Coming out at church

  • brickboy1966

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    Mar 04, 2013 6:30 PM GMT
    Hey guys I need some advice. How did you come out to your church, if you did. I want to come out to show that we are everywhere. Work, school, and yes even church. Please tell on here or send me a message.
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    Mar 04, 2013 11:22 PM GMT
    What type of denomination are you? An affirming Methodist church is going to treat your coming out differently than a Southern Baptist one.
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    Mar 05, 2013 12:27 AM GMT
    I simply left my Catholic Church.

    I then went to a Metropolitan Community Church.
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    Mar 05, 2013 1:00 AM GMT
    Depends on your denomination. Some make revoke your membership. Be prepared for not being accepted if it's not a welcoming church.
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    Mar 05, 2013 2:33 AM GMT
    Although I wasn't Catholic, I reminded them about the painting on the ceiling of the Sistine Chapel.

    That's about as homoerotic as one can get without being hardcore porn.
  • brickboy1966

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    Mar 05, 2013 2:01 PM GMT
    FranciscoC saidWhat type of denomination are you? An affirming Methodist church is going to treat your coming out differently than a Southern Baptist one.




    church of Christ.
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    Mar 05, 2013 2:23 PM GMT
    I dunno man... "Coming out to show we are everywhere??"..
    ..I think the hetero population already knows that.

    I wouldn't come out at church for the sake of IMPACT...

    ..."Hallelujah I'm A HOMO !!"

    ....."Let me hear you say Sodomy" icon_eek.gif
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    Mar 05, 2013 2:54 PM GMT
    GAMRican saidI simply left my Catholic Church.

    I then went to a Metropolitan Community Church.

    I joined the MCC, too, when I moved to Florida. Became a Lector, and Eucharistic Minister. Had been attending in Minneapolis, a very emotional experience.

    I'm not terribly religious, but I know that others are, and get support from the MCC. Seeing gay & lesbian couples worshipping together is a very moving sight.
  • Medjai

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    Mar 05, 2013 3:15 PM GMT
    I simply left the institution that condemns me loving who I love. Worked out well.
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    Mar 05, 2013 3:19 PM GMT
    Medjai saidI simply left the institution that condemns me loving who I love. Worked out well.



    Best thing to do
    If any church condemns you for loving someone...those places are called Church, only to its name sake!
    Those churches can't teach anyone about god because they themselves don't know what god is!
  • Whipmagic

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    Mar 05, 2013 3:22 PM GMT
    I am in the process of realigning my spiritual life. I was brought up catholic, with a strong social justice bent. I basically gave up on the catholic church as an institution about twenty years ago, even though I still believe in much of the underlying faith. But I don't want to wait forever for the church to see the light, so I'm now looking around for a new spiritual home. I'm seriously considering the Uniarian Universalist chrch, they seem to be very LGBT friendly and also in tune with my social justice leanings.
  • JackDoyle

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    Mar 05, 2013 3:27 PM GMT
    Why come out to your church? just keep it to yourself instead of causing unnecessary drama, like are you going to go up onstage and announce it to everyone, tell a priest or what?
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    Mar 05, 2013 3:47 PM GMT
    I don't know but I think it's a bad idea man...
  • sans_serif

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    Mar 05, 2013 3:49 PM GMT
    What's church?
  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 05, 2013 4:06 PM GMT
    I was born and baptised as an Episcopalian.. very progressive, fortunately.
    I can walk into church hand in hand with my partner and nothing would ever be said. Our church sponsors periodic plays or "drama productions" and the one over last weekend (they generally are quarterly) was about 2 gay men dealing with issues in a relationship, including different views on religion. Very interesting.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 05, 2013 4:10 PM GMT
    I think coming out for the sake of coming out in church is sort of silly. Just be yourself and hope you're accepted for that. No need for any big announcements. If they don't accept you, change churches.
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    Mar 05, 2013 4:11 PM GMT
    I'm not sure how well accepted an out gay man would be in the Church of Christ. I'd welcome being proven wrong but it comes off as another denomination that attempts to go back to the beginning just like the break off protestants did to the RCC hundreds of years ago.
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    Mar 05, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    O.P. Same here..

    Don't bring it up, just walk away. Especially in GA.
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    Mar 05, 2013 4:22 PM GMT
    I never came out at church, why should I. First of all, they shouldn't be judging others for any reason. Second, I don't shout it from the mountain tops any other place, why should I do so at church?

    I want to be seen as someone for who I am, not what I am. If I converse with someone and the subject comes up, I have on issue making a comment in the course of the conversation that would out me, but my sexuality really has nothing to do with my faith and belief. I have no idea how many others are gay, str8, bi, married, divorced, alcoholics, murderers, or just your average everyday sinner and honestly, I don't need to know. I'll let God know what's in their heart, as for me, I'll just work on what's in mine.

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    Mar 05, 2013 8:21 PM GMT
    brickboy1966 said
    FranciscoC saidWhat type of denomination are you? An affirming Methodist church is going to treat your coming out differently than a Southern Baptist one.




    church of Christ.


    Pentecostal (Assemblies Of God) here. I understand you want to out in all facets of your life. God Bless. I had a private meeting with my Pastor one weekday afternoon, it didn't go well.
  • LJay

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    Mar 05, 2013 8:53 PM GMT
    CuriousJockAZ saidI think coming out for the sake of coming out in church is sort of silly. Just be yourself and hope you're accepted for that. No need for any big announcements. If they don't accept you, change churches.


    This. No real need to pick a fight. Now if you were to be involved in a small group discussion where there was some sort of empathy, ti MIGHT be a possibily, but I just can't see putting your head on the bolck. The UCC is relatively tolerant, but congregations and members vary greatly. Keep that in mind.

    I had a college roommate who went through seminary, was ordained, had been called and installed in a church and decided that it was time to come out, so he just stood up in a Sunday service in front of the whole congregation and announced that he was gay. I don't advise it.
  • brickboy1966

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    Mar 10, 2013 2:24 PM GMT
    JackDoyle saidWhy come out to your church? just keep it to yourself instead of causing unnecessary drama, like are you going to go up onstage and announce it to everyone, tell a priest or what?



    No nothing like that. Just word of mouth.