Can anyone help? How do I know if a guy is cruising the gym and looking at me?

  • darkbrwnsuga

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    Mar 04, 2013 1:45 PM GMT
    I just moved to th west coast. Things are vwery different here. How do I know if a guy is interested in me. A friend told me that I look to serious when I am working. My purpose of going to the gymis to work out.

    Guy 1: This guy is an older guy. I am not crazy. I noticed that he watches while I walk on the inside track. I do not look at him , because I do not want him to think that I want him. Also, in this state , it is hard to say who is gay and who is not gay. But anyway, when I am done excercising, I go to the sauna. While in the sauna. this guy shows up all the time. I do not say anything. I read my book. So. does this mean thatr he is cruising?

    Guy 2: While walking onthe track, this guy ill show. He waits until I get close to him and he looks right in my face. I think that he has been watching me for a while. But, I became supicious when he passed looking out of the corner of his eye.

    Guy 3: Now, this guy is suppose to be married. But, he seems weird. I notice that he looks at me. But, I do not look back. I do not know who is gay at this gym. So, I saw him and I did not speak. Well, I did say hi once. This day, I saw him. I did my normal routine. I saw him at the gym. I saw him again in the lockerroom. It was so crazy. After I left gym, I saw this guy at the mall. Inotice him coming out of the mall. So, I went the other way to keep from passing him. As I was about to cross the road, He passed me in his car. He rolled down his window. He said, "I just saw you at the gym. What are you doing here?"

    Can anyone help me figur out if these guys are cruising? Whar signs should I look for from gay men who are cruising?
  • Dominican_Gen...

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    Mar 04, 2013 4:53 PM GMT
    A. If you need to ask then they are not cruising you hard enough.
    B. Do you want to be cruiserd? Can't tell from the post.
    C. Reading a book in the sauna? Really?
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    Mar 04, 2013 4:58 PM GMT
    I believe this is where traditionally someone says YOU CRUISE, YOU LOSE?
  • Diplo

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    Mar 04, 2013 4:58 PM GMT
    Dominican_Gent said
    C. Reading a book in the sauna? Really?


    my thoughts exactly!
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    Mar 04, 2013 5:00 PM GMT
    Do gay men meet men in real life in any other places than the gym?
    Because there's tons of posts about gym encounters daily.
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    Mar 04, 2013 5:16 PM GMT
    #YCYL - You cruise, you lose
  • Medjai

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    Mar 04, 2013 5:24 PM GMT
    Diplo said
    Dominican_Gent said
    C. Reading a book in the sauna? Really?


    my thoughts exactly!


    I read pretty much everywhere too... I rarely use a sauna, so this specific example hasn't come up, but it isn't crazy...

    OP, they might have been... If you don't want to be cruised, kep ignoring them. If you do, play back and see what happens.
  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 04, 2013 5:28 PM GMT
    I think you're spending too much time looking at guys in the gym. I believe the psychological term is "transference." So what if they are looking at you. If they start hitting on you, you can accept the offer or deny it. Or if you like the way one of them looks, you can initiate conversation. Stop being paranoid and judgmental. Oh, and ageist. And prejudiced. Jeez.
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    Mar 04, 2013 6:00 PM GMT
    darkbrwnsuga said Guy 1: I noticed that he watches .... I do not look at him

    Guy 2: While walking onthe track, this guy (w)ill show....I became supicious when he passed looking out of the corner of his eye.

    Guy 3: I do not look back. I did not speak. I saw him again in the lockerroom. I saw this guy at the mall.

    You sure do a lot of seeing for not looking. Guys look, get over it. If they're in your space, tell them, otherwise either ignore them or talk to them. Maybe they just think you look like you're alone and might be a nice guy to talk to!

    Edit: Looking at your profile I noticed that the only postings you've had relate to cruising at the gym. Is this an obsession of yours or are you just trolling RJ in an effort to instigate some sort of debate?
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    Mar 04, 2013 8:50 PM GMT
    What gym to you go to? The location of the gym could offer clues as to the clientele who frequent the place. icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 04, 2013 9:04 PM GMT
    Straight guys at the gym stare.. most of the time they might think they are staring off into space when are actually staring staring straight at someone. I get stared down a lot at the gym and I have recently befriended someone who used to stare at me. I asked him a couple of weeks ago why so many straight guys at the gym stare at me, completely forgetting for a minute that was one of them.. his answer, staring off into space. I told him that was lame answer.
  • calibro

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    Mar 04, 2013 9:18 PM GMT
    now where did i put my stabbing sword...
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    Mar 04, 2013 9:35 PM GMT
    So..let's say they are ALL crusing you..
    ..What are YOUR intentions??.. icon_confused.gif

    ..Are you at a phase in your sexuality where you "Really..Want To be Wanted"??

