Does traveling for work affect your relationship?

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    Mar 06, 2013 8:09 PM GMT
    Hello,

    Some background here first, I've been a flight attendant for almost seven years. This requires that I travel away from home often as many as 7-10 nights per month. However, given the way may job's scheduling practices work, typically I am off 14-16 days per month, if I'm working "full-time"

    Anyways, this obviously affords me a lot of time at home even though I must be gone, which is certainly great for me because I really enjoy my time at home with my partner.

    I feel like when I leave for a few days at a time, it often gives us a little space and alone time- and while we certainly enjoy being together, it doesn't hurt the least- and it gives him valuable time to focus on his intensive office job- and work extra late hours which he will not do when I am home (likes to be home for dinner)

    Quite often when I'm away I will think about him, and have this overwhelming desire to be with him!

    In some cases...absence does make the heart grow fonder

    Anyone else have experience with your work life, and being on the road, and how it impacts your relationship wether positively, or perhaps negatively?
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    Mar 06, 2013 11:08 PM GMT
    I travel a lot for work, so I'm kind of an expert. When home I bang linglang and on the road I bang flight attendants. I know, it's complicated, but for me/us, it works.
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:26 AM GMT
    Haha, well at least I got a response!
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:29 AM GMT
    I'm a contract pilot. Yeah, traveling can be pretty difficult sometimes...both with friends and relationships (sucks to be forced to 'flake' on friends quite regularly).

    But the scenery from the cockpit is so beautiful that I wouldn't give it up for the world. icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 08, 2013 1:33 PM GMT
    paulflexes saidI'm a contract pilot. Yeah, traveling can be pretty difficult sometimes...both with friends and relationships (sucks to be forced to 'flake' on friends quite regularly).

    But the scenery from the cockpit is so beautiful that I wouldn't give it up for the world. icon_cool.gif


    As long as you let your friends know you are eager to see them when you have a chance... it's shouldn't be a problem.

    ..On the other hand a complete lack of effort based on the fact that you might flake is really no excuse.. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 08, 2013 4:05 PM GMT
    I travel often for work as well.
    And I can kind of agree with what the OP is saying.
    After being on a work trip for X amount of days I cannot wait to come home and see my boo.

    I know it sounds cheesy and all, but it's true.
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    Mar 08, 2013 4:51 PM GMT
    Yep!

    Feel the same way for sure, and I sense the same thing from him. I have these cravings to just cuddle with him!
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    Mar 09, 2013 8:26 PM GMT
    I travel every week for my job, and recently I've only had a couple of nights in town. I flew over 100,000 miles last year. It complicates things because my bf lives 70 miles away in a different city too, so I split my time, but mainly spend it with him and not with my friends (terrible I know, so hypocritical because I didn't like that my friends did that in college).

    I travel so much though that it makes possible to easily foot the bill for us to go somewhere fun over the weekend, so it's a trade off in that sense. We have had a ton of fun trips that would've been harder without my job. Also, it's a great way for both of us to save money. Long term, I want to be in the same spot, but for right now, this is the lifestlye. If ever Delta or Marriott have expiring miles and points, I will be one unhappy guy.
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    Mar 09, 2013 11:19 PM GMT
    On topic, but taking a different approach, I would love to have a job that required me to travel frequently so I don't fill my occasional free time with falling for someone. Not that it happens often, but I would much rather prefer to spend my time working, traveling, seeing the country, and making friends.
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    Mar 12, 2013 4:33 AM GMT
    As an airline steward , i totally am in agreement with your words ..icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 12, 2013 4:48 AM GMT
    FlyinBrian saidHello,

    Some background here first, I've been a flight attendant for almost seven years. This requires that I travel away from home often as many as 7-10 nights per month. However, given the way may job's scheduling practices work, typically I am off 14-16 days per month, if I'm working "full-time"

    Anyways, this obviously affords me a lot of time at home even though I must be gone, which is certainly great for me because I really enjoy my time at home with my partner.

    I feel like when I leave for a few days at a time, it often gives us a little space and alone time- and while we certainly enjoy being together, it doesn't hurt the least- and it gives him valuable time to focus on his intensive office job- and work extra late hours which he will not do when I am home (likes to be home for dinner)

    Quite often when I'm away I will think about him, and have this overwhelming desire to be with him!

    In some cases...absence does make the heart grow fonder

    Anyone else have experience with your work life, and being on the road, and how it impacts your relationship wether positively, or perhaps negatively?



    My boyfriend actually lives in Mexico City and splits his time between there and here in NYC (two months on, two months off). It has been both a blessing and a curse, but the way I see it is that all relationships have some obstacles to overcome whether they are LD or not. I feel like in the early stages especially, it really allowed us to get to know each other without all the pressure of making plans as crazy as that sounds.

    Now it's harder, but I think it does give us time to have some space and focus on ourselves a little...making us stronger and have more to share when we are together.
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    Mar 12, 2013 5:13 AM GMT
    You guys are so lucky to be making that all work! Good god, most gay people these days seem too selfish to even be willing to "let go" of the simple adjustments that need to be made. NIce work!
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    Mar 12, 2013 6:56 AM GMT
    A year in to my relationship I changed jobs that required me tone away Mon to Friday nearly every week - I found it incredibly hard, as pathetic as it sounds, for two reasons: one, I don't like living out if a case, and find the disruption quite hard especially as my and my bf don't live together, so the weekends felt like a battle between seeing him and sorting out my life (ie washing, chores, etc, and I just wanted to see him after a Tuesday night!

    I now have changed roles again, where I am sometimes away 4 nights a week, and sometimes none.

    We're currently living together - while I'm between houses - and it's actually quite nice to be away one or two nights, as then it's good to look forward to coming home for a kiss and cuddle!