HELP bleeding after bottoming, how much blood is too much

  • jackthejock

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    Mar 09, 2013 7:02 AM GMT
    My boyfriend and I were having sex and I might have been a bit too rough with him. Even though we used lots of lube and used toys to get ready before the act. It was about an hour ago and he has gone to the bathroom twice and each time there was bright blood.

    I am searching and searching online to try and find any sort of info to determine whether or not this is just a simple fissure or if it could be something more serious that requires a trip to the hospital. I've read online that a colon perforation can even be fatal but it said symptoms would include nausea, vomiting and fever...he says he does feel a bit nauseous but that could just be anxiety about the blood. I asked him on a 1-10 pain scale how it felt and he said a dull 4.

    Does anybody have any idea how to tell if this is just the sort of minor tearing that will heal in a few days or if we should go to the ER?


    I've searched some other forum threads and am not finding anything and in most threads people take it off on an STD/HIV tangent...for the record we have been monogamous for over 18 months and have both had STD screens in the past six months that came back clean. He actually participates in an HPV study and got a vaccine and gets examined for that every four months and just went three weeks ago and was clean of that as well.
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    Mar 09, 2013 7:20 AM GMT
    see Hemorrhoid thread, might be an innie, since your in LA, here is a great place to start, ive seen some happy gays come out of here icon_lol.gif/www.lacolon.com/

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3066909/
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    Mar 09, 2013 4:05 PM GMT
    Spot bleeding happens... and honestly, bleeding does too, but don't give it more than a day of consistent bleeding before it might be something more serious.
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    Mar 09, 2013 4:14 PM GMT
    How much blood are you talking about? A couple of spots on the toilet paper or a pool of blood in the water? If he is stating a pain scale of 4, it could very well be a hemorrhoidal tear or a fissure. If it's a fissure, the pain is usually during defication and then the anal tissue feels fleshy...as if something is stuck.

    Have your boyfriend wear white underwear so he can check for frequent spotting. If the next bowel movements produce more blood than usual, then you either need to seek immediate attention depending on how he feels or go to a colorectal surgeon who will perform an anoscopy to find the problem. Usually, the problem goes away with a good fiber intake, which will soften the stool and allow the wound to heal. Good luck to you both!

    Oh yeah....lay off the fucking until you get the issue resolved.
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    Mar 09, 2013 4:16 PM GMT
    Sounds like hemorrhoids. I had that once when I went way way far and rough. It bled a bit for the first day, but minor bleeding on consecutive days. Took me a week to heal though. Eating fiber helps as well.

    It's most likely an internal tear, you stud. Be gentle next time icon_lol.gif
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    Mar 09, 2013 5:22 PM GMT
    Why not just take him to a doctor, jackthejock?
  • jackthejock

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    Mar 09, 2013 6:22 PM GMT
    There was bood in the bowl this morning too, about a table spoon and he hasn't had any stool yet but apparently he also didn't eat yesterday until after we had sex because of too many work meetings, and he used an enema before sex so maybe not having a BM is to be expected thus far. Last night about every hour or so he felt he had to go and then there was just a small ammount of blood but no stool when he went and then it would be fine for a while. But we slept for seven hours so after seven hours just a table spoons of mucusy blood doesn't seem like that much and it is bright red, not dark blood.

    I've suggested repeatedly that he go to urgent care or something and get checked out and offered to take him and wait with him. I said don't put pride or fear of embarassment over your health and safety, that'd I'd be there for him if he was scared but he doesn't want to go. Reading more on perforation it says there would be intense pain, nausa, fever and vomiting or diarhea...none of which he has so hemeroids is my theory too. I've told him to get some metamucil and eat salad and soup and fruit and if it doesn't get better today to go to the dr tomorrow no excuses.
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    Mar 11, 2013 9:13 AM GMT
    scruffLA saidsee Hemorrhoid thread, might be an innie, since your in LA, here is a great place to start, ive seen some happy gays come out of here icon_lol.gif/www.lacolon.com/

    http://www.realjock.com/gayforums/3066909/


    Lacolon.com.....they are great doctors.....I went for a problem unrelated to bottoming haha....but as I sat in waiting room I noticed old people and lots of hot guys icon_smile.gif.
  • jackthejock

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    Mar 13, 2013 6:24 AM GMT
    well it's been a few days and he says it has gotten better slowly, I am still trying to convince him to go to the doctor just for piece of mind but he doesn't want to so I guess that's that for now.
  • WApilot

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    Mar 17, 2013 12:20 PM GMT
    Well, the doctor is always the best thing, rather than relying on webmd or what we say here on rj.

    But, it could be a hemorrhoid or an anal fissure. I've had an AF before and it sucks. To explain an AF, it's like when you have cracked lips, that small cut can be really painful, well that's kind of similar to a small tear in the anus. It's particularly hard to clear up because the anus is constantly being used to have a BM.

    With time, not forcing a BM, wipe softly, use particular creams to recover the spot (I used lip baum, same formula, worked the same), it will heal on its own. If it persist after a certain amount of time, seek medical attention immediately as it might be something more severe. But for now, he should abstain from bottoming and take it easy, eat a high fiber diet, drink lots of water to help his stool soften up.

    Best of luck to you both.
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    Mar 18, 2013 7:47 AM GMT
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    Apr 11, 2013 3:19 PM GMT
    that fact that you are bleeding is enough of a huge mistake