My co worker hates me. I didn't do anything to her?!

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    Mar 07, 2013 7:31 AM GMT
    ok, I just dont get it. theres this girl I work with, and I hear from alot of people that she hates me. She started after me, and I never really introduced myself to her, But I dont do that to many people, because turnover is so high. Well my other coworkers tell me that she talks about me and says Im a B*tch, and that I was mean to her. lol she doesnt even know me. I go out with a bunch of coworkers on thursday nights, and she didnt go a few weeks ago because I was going. and she actually did come out with us last night and I guess she told people before she went out that she might do it again if I'm not a b*tch to her. lol I have no idea what shes talking about. I just assume that shes jealous of something, and take it as a compliment. Just wonder why she would give someone she hates so much control over her social life like that, lol. Well, anyways... why is she like this and how can I deal with it? like, lol
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    Mar 07, 2013 7:50 AM GMT
    Why not just ask her in a civil manner? If you don't address the issue then this will keep continuing.

    Seriously, just a couple minutes of being uncomfortable can save you days of this drama. Just ask "Hey, what's your problem with me?"
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    Mar 08, 2013 4:41 AM GMT
    Agreed. Just straight up ask her. Whats the worst that could happen, besides the honest truth? Just end the awkwardness
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    Mar 08, 2013 4:42 AM GMT
    Yea i'd just try to approach her and clear the air. There's no need for tension/drama.

    If that doesn't work...

    pee in her coffee cup.
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    Mar 08, 2013 4:50 AM GMT
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    Mar 08, 2013 5:44 AM GMT
    She's a woman, you can't rationalize their behavior because they are irrational people.
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    Mar 08, 2013 5:47 AM GMT
    Maybe she really likes you, but doesn't know how to express it?? like the little boy who pulls on the girls pig tails at school, he does it to get her attention, and doesn't know how else to express himself to her.

    But I really don't know :]
    I would just ask her.
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    Mar 08, 2013 6:15 AM GMT
    dude...... ok... she has a personality disorder... it sounds like a strong case of narcissism .... she specifically manipulates situations, and in extreme situations, they will 'rule' over a work place... or a family...

    she enforces the rule of her whim, preying on certain subjects, like yourself, who..... she knows she can play you..... she is grandiose, and lives in a weird fantasy.

    you.......either need to call her stink off yourself by completely shit storming in her face, or you will need a new job, assuming she has control of her boss too.

    these people are extremely dangerous, and will just ruin the day to day quality of life from an entire business. and from your life...... run
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    Mar 08, 2013 6:18 AM GMT
    AMoonHawk saidUse the force icon_biggrin.gif

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    this!
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    Mar 08, 2013 6:20 AM GMT
    I'd say "Did I do something to offend you?"

    And do your best to look like you care, I always had problems with that part lol

    There is about a 99% chance she's not going to be honest.. but at least you tried.
  • HorrorHound

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    Mar 08, 2013 6:23 AM GMT
    jonnyboy saiddude...... ok... she has a personality disorder... it sounds like a strong case of narcissism .... she specifically manipulates situations, and in extreme situations, they will 'rule' over a work place... or a family...

    she enforces the rule of her whim, preying on certain subjects, like yourself, who..... she knows she can play you..... she is grandiose, and lives in a weird fantasy.

    you.......either need to call her stink off yourself by completely shit storming in her face, or you will need a new job, assuming she has control of her boss too.

    these people are extremely dangerous, and will just ruin the day to day quality of life from an entire business. and from your life...... run


    You can't tell if someone has a "personality disorder" from this quickly written thread, dude. Haha. That takes session after session w/ a Psychiatrist to distinguish.
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    Mar 08, 2013 6:27 AM GMT
    HorrorHound said
    jonnyboy saiddude...... ok... she has a personality disorder... it sounds like a strong case of narcissism .... she specifically manipulates situations, and in extreme situations, they will 'rule' over a work place... or a family...

    she enforces the rule of her whim, preying on certain subjects, like yourself, who..... she knows she can play you..... she is grandiose, and lives in a weird fantasy.

    you.......either need to call her stink off yourself by completely shit storming in her face, or you will need a new job, assuming she has control of her boss too.

    these people are extremely dangerous, and will just ruin the day to day quality of life from an entire business. and from your life...... run


    You can't tell if someone has a "personality disorder" from this quickly written thread, dude. Haha. That takes session after session w/ a Psychiatrist to distinguish.


    well i disagree.... a quick scan of the story line tells of a twisted person.... it is always obvious, watch out.
  • TheAlchemixt

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    Mar 08, 2013 6:30 AM GMT
    Yes, just ask her.
  • HorrorHound

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    Mar 08, 2013 6:32 AM GMT
    jonnyboy said
    HorrorHound said
    jonnyboy saiddude...... ok... she has a personality disorder... it sounds like a strong case of narcissism .... she specifically manipulates situations, and in extreme situations, they will 'rule' over a work place... or a family...

    she enforces the rule of her whim, preying on certain subjects, like yourself, who..... she knows she can play you..... she is grandiose, and lives in a weird fantasy.

    you.......either need to call her stink off yourself by completely shit storming in her face, or you will need a new job, assuming she has control of her boss too.

    these people are extremely dangerous, and will just ruin the day to day quality of life from an entire business. and from your life...... run


    You can't tell if someone has a "personality disorder" from this quickly written thread, dude. Haha. That takes session after session w/ a Psychiatrist to distinguish.


    well i disagree.... a quick scan of the story line tells of a twisted person.... it is always obvious, watch out.


    Just because someone has a Personality Disorder doesn't make them "twisted" & "dangerous". Of course that all depends on which disorder they have.

    However the Narcocist's are ones to avoid.
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    Mar 08, 2013 7:05 AM GMT
    Pull up your big boy pants and just ask her what's up.

    Or, just have someone you know who totally knows her best friend, pass her a note in study hall asking her why she's such a bitch to you.

    That'll do it.icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 08, 2013 7:11 AM GMT
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