

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    Mar 04, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    it seems so strange to me, i dunno maybe i hang out with a bunch of alcoholics
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 04, 2013 2:10 AM GMT
    How often do you drink?
  • college220

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    Mar 04, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    about 2-3 per month
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    Mar 04, 2013 2:27 AM GMT
    I don't drink and my boyfriend does, though he doesn't get shit-faced drunk like an asshole. I see no problem.
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    Mar 04, 2013 2:32 AM GMT
    Maybe someone he knew early in life was an alcoholic, and he made a conscious decision to not drink ever. Just leave the topic alone and get to know other aspects about him instead.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 04, 2013 2:35 AM GMT
    I respect a guy that doesn't drink and can stick to it ... maybe he is alergic or it makes him sick ... seriously ... getting drunk is way over rated ... especially if you drink to the point of black out ... oh ya that is real fun
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    Mar 04, 2013 3:37 AM GMT
    Some people just don't have the desire to drink.

    Others are afraid that being drunk will reveal too much about themselves.

    The rest don't care either way. icon_neutral.gif
  • Apparition

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    Mar 04, 2013 3:59 AM GMT
    we exist.

    I've sipped lots of types but not had even a whole shot to myself. I just cant stand the smell of beer, and alcohol- I just cant stand the burning effect.

    Plus I have always assumed it would make my face hurt...I can't imagine my libido in a bar full of giant strapping straight boys with me not in control mode. Ya...that wont end well.

    Plus my uncle picked up his 65 mg convertable with the front end loader and drove both of them into the concrete wall ofhis barn...ya. I'm guessing me being drunk is probably not a good idea.

    Lately ive been tempted though. I would kind of like to see what would happen. Im obnoxious enough sober. I want it on film though.


  • MikeW

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    Mar 04, 2013 4:00 AM GMT
    I very rarely drink. Don't like the taste. I do on occasion but VERY rarely.

    Have only been truly drunk once in my life and that was only because I was pissed off at my partner at the time and frustrated enough to get soused. He, of course, thought that was hilariously funny.
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    Mar 04, 2013 4:05 AM GMT
    So if another guy at the bar told you that he's never tasted tea or soda, would you say he's bullshitting too? Here's my take on guys who never tasted ETOH....who cares! There are other areas/topics that are more important to know when meeting a guy. Example....is he a whore or not?
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    Mar 04, 2013 5:24 AM GMT
    Just because he said he doesn't drink doesn't mean he's lying. Or that he "be hiding a bigger underlying issue"? Really? REALLY? Just. Don't. Just Don't judge.

    There could be many reasons and why don't you find out. Honestly someone that would be willing to go out in bars with friends (or alone) and don't drink shows a lot about the person being responsible and committed in the conscious decision that he made for himself.
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    Mar 04, 2013 11:45 AM GMT
    There are some people where getting drunk could be potentially fatal
    http://www.theage.com.au/victoria/drunk-try-a-diabetic-coma-20130303-2fegk.html

    Not drinking...think its a personal choice, if you don't like it then move on.
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    Mar 04, 2013 11:55 AM GMT
    MikeW saidI very rarely drink. Don't like the taste. I do on occasion but VERY rarely.

    Have only been truly drunk once in my life and that was only because I was pissed off at my partner at the time and frustrated enough to get soused. He, of course, thought that was hilariously funny.


    I am like MikeW. I drink on occasion. I might get tipsy, but I don't allow myself to go over the edge and get shit-faced. It's just a personal choice. Perhaps the OP should talk to the guy. Ask him the reasons he made that choice. There may be a reasonable story behind it - like a family history of alcoholism or an allergy. It doesn't necessarily have to be something freakish.

  • woow

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    Mar 04, 2013 12:25 PM GMT
    If you base a friendship or relationship on being around dunk people, leave him. His deserves better...

    People confuse having fun with being drunk...they are not the same
  • MuscleComeBac...

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    Mar 04, 2013 12:30 PM GMT
    There's a bigger question here: why CAN'T you believe someone would be alright if he didn't drink or get drunk? Is there a value system based on alcohol consumption that you adhere to?
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    Mar 04, 2013 12:33 PM GMT
    Well I have plenty of friends who don't drink including who have never tried and there is no underlying issue, unless you want to have one for some reason.
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    Mar 04, 2013 12:39 PM GMT
    Was gonna say my true opinion but I'm sure I'll be judged so badly for it...

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