The Wristband Diary

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    Mar 08, 2013 9:59 PM GMT
    Hey guys, I was thinking of doing this for some time and recently I read this thread: http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3062311 and made the decision to get a rainbow wristband. Because most people don't know about me not being straight and I'm not that easily recognizable my chances of meeting a guy in real life are pretty slim.

    I wonder if you guys have any experience with this kind of "coming out" and I will be thankful for any of your advice, ideas etc.

    In meanwhile I'm going to give you my initial feelings and observations, as I decided to wear it for a week without a break.

    day 1: I bought the wristband in the afternoon and had it on my way home. It's winter so it's not visible most of the time under my coat, but when I had to hold myself in the bus everybody could see it. I felt like I'm showing absolute strangers a very personal thing. You don't see others walking around with a sign:"I'm straight."
    Later during the evening I was at my job at a gas station. There was only one costumer who noticed it, he seemed rather disgusted. My female colleague confessed to me about having a lesbian experience.

    day 2: Today I was only at a dinner with few of my friends. Only two of them already knew that I'm not heterosexual. When the other guys arrived each one of them noticed the rainbow wristband but none of them said a word.
  • 1blind_dog

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    Mar 09, 2013 4:23 AM GMT
    I think it's a good idea and a cool social experiment, though, I hope you can get more comfortable with referring to yourself as "gay" or "homosexual" rather than something in the negative.
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    Mar 09, 2013 4:32 AM GMT
    More power to you man!!
    ..I hope you have mostly positive experiences.

    ...My social experiment..

    The Dildo Diary..

    1) Dress like a unicorn
    2) Instead of a horn.. I'd glue a Giant White Dildo to my Forehead.
    3) Strap up a hidden camera
    4) Head to the nearest police station icon_eek.gif

    5) This could be my last post ever
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    Mar 09, 2013 4:34 AM GMT
    Anocxu saidMore power to you man!!
    ..I hope you have mostly positive experiences.

    ...My social experiment..

    The Dildo Diary..

    1) Dress like a unicorn
    2) Instead of a horn.. I'd glue a Giant White Dildo to my Forehead.
    3) Strap up a hidden camera
    4) Head to the nearest police station icon_eek.gif

    5) This could be my last post ever


    White Dildo? oh ah, Ive never seen a white dildo
  • nic_m3

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    Mar 09, 2013 4:36 AM GMT
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    That's funny I thought I was being original back in september when I ordered this from the human rights campaign. It finally faded in january so I ordered a bunch more and gave them to friends who now wear them at work.
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    Mar 09, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    Have you tried wearing a shirt that says something like "i'm gay" or "LGBT"? Iono. Something more pronounced that a wristband.
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    Mar 09, 2013 6:30 AM GMT
    aidenMaximus saidHave you tried wearing a shirt that says something like "i'm gay" or "LGBT"? Iono. Something more pronounced that a wristband.


    I think he's just being subtle about it. Besides, you can wear a wristband daily without having to wash it (which you would have to for a shirt).

    I think the wristband is a GREAT idea, look forward to hearing about how it goes for you! I think I might wanna get one also, thanks for the idea icon_biggrin.gif
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 09, 2013 6:35 AM GMT
    I've been wearing a rainbow ring for years
    At first strangers would say I like your ring now no one even notices ... I think there is a point when it just becomes a part of you and nobody notices it ... or maybe I need to get a new shinier ringl

    Mine is almost exactly like this:
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    I also wear another one like this some times, so one on each hand
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    Mar 09, 2013 12:54 PM GMT
    aidenMaximus saidHave you tried wearing a shirt that says something like "i'm gay" or "LGBT"? Iono. Something more pronounced that a wristband.


    I have to find a shop which makes them in my language first. But I would get one, it would be cool. Maybe I'll have to design it myself because of the lack of demand here.
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    Mar 09, 2013 12:58 PM GMT
    1blind_dog saidI think it's a good idea and a cool social experiment, though, I hope you can get more comfortable with referring to yourself as "gay" or "homosexual" rather than something in the negative.


    I refer to myself mostly as not straight because it's easier. I consider myself bisexual, but hey maybe I'm wrong, maybe I'm homosexual after all. And it's much simpler to tell people I'm not hetero, because when I tell them I'm bisexual they give me this look saying, yeah sure another fagot who's hiding behind bisexualism, or they start to ask me things about my private life trying to find out how much I'm into girls and how much I'm into guys.
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    Mar 09, 2013 1:29 PM GMT
    i wear the white wrist band. It holds several meanings but i wear it for equality.
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    Mar 09, 2013 2:36 PM GMT
    1. Why do you feel the need to let people know?
    2. Online stuff - Grindr, RJ, Craigslist, etc. - make it easier to find guys to date.
    3. No one does wristbands anymore. Lance Armstrong ruined them for ALL of us.
    4. "Fagot?" Sounds like there might be an issue with all this. If there is, get help. It's 2013.
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    Mar 10, 2013 1:27 AM GMT
    rickmenbashi said1. Why do you feel the need to let people know?
    2. Online stuff - Grindr, RJ, Craigslist, etc. - make it easier to find guys to date.
    3. No one does wristbands anymore. Lance Armstrong ruined them for ALL of us.
    4. "Fagot?" Sounds like there might be an issue with all this. If there is, get help. It's 2013.


    1) I would like to meet more potential partners. Also forcjng myself to come out to people I wouldn't normally is helping me to get used to talk about it.
    2) I would like to meet a guy in real life. Most of the guys online look for sex only.
    3) I do.
    4) Yes, some people still use this word.
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    Mar 10, 2013 1:31 AM GMT
    day 3: Besides one guy in a bus no one noticed. The guy stood like half a meter besides me, facing me, after he noticed the wristband.
    My dad noticed the wristband. He said he has tons of them for free and that I'm stupid that I paid for it. (Thanks dad, you're always such a support.)
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    Mar 11, 2013 7:34 PM GMT
    day 5: I wore the wristband to the uni today, I was having a thesis checkup with my supervisor professor. I was really afraid that she will freak out or something, but either she didn't notice or she's even more cool than I thought.
    I wished people would notice it more, so I can actually have some reactions to write about. I'm definitely getting a "Yes, I'm gay!" tshirt next...
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    Mar 11, 2013 8:21 PM GMT
    (Personally I think this would make a great documentary).



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    Mar 12, 2013 8:33 AM GMT
    Anocxu said(Personally I think this would make a great documentary).




    So much drama and action! Worth for thousands of pages of a script.

    But there is something remarkable that happened and I didn't see that one coming. Some of my virtual gay friends told me that it's too gay to wear a rainbow wristband. Like if I took my coolness and threw it in a trash basket. I mean, is it a value to be as straight as possible? Besides I'm still the same person as before.

    The wristband says:"PRIDE", and you know what? I actually feel proud!