Opinions on open relationships and the advantages and disadvantages.

  • guyintx8

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    Mar 04, 2013 3:45 AM GMT
    First thing I want to make clear, I am in a very serious relationship with my bf and love him more than anything!!! Though, there is a 14 year age difference between us, which means I have a much higher sex drive than him. We are also in a long distance relationship for another year which doesn't make things easier. I've thought about bringing up the idea to him, but the last thing I want to do is for him to get the wrong impression and think I don't want to be with him. That's the last thing I want him to think! But I am horny all of the damn time, and honestly I have yet to experiment with a threesome, something I've always been curious about. There are things I still want to experience I guess. I also like muscle worship and could be completely content just feeling and not actually doing any sexual acts. What are y'alls thoughts on this?
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    Mar 04, 2013 1:42 PM GMT
    Send this post to your BF today.
  • calibro

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    Mar 04, 2013 2:05 PM GMT
    i think posting real pictures so that i don't think you're a sock account will greatly fix this problem
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    Mar 04, 2013 2:26 PM GMT
    Alpha13 saidSend this post to your BF today.


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    Mar 04, 2013 2:29 PM GMT
    calibro saidi think posting real pictures so that i don't think you're a sock account will greatly fix this problem


    It's always hard to take this sort of post seriously: a newly created account with this sort of "serious" question right off the bat. Sock account until proven otherwise.
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    Mar 04, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    I think open relationships depend on the two people involved in the relationship and nothing else.

    Nothing at all.
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    Mar 04, 2013 3:07 PM GMT
    I think people in open relationships have intimacy issues
  • guyintx8

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    Mar 04, 2013 8:04 PM GMT
    It's not a sick account. I haven't been a member of this site in a couple of years. Plus, I don't understand how that's relevant anyways.
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    Mar 04, 2013 8:37 PM GMT
    The pros and cons are weighed entirely by the persons in the relationship.
    As it was suggested here already you should be having this conversation with your partner.

    Communication---HONEST Communiation is the benchmark of a successful relationship. Whatever form it takes.

    You have no control over how he's going to think. Just share with him your total thoughts and feelings about the things that are important to you.
    Part of being in a relationship is being able to communicate and express your thoughts and feelings completely.

    And if you feel like you can't?

    Then maybe you need to rethink why you're in the relationship to begin with.
  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 04, 2013 9:05 PM GMT
    Disadvantages are that one of the parties may get jealous or hurt feelings if he feels he is not his partner's center of attention. Or he may feel inadequate because his partner wants to have sex with other guys. Advantages are that it puts sex in its proper place. It should be a way to express profound love between committed partners but it can also be sport and just crazy, mindless fun. I think that as long as you communicate with your partner and he truly believes he's the love of your life, and that you're not dissatisfied with him in any way, then it's fine. Try starting with a three-way with your partner. Then move on to a more open arrangement. But if he can't handle it, be prepared to stop. Make sure he knows this is always an option. That he can ask you to stop at any time without giving any reason.
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    Mar 04, 2013 9:06 PM GMT
    beachbu310 saidI think people in open relationships have commitment issues
    Agreed.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 05, 2013 3:27 AM GMT
    Relationships are about communicating so communicate (2nd post of same quote)
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    Mar 05, 2013 3:29 AM GMT
    lagwm said
    beachbu310 saidI think people in open relationships have commitment issues
    Agreed.


    Yeah, right. My partner and I must have commitment issues, we've ONLY been together 26 years. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Morons.
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    Mar 05, 2013 4:15 AM GMT
    showme said
    lagwm said
    beachbu310 saidI think people in open relationships have commitment issues
    Agreed.


    Yeah, right. My partner and I must have commitment issues, we've ONLY been together 26 years. icon_rolleyes.gif


    Morons.


    the world is full of them.....
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    Mar 05, 2013 5:16 AM GMT
    beachbu310 saidI think people in open relationships have commitment issues
    ...says the 50yo single guy.