As a gay male, how important is sex to you?

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    Mar 07, 2013 12:04 AM GMT
    So I'm Asexual, Im a virgin, the most I've ever done with anyone is ATTEMPT to have sex (however it never works, not with a guy or girl) I DO NOT have erectile dysfunction and I'm very well capable of getting hard...its just the stuff that turns me on about a guy isn't sexual, homo-erotic? yes..but I'm not interested in the sex component..which puts me in a very odd predicament...even my psychologist has hit a wall with me.

    For all the "normal" guys on here...how big of a deal is sex to you in a relationship? how long could you go without it? if a guy isn't as active as you are is that a deal breaker? or are you ok with it? is size that big of deal?...I attempted to experiment with someone a few weeks ago..and of course failed and he told me "i'm wasting something a lot of dudes would kill to have" (referring to my size) is size and all this other stuff THAT SERIOUS.. just curious?
  • Buddha

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    Mar 07, 2013 12:05 AM GMT
    Huge dealbreaker.
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    Mar 07, 2013 12:06 AM GMT
    I don't care about sex, i don't see what's so great about sticking your bone up someone's ass.
  • Timbales

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    Mar 07, 2013 12:13 AM GMT
    meh
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    Mar 07, 2013 12:30 AM GMT
    yourname2000 saidWithout sex, you're talking about a roommate. icon_neutral.gif


    So would you say its ok, that I wrestle with my roommate, even though it gets me hard?
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    Mar 07, 2013 12:48 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    WrestleMan said
    yourname2000 saidWithout sex, you're talking about a roommate. icon_neutral.gif


    So would you say its ok, that I wrestle with my roommate, even though it gets me hard?

    I really don't care, dude. You've gotta figure this shit out for yourself. I think Timbales said it best:

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    If you don't care, don't post.



    To the OP, perhaps if wrestling turns you on, pursue that avenue. You'll find there's a whole "community" of homos whose fetish is wrestling *cough*wrestlevic*cough* and that they'll probably be more than willing to get sweaty with you in a non-sexual way. Don't be so quick to pigeonhole yourself into society's perceived views of sexuality etc.

    While personally, sex is a natural part of a relationship to me, I don't see it as the be all and end all of a relationship. However, it is a necessarry part, but then again this is just my opinion.

    Just a bit more info - do you ever wack off to wrestling images etc, or is it just what makes you hard?

    T
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    Mar 07, 2013 12:50 AM GMT
    I'm not sure I'd want a relationship completely without it, but it's not something I'm obsessed about. I have a low drive as it is. Affection, cuddling, companionship, etc. all take more priority for me right now. But then I haven't been i a relationship so what do I know.
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    Mar 07, 2013 12:52 AM GMT
    In a relationship - couldn't do, sorry. I have the hormones of well... a 20 year old icon_biggrin.gif!

    I feel like that's taking an extra step with someone if you're deciding to give part of your body and mind to them. My two cents.
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:05 AM GMT
    For me its important to have the sexual component.Especially the slow passionate sex where its not a race to climax. Nobody says you have to have sex every day. God knows that being a bottom, there is routine cleansing involved. So for me, sex yes but within reason.
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:07 AM GMT
    It isn't my first pick but it's not always so typical that two guys completely match up even with they are sexual and you never know who you are going to otherwise find yourself quite compatible with on various other levels so as long as I could satisfy my sexual needs outside of a primary relationship, I could develop intimacy with an asexual person. I'd imagine many guys would consider that settling at best or torture at worst, but I'd also imagine most of them either take for granted what they lucked into or that they've settled themselves, only into being single.

    I'd think that ideally, especially if you are of a jealous nature that you couldn't handle your partner having sex outside your relationship, find yourself another asexual person. But that probably limits the playing field. One of the most successful partnerships I know of is a cousin of mine and her we-are-not-lesbians partner, both asexual if not in their nature, in their practice and happily partnered for more than 30 years. Anyone who says their relationship isn't completely valid is scum.
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:07 AM GMT
    WrestleMan said
    yourname2000 saidWithout sex, you're talking about a roommate. icon_neutral.gif


    So would you say its ok, that I wrestle with my roommate, even though it gets me hard?
    That is known as a fetish
    You can either pay someone or seek others that like to perform the same fetish
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 07, 2013 1:10 AM GMT
    Fiyero27 saidI'm not sure I'd want a relationship completely without it, but it's not something I'm obsessed about. I have a low drive as it is. Affection, cuddling, companionship, etc. all take more priority for me right now. But then I haven't been i a relationship so what do I know.
    You probably don't have a low libido, you probably just haven't met the right guy
  • PR_GMR

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    Mar 07, 2013 1:16 AM GMT
    Ash3000 saidI don't care about sex, i don't see what's so great about sticking your bone up someone's ass.


    Oh, so you're a bottom. Cum over here... I'm a top.. and love it! Bendaover! icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:22 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    WrestleMan said
    yourname2000 saidWithout sex, you're talking about a roommate. icon_neutral.gif


    So would you say its ok, that I wrestle with my roommate, even though it gets me hard?

    I really don't care, dude. You've gotta figure this shit out for yourself. I think Timbales said it best:

    meh. icon_rolleyes.gif


    .....right......

    Thank you for your time and participation
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:25 AM GMT
    fable said
    yourname2000 said
    WrestleMan said
    yourname2000 saidWithout sex, you're talking about a roommate. icon_neutral.gif


    So would you say its ok, that I wrestle with my roommate, even though it gets me hard?

