MuscleComeBack saidDefine 'sex'.
Not sex: Kissing
On the fence: Handjob
So everything is OK except for oral/anal?
In that case, you're already having sex.
Now the question is, how important is oral/anal to you?
In our case, we waited over a year after getting together for oral/anal as we wished to go without protection, and so our relationship was one of complete and total openness with each other. We willingly and gladly gave up our personal privacy and laid every aspect of our lives out and kept our private lives completely accessible to each other. This we felt was necessary in order to develop a level of trust that permitted us to make love without protection or safe activities. It worked for us, though we don't recommend it as we think many others wouldn't want to do what we did.