What is your role to the society as a gay man ?

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    Mar 08, 2013 5:07 AM GMT
    its such a stereotype that gays love butts & are into sex most of the time.
    bitter but true, forgive me if I'm harsh on words.
    1) I see prides & see naked men exhibiting their body & behave like sluts all the way.
    2) out of so many profiles how many actively involve in the social changes in those countries where gays are put to death legally ?
    3) Except for the 'fun' thing, how many remain loyal to a true lover.
    4) I get pissed off dreaming oneday the death penalties would be banished in the middle-east for a simple preference of lover .male or female.
    5) its so assumed that gays are crap but how many prove it to others as a representative that a gay man = straight man


    even after so much freedom in the West for gays ,there are a very few who take a social role for a real change

    everyday I get messages for "sex, c2c , I love you,you are my dream man ,etc" but never for "how is your life in Middle-east even after death penalties for a gay person?"

    I don't mean to say sex is bad but sex 24/7 ,365 is nothing but of no use.
    if you are free in a liberal country,its your moral duty to help others who are being hunted daily.
    its the people in the educated,social world to bring the change & not those who live with knifes hanging on head,how can one change the society unless he gets support,lectures over speeches of all presidents but none taking a strong stand

    help the gays in the not just the Middle-east , but elsewhere in jamaica too

    its your turn now
    you are educated, have internet,media,freedom ,power , take your role as a revolutionist than just a curse or shame or the stereotypes the world frames us


    think of how lucky you are to be who you are & how fearful we are knowing we'd be nomore after saying it
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    Mar 08, 2013 5:12 AM GMT
    You get sex related messages everyday and I don't? What am I doing wrong?icon_rolleyes.gif
  • FitAquarian

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    Mar 08, 2013 5:42 AM GMT
    I don't presume to know how hard it must be to live as a gay Arab under those repressive regimes although I know that all gay men have struggled with equality during their lifetimes. Although Americans are some of the most free people in the world, there are still many people who feel like coming out would jeopardize their careers or families.

    Madonna was able to transgress many religious taboos in the 80's by introducing sexual iconography in her videos but was told during her recent tour that she could not criticize the more fundamental aspects of Islam and their treatment of gays/women. Just as their is fear in America of opposing the mainstream media or religious right, there is an even greater fear of standing up to those regimes since you can pay with your life.

    I don't really understand why you want to put all gay men on a pedestal. Truth be told, we are no different in that we have plenty of good and bad, shallow and complex among us. We also make mistakes just like everyone else. However, I see the ability to live life and make our own mistakes as a celebration of freedom and not necessarily taking our freedom for granted.

    As for why you might be getting those messages, it might be because some of your profile pics are quite suggestive.

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    Mar 08, 2013 5:57 AM GMT
    i dont mean to offend anyone its just anger & lack of big organizations to make a mark , UN ,EU & many such have many gays working but they fall blind
    well it doesnt mean just every gay guy
    its a classification of the guys without social motives I other who are just into sexuals
    i dont want the hype over the plain sex messages many recieve ,i mean to say very few guys on the gay websites discuss about issues all the first ask is :top or bottom ?

    i mean it
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    Mar 08, 2013 6:18 AM GMT
    Zeriel saidi dont mean to offend anyone its just anger & lack of big organizations to make a mark , UN ,EU & many such have many gays working but they fall blind
    well it doesnt mean just every gay guy
    its a classification of the guys without social motives I other who are just into sexuals
    i dont want the hype over the plain sex messages many recieve ,i mean to say very few guys on the gay websites discuss about issues all the first ask is :top or bottom ?

    i mean it


    I have tended to find that gay contact websites are not good places to discuss "issues". Gay contact websites are where homosexual nymphomaniacs go to escape their issues and trawl for sex meets.