    I'm not being rude ..but there are quite a few of us that go through this..!

    .. I'm very impressed with your "Dear Penthouse" details.. I think you like the attention.. icon_razz.gif

    ..No seriously though...How could you be a 38 year old gay man and not know if someone is crusing you icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 04, 2013 9:38 PM GMT
    This...
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    Mar 04, 2013 9:43 PM GMT
    I'm about as clueless as Cher so I'm not the best person to ask about the interpersonal / body language stuff.

    But I do know that a lot of straight guys are mirin. So if you are buff as fuck that might be the explanation.
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    Mar 04, 2013 9:58 PM GMT
    eb925guy said
    darkbrwnsuga said Guy 1: blah blah blah

    Guy 2: blah blah blah.

    Guy 3: blah blah blah .


    You sure do a lot of seeing for not looking. Guys look, get over it. If they're in your space, tell them, otherwise either ignore them or talk to them. Maybe they just think you look like you're alone and might be a nice guy to talk to!

    Edit: Looking at your profile I noticed that the only postings you've had relate to cruising at the gym. Is this an obsession of yours or are you just trolling RJ in an effort to instigate some sort of debate?


    My thoughts exactly... However my favorite darkbrwnsuga quote from the I have 2 questions thread ..

    "That did not make sense to me because he jumped up quick. I may be wrong. I think he was rubbing on his peter. lol What do you you think?"
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    Mar 04, 2013 10:27 PM GMT
    dudewithabeard said
    My thoughts exactly... However my favorite darkbrwnsuga quote from the I have 2 questions thread ..

    "That did not make sense to me because he jumped up quick. I may be wrong. I think he was rubbing on his peter. lol What do you you think?"

    Too funny, I laughed when I read that also. I'm guessing he was rubbing his peter too..... LMAO
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    Mar 04, 2013 11:01 PM GMT
    This can't be real. It's gotta be

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    Mar 05, 2013 12:28 AM GMT
    Check your mirrors.
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    Mar 05, 2013 12:42 AM GMT
    darkbrwnsuga saidI just moved to th west coast. Things are vwery different here. How do I know if a guy is interested in me. A friend told me that I look to serious when I am working. My purpose of going to the gymis to work out.

    Guy 1: This guy is an older guy. I am not crazy. I noticed that he watches while I walk on the inside track. I do not look at him , because I do not want him to think that I want him. Also, in this state , it is hard to say who is gay and who is not gay. But anyway, when I am done excercising, I go to the sauna. While in the sauna. this guy shows up all the time. I do not say anything. I read my book. So. does this mean thatr he is cruising?

    Guy 2: While walking onthe track, this guy ill show. He waits until I get close to him and he looks right in my face. I think that he has been watching me for a while. But, I became supicious when he passed looking out of the corner of his eye.

    Guy 3: Now, this guy is suppose to be married. But, he seems weird. I notice that he looks at me. But, I do not look back. I do not know who is gay at this gym. So, I saw him and I did not speak. Well, I did say hi once. This day, I saw him. I did my normal routine. I saw him at the gym. I saw him again in the lockerroom. It was so crazy. After I left gym, I saw this guy at the mall. Inotice him coming out of the mall. So, I went the other way to keep from passing him. As I was about to cross the road, He passed me in his car. He rolled down his window. He said, "I just saw you at the gym. What are you doing here?"

    Can anyone help me figur out if these guys are cruising? Whar signs should I look for from gay men who are cruising?


    Just a question. How exactly would one check you out? According to your profile, you look like a lock with a sign that says "Private Photos Only." Maybe it's just me, but I don't find that image to be sexy.
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    Mar 05, 2013 2:42 AM GMT
    I don't understand what the big deal? Take notes below

    http://www.fanpop.com/clubs/random/articles/26254/title/61-things-girls-dont-know-about-guys-guys-point-view

    6. Guys will do anything just to get you to notice him.