Just had sex for the first time

  • fLiP21

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    Mar 09, 2013 5:19 PM GMT
    Hey everyone,
    I just had sex for the first time last night and it was great icon_biggrin.gif. The thing is that I'm concerned of contracting a STD. Are there any safety tips to prevent any infection such as syphilis, gonorrhea, etc. when engaging in sexual intercourse? I know that using a condom is a must and that you should never brush or floss at least an hour before sex. What I mean by safety tips are simple but meaningful and significant strategies to prevent infection such as keeping your eyes and mouth closed if you're getting cummed on in the face.

    Thanks!
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    Mar 10, 2013 2:06 PM GMT
    Congrats on getting laid! The only true way to prevent getting an STD is abstinence. Good luck to you!
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    Mar 10, 2013 2:08 PM GMT
    Wow! You got a facial for your first time??!?! It must've been special!! LOL
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    Mar 10, 2013 2:20 PM GMT
    fLiP21 saidHey everyone,
    I just had sex for the first time last night and it was great icon_biggrin.gif. The thing is that I'm concerned of contracting a STD. Are there any safety tips to prevent any infection such as syphilis, gonorrhea, etc. when engaging in sexual intercourse? I know that using a condom is a must and that you should never brush or floss at least an hour before sex. What I mean by safety tips are simple but meaningful and significant strategies to prevent infection such as keeping your eyes and mouth closed if you're getting cummed on in the face.

    Thanks!

    Congrats, I think. Really, you should have answered these questions BEFORE having your first sex. Google for agencies in your area that offer information. CAPS and COMPASS are 2 that I've worked with. Good luck.
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    Mar 10, 2013 2:46 PM GMT
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  • HndsmKansan

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    Mar 10, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    Well first, congrats for getting it on... I'll I can add is make sure you know the facts prior to getting involved, be responsible and I say "know your partner" before you head to bed. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be safe, but I do think it helps a great deal.
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    Mar 10, 2013 2:51 PM GMT
    Erik101 saidCongrats on getting laid! The only true way to prevent getting an STD is abstinence. Good luck to you!


    Or you can fuck a Real Doll.

    http://www.realdoll.com/cgi-bin/snav.rd?action=viewpage&section=mrealdoll2
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    Mar 10, 2013 3:21 PM GMT
    HndsmKansan saidWell first, congrats for getting it on... I'll I can add is make sure you know the facts prior to getting involved, be responsible and I say "know your partner" before you head to bed. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be safe, but I do think it helps a great deal.


    Agreed, know your partner! Like date him? Talk to him? Do things together, this is called "romance" for all you interested readers.

    If you are just looking for sex, good luck man!
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    Mar 10, 2013 3:29 PM GMT
    Congrats!
  • Bunjamon

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    Mar 10, 2013 3:50 PM GMT
    Knowing the person you're having sex with enough to trust him when he says he was tested 3 months prior and did not test positive for anything is a start, and sleeping with people who have a good head on their shoulders and are also pro-safe sex is a good strategy, too.

    There is no 100% effective way to prevent STDs. Some are transfered by skin to skin contact, and a condom will not prevent those.

    Since you're under 26, you could consider the Gardasil vaccine: http://www.cdc.gov/vaccines/pubs/vis/downloads/vis-hpv-gardasil.pdf
  • Destinharbor

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    Mar 10, 2013 3:59 PM GMT
    Congrats, man. Ya, find a local clinic and just tell them your concerns. As was said there's no way to stay completely safe so just get educated about the one's that are hard to get rid of and don't be shy about talking to your prospective partner about things before you jump into bed. It seems awkward at first but you get used to it and if they're interested in staying safe, too, they won't mind. If they do mind you probably should rethink the partner. But that won't happen so don't worry. Sex is great and you should be enjoying it, not worry. But do get educated.
  • fLiP21

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    Mar 10, 2013 4:25 PM GMT
    Thanks everyone ! I appreciate all the responses. I'll definitely visit one of the local clinics and do some more research
  • Karl

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    Mar 10, 2013 4:31 PM GMT
    lolwut ?
    congrats icon_cool.gif
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    Mar 10, 2013 4:34 PM GMT
    you poor thing....you have no idea ..you just opened pandora's box..good luck.
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    Mar 10, 2013 4:39 PM GMT
    time 2 research this stuff is BEFORE u have sex.
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    Mar 10, 2013 4:40 PM GMT
    Best way iz You know who Ur having sex with

    O n congrats
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    Mar 10, 2013 5:10 PM GMT
    JOOU saidBest way iz You know who Ur having sex with

    O n congrats


    The only safe sex is monogamy.
  • gwuinsf

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    Mar 15, 2013 10:56 PM GMT
    Well, you definitely don't want cum getting in your eyes, disease-free or not. While I don't have first hand experience, I have been told that it can be painful, very uncomfortable and difficult to get out.

    In terms of behavior, having someone cum in your mouth is relatively low risk, provided you don't have open sores in your mouth. But it seems like you knew that.

    Look, there is no way to be 100% risk free unless you want to be celibate. You can get gonorrhea or chlamydia in the throat for giving someone a blow job, even if they don't cum in your mouth. You can get herpes from kissing someone. You can get a staph infection from rubbing up against someone's body. Getting gonorrhea or chlamydia is not the end of the world. The important thing is to protect yourself from the life threatening ones.

    I also recommend you go and get your Hepatitis vaccines. You can get it at any men's health clinic. I don't know about where you live, but in SF and LA our street fairs have booths all the time giving out the vaccine for free. That's where I got mine.

    Syphillis appears to be going around as well, especially in NY. I just got my vaccine for that because I was in NY during Sandy.
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    Mar 15, 2013 10:58 PM GMT
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    Mar 16, 2013 12:35 AM GMT
    tereseus1 saidyou poor thing....you have no idea ..you just opened pandora's box..good luck.


    Or, Pandora opened his box. icon_twisted.gif

    OP: Sex is risky. Consider visiting an HIV/AIDS services organization and get sum edumamecation. Take part in peer group discussions so that you can listen and learn.

    Establish and know your risk appetite, risk tolerances, and risk thresholds before you proceed further into the unknown.

    You're an adult now. Make adult decisions based on reliable information.

    And, don't forget to have fun!
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    Mar 16, 2013 12:39 AM GMT
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    Mar 16, 2013 12:53 AM GMT
    I'm glad it was a good experience. Your first time sticks with you for the rest of your life. It's wonderful if it's special.

    Re: STD's, three important things - 1) Always use protection 2) Know who you're having sex with and hopefully connect emotionally beforehand, and 3) Get tested regularly

    Best of luck
  • Apparition

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    Mar 16, 2013 5:27 AM GMT
    get your hep shots. and hpv if you are young enough (but i think its 24).

    also, learn to ask questions, and know that sex is about negotiation and you have the power to say things and ask things, and keep in communication.


    And put a post it note on his forehead with his name on it, so you know who he is in the morning.