    I really don't care, dude. You've gotta figure this shit out for yourself. I think Timbales said it best:

    meh. icon_rolleyes.gif




    If you don't care, don't post.



    To the OP, perhaps if wrestling turns you on, pursue that avenue. You'll find there's a whole "community" of homos whose fetish is wrestling *cough*wrestlevic*cough* and that they'll probably be more than willing to get sweaty with you in a non-sexual way. Don't be so quick to pigeonhole yourself into society's perceived views of sexuality etc.

    While personally, sex is a natural part of a relationship to me, I don't see it as the be all and end all of a relationship. However, it is a necessarry part, but then again this is just my opinion.

    Just a bit more info - do you ever wack off to wrestling images etc, or is it just what makes you hard?

    T


    I do, at least 3-5 times a week.
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:25 AM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 saidI don't care about sex, i don't see what's so great about sticking your bone up someone's ass.


    Oh, so you're a bottom. Cum over here... I'm a top.. and love it! Bendaover! icon_razz.gif


    um NO. that does not feel good.
  • PR_GMR

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    Mar 07, 2013 1:27 AM GMT
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 saidI don't care about sex, i don't see what's so great about sticking your bone up someone's ass.


    Oh, so you're a bottom. Cum over here... I'm a top.. and love it! Bendaover! icon_razz.gif


    um NO. that does not feel good.


    That's what all bottoms say before they start whimpering in pleasure. icon_razz.gif
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:30 AM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 saidI don't care about sex, i don't see what's so great about sticking your bone up someone's ass.


    Oh, so you're a bottom. Cum over here... I'm a top.. and love it! Bendaover! icon_razz.gif


    um NO. that does not feel good.


    That's what all bottoms say before they start whimpering in pleasure. icon_razz.gif


    I'm not a bottom or Top
  • PR_GMR

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    Mar 07, 2013 1:32 AM GMT
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 saidI don't care about sex, i don't see what's so great about sticking your bone up someone's ass.


    Oh, so you're a bottom. Cum over here... I'm a top.. and love it! Bendaover! icon_razz.gif


    um NO. that does not feel good.


    That's what all bottoms say before they start whimpering in pleasure. icon_razz.gif


    I'm not a bottom or Top


    So you're like the cream filling in an Oreo cookie then? Taking it from both ends! Ohhhh, kinky!
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:34 AM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 saidI don't care about sex, i don't see what's so great about sticking your bone up someone's ass.


    Oh, so you're a bottom. Cum over here... I'm a top.. and love it! Bendaover! icon_razz.gif


    um NO. that does not feel good.


    That's what all bottoms say before they start whimpering in pleasure. icon_razz.gif


    I'm not a bottom or Top


    So you're like the cream filling in an Oreo cookie then? Taking it from both ends! Ohhhh, kinky!


    I prefer no sex at all.
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:35 AM GMT
    yourname2000 said
    WrestleMan said.....right......

    Thank you for your time and participation

    If your therapist doesn't care, not sure why I should....you're not paying me any money to listen to your drivel.

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    I'm a little confused as to why you're still participating in this topic...I never said my therapist didn't care..YOU SAID YOU DIDN'T CARE....and you're right I am not paying you money...but I didn't SPECIFICALLY request for your input either...so again, THANK YOU, for your time and participation...no need to respond.
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:36 AM GMT
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 saidI don't care about sex, i don't see what's so great about sticking your bone up someone's ass.


    Oh, so you're a bottom. Cum over here... I'm a top.. and love it! Bendaover! icon_razz.gif


    um NO. that does not feel good.


    That's what all bottoms say before they start whimpering in pleasure. icon_razz.gif


    I'm not a bottom or Top


    So you're like the cream filling in an Oreo cookie then? Taking it from both ends! Ohhhh, kinky!


    I prefer no sex at all.


    Then you ain't gay, man. You are asexual. Good luck.. with that.
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:42 AM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 saidI don't care about sex, i don't see what's so great about sticking your bone up someone's ass.


    Oh, so you're a bottom. Cum over here... I'm a top.. and love it! Bendaover! icon_razz.gif


    um NO. that does not feel good.


    That's what all bottoms say before they start whimpering in pleasure. icon_razz.gif


    I'm not a bottom or Top


    So you're like the cream filling in an Oreo cookie then? Taking it from both ends! Ohhhh, kinky!


    I prefer no sex at all.


    Then you ain't gay, man. You are asexual. Good luck.. with that.



    I just don't have a sexual orientation that's all.
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    Mar 07, 2013 1:58 AM GMT
    Ok, sex is an integral part of any relationship as far as I'm concerned. Sure, there can be temporary/short-term suspensions of sexual activity, but I think you'll find most people repelled (99%+) by the prospect of an asexual relationship.
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    Mar 07, 2013 2:09 AM GMT
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 said
    PR_GMR said
    Ash3000 saidI don't care about sex, i don't see what's so great about sticking your bone up someone's ass.


    Oh, so you're a bottom. Cum over here... I'm a top.. and love it! Bendaover! icon_razz.gif


    um NO. that does not feel good.


    That's what all bottoms say before they start whimpering in pleasure. icon_razz.gif


    I'm not a bottom or Top


    So you're like the cream filling in an Oreo cookie then? Taking it from both ends! Ohhhh, kinky!


    I prefer no sex at all.


    Then you ain't gay, man. You are asexual. Good luck.. with that.


    Did you read his profile? He's just not that into you.... you're not his type ;(