NO SHOWS? ARE YOU ONE.

  • Apparition

    Posts: 3515

    Mar 07, 2013 6:34 PM GMT
    This is a simple survey.

    If you are on a dating site and make a date some show up, and some bail with no explanation or decent excuse or legitimate rescheduling. What is your style for the most part:


    YES I show up

    or

    NO I think its okay to be a No Show.

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    Yes for me.
  • jtz03932

    Posts: 200

    Mar 07, 2013 6:58 PM GMT
    When searching for a hookup, the one I hate or can't stand are n00bs. That's all I have to say.
  • whytehot

    Posts: 1165

    Mar 08, 2013 2:00 AM GMT
    ^^I hear ya bro. I always quadruple-book my hookup nights, just in case someone flakes... so that for every guy I fuck, there's THREE who get fucked over. Don't hate the player, hate the game, n00bsicon_twisted.gif
  • WMassguy

    Posts: 25

    Mar 08, 2013 2:21 AM GMT
    98% the percent of the time I have shown up, the remaining 2% I cancelled from when I first started dating and my nerves get the best of me.

    Really sucks being bailed on though.. icon_neutral.gif
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    Mar 08, 2013 7:03 PM GMT
    Don't plan hook ups it makes life better.

    Plan "dates/hangouts" anything can happen
    sTUPID guys who cannot understand this concept are too dense and I have to stay away from them because they will end up infuriating you.

    Being Horny, is no reason to hang out I think

    Even so flakes happen! 20-25% are legit reasons 75% are because of lacking interest.

    The only reason for me to flake is so I can do something with someone I'm more interested in
  • BlueMoose

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    Mar 08, 2013 7:05 PM GMT
    I show up. I hate people who bail. Been happening a lot lately which is frustrating.
  • jtz03932

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    Mar 08, 2013 7:57 PM GMT
    gogo_glowstik saidDon't plan hook ups it makes life better.

    Plan "dates/hangouts" anything can happen
    sTUPID guys who cannot understand this concept are too dense and I have to stay away from them because they will end up infuriating you.

    Being Horny, is no reason to hang out I think

    Even so flakes happen! 20-25% are legit reasons 75% are because of lacking interest.

    The only reason for me to flake is so I can do something with someone I'm more interested in


    It's not just hookups bro. I know first time can be nervewrecking sure, but come on now. In reality what's the worst that could happen to them? It's like meeting a stranger out on the street... It's a hookup. Granted certain things could happen to you but when you have some who've done it a few times it's not really a concern. Not a date or marriage. That's why you have a little chat before in person. That was when I used to hookup... They always find an excuse as to why they bail or perform a vanishing trick. The dating scene is sometimes like that too.
  • CuriousJockAZ

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    Mar 08, 2013 8:00 PM GMT
    I would never just NOT show up. I might cancel, but I wouldn't just not show with no explanation or notice. That's just rude.
  • Import

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    Mar 08, 2013 8:16 PM GMT
    ^^^ what this guys said.

    I wouldn't just disappear if I said I was gonna meet up, however if I do decide I no longer wanna meet up, I'll shoot a txt at the very least letting them know we're no longer meeting. Common courtesy really.
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    Mar 08, 2013 8:40 PM GMT
    I've had guys not show up three times in a row ^^ That's when I really started to hate dating.

    I know myself and I would NEVER EVER not show up without sending a text or making a call.
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    Mar 08, 2013 8:47 PM GMT
    jtz03932 said
    gogo_glowstik saidDon't plan hook ups it makes life better.

    Plan "dates/hangouts" anything can happen
    sTUPID guys who cannot understand this concept are too dense and I have to stay away from them because they will end up infuriating you.

    Being Horny, is no reason to hang out I think

    Even so flakes happen! 20-25% are legit reasons 75% are because of lacking interest.

    The only reason for me to flake is so I can do something with someone I'm more interested in


    It's not just hookups bro. I know first time can be nervewrecking sure, but come on now. In reality what's the worst that could happen to them? It's like meeting a stranger out on the street... It's a hookup. Granted certain things could happen to you but when you have some who've done it a few times it's not really a concern. Not a date or marriage. That's why you have a little chat before in person. That was when I used to hookup... They always find an excuse as to why they bail or perform a vanishing trick. The dating scene is sometimes like that too.


    In the girl vs guy world a guy may give a girl."3 strikes". We're both dudes, flake 1 time without offering a reschedule or raincheck and that's plenty reason to never talk to them again.

    Once a flake happens your best bet is to freeze them out. Don't react immediately and if they feel bad about it or guilty then maybe they'll try to make amends

    Flaking is a serious hang up for me and It usually incenses me, I get mad and want the flake to feel some of the pain I feel. Yeah I am trying to work on it

    If any of you guys are trying a 2nd and 3rd time I don't understand that

    I NEVER want to be on the receiving end of a bullshit "sorry" text or "you're gonna hate me soo much..."
    Fuck that (hasn't happened for 2 weeks ha )

  • jtz03932

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    Mar 08, 2013 10:09 PM GMT
    Lol... Even if they offer you a reschedule they flake out on you again. This time it's even worse because they don't respond to text messages and emails. No explanations. They just vanish.

    I had a guy once I intended to hookup but instead he looked like a nice guy so we just chatted and went for coffee. I even paid for his order. We showed interest together as if we were friends. And then another guy I went with to see a movie together instead of a hookup. I paid for his movie ticket. The next day they just vanish. No text messages... No phone response.... Nothing.

    That's why I am leery of meeting people online for a hookup and even dating.
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    Mar 08, 2013 10:18 PM GMT
    The only way I would make arrangements to meet is if really wanted to see the man.
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    Mar 08, 2013 10:19 PM GMT
    Aristoshark saidInteresting. The OP expects that those would actually do this would publicly admit it.

    #NaiveOrStupidYouDecide


    EXACTLY

    + simply not showing up without a notice is a sign of disrespect and says something about manners of the person
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    Mar 08, 2013 10:34 PM GMT
    I've never not had a date show up.. And I've never not shown up. One time a guy was 45 minutes late, that's about the worst icon_razz.gif

    I don't really plan on hooking up, I usually just meet the person when it happens.
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    Mar 09, 2013 12:20 AM GMT
    I once turned up for a date and the 30 year old middle eastern guy who I was messaging didn't turn up but a white guy in his 60s came over to chat and seemed to know I was waiting for a date with a man. Compared to that crap being stood up is not a bad result.
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    Mar 09, 2013 4:14 AM GMT
    Yes I have always shown up - and luckily I have not been stood up yet.
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 09, 2013 1:44 PM GMT
    klobasnik said
    Aristoshark saidInteresting. The OP expects that those would actually do this would publicly admit it.

    #NaiveOrStupidYouDecide


    EXACTLY

    + simply not showing up without a notice is a sign of disrespect and says something about manners of the person


    If they didn't show up they did you a favor and saved you from having to figure out they were a douchebag
  • MidwesternKid

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    Mar 09, 2013 11:21 PM GMT
    If you plan on showing up, then show up.

    If you don't want to go on the date you planned, then be honest and tell him you don't want to go.
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    Mar 13, 2013 6:58 AM GMT
    I've almost done it. Was terrifying the first time I went to meet a guy, almost left but I pulled through.
    I;d never flake on a guy without at least sending him some sort of message.