    @ Jewlicious: perhaps you neglected to register and install profiles on Grindr, BumCruise, BUTT-FUCK.COM etc.... icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 08, 2013 11:02 AM GMT
    holy god , i made this topic for those guys who have never worked socially ,encouraginh them to take a serious role for te LGBT

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    Mar 08, 2013 1:41 PM GMT
    Zeriel saidholy god , i made this topic for those guys who have never worked socially ,encouraging them to take a serious role for the LGBT

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    Therefore you didn't make this topic for my partner & me. But perhaps as a reinforcing example, here's what we've done recently and will this weekend (in the relative safety of South Florida, I'll admit, no personal heroics involved):

    - Staffing an outdoor booth at the annual Pride Fest, for an organization that raises money for HIV/AIDS non-profit agencies ($880k USD last year). We're 64 & 79, and we'll set the booth up and break it down ourselves, and we'll be outside for 10 hours each day, mostly on our feet.
    - Later this afternoon I'll be working on creating flyers we're having printed for another HIV/AIDS fundraising effort.
    - This morning we're driving to rehearse my partner's vocal number for an upcoming social event, in the heart of Republican Land (Boca Raton). He still has a strong voice, and we'll both be guests and performers. We attend these events as a gay couple, to promote our various LGBT community causes, and I've faced some nasty hostility from local conservatives who don't want us there. Too bad; I politely stand my ground and defend our community. We actually get some good contributions from some of the attendees.
    - On Tuesday we attended a luncheon with members of the Gay Polo League. I think the GPL is another way to put LGBT out where the wealthy conservative base can see us, on terms they understand, and might accept. I'm considering more involvement with them, though I certainly won't be playing polo myself - golf with right-wingers is the most I can manage.
    - A few days earlier we attended a networking mixer for LGBT business people & professionals, one of two such organizations in which we participate. We're stronger as a group than as individuals, and I look for opportunities to amplify our community influence.

    Yeah, these are low-key things, hardly manning the barricades. But if enough of us do them, do SOMETHING, our presence will be felt in US society. Plus many things can be targeting needful charities, like HIV/AIDS, and homeless gay youth, which I also do. It's certainly more effective than doing nothing.
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    Mar 08, 2013 1:43 PM GMT
    wow u are an icon
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    Mar 08, 2013 1:49 PM GMT
    I just saw your adult pics..omg you really have to trim your bush.. Your penis is probably really upset with you right now!!
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    Mar 08, 2013 1:52 PM GMT
    Zeriel saidwow u are an icon

    I don't know if you're being sarcastic, but no, my partner & I are not icons. These are easy & fun things to do, especially when you have the luxury of being retired.

    We both lost a previous partner to AIDS. HIV is our primary focus, but other aspects of the gay community tie into that.

    My point in the post above, in answer to your post, is to do SOMETHING. Maybe at 30 or 40 you can't do as much as us. But make the attempt.

    And guess what? We have so much fun doing it that it's indecent! The action is the reward. So just get out there and do something, even minor little community things. It all helps.
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    Mar 08, 2013 2:02 PM GMT
    of course u are !
    in a good manner
    its worthy of your efforts for the community ,it gave me an idea ,im now gonna involve hiv & std's humans contact , its very sensitive but i can try my hand in some social service

    hiv & aids patients never come out in mid-east as its a taboo & many people avoid even talking of sex in a public , std's are sin for the socities & foreigners with hiv are deported back too

    its must be humilitating for any such person living in M-East

    u gave me an idea to spread & use internet assistance & consulting
  • Medjai

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    Mar 08, 2013 4:25 PM GMT
    Honestly, I don't do a lot. Gays really are a small percentage of the population, that are treated relatively well here. What do I volunteer my time to?

    - homeless shelters
    - building houses for the impoverished
    - HIV/AIDS research (number one infectious killer in the world)
    - children

    That is where my time, effort, and money goes, because that is the biggest need I can affect right now. Gays get back burner.
  • mybud

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    Mar 08, 2013 4:31 PM GMT
    Your role is to be a MAN first.....Gay second....The End.
  • leeuwtje

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    Mar 08, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    how is your life in Middle-east even after death penalties for a gay person?
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    Mar 08, 2013 8:29 PM GMT
    my sexual orientation is a part of who i am. i don't let it dictate everything that i do. never understood how some gay guys let other people define what they should do and what they should be because they're gay. who says that because you're gay you have to listen to lady gaga or another female pop artist? fuck that. i feel that i should be able to do what i want without being lumped into a box because of my sexual orientation with some exceptions of course. i won't eat a chik-fil-a or show support to the salvation army because they're against the cause. however, i like hip hop and rap. although there are some artists that say homophobic slurs and etc, if i like their music or them as an artist, i'll still listen to them.