What do people without personalities do?

  • chris_hasting...

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    Mar 09, 2013 5:38 PM GMT
    I was thinking about the friends I have and how for the most part we all have biggish personalities, well defined at least. What does someone without personality.... do? what do they contribute to a group and what goes through their head when they are in said group, around all these people WITH personalities?

    are they basically just a shadow... always there but rarely noticed and never contributing?
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    Mar 09, 2013 5:41 PM GMT
    This is introvert territory (and extreme introvert areas really)
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    Mar 09, 2013 5:42 PM GMT
    "mushrooms"
  • carew28

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    Mar 09, 2013 5:45 PM GMT
    Well, they are probably the listeners, rather than the speakers. All speakers need to have listeners, otherwise it would defeat the purpose of speaking. The listeners probably do speak up too, but they tend to do it in private. one-on-one conversations, rather than in groups.
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 09, 2013 5:50 PM GMT
    Everyone has a personality, even if it is a quiet one
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    Mar 09, 2013 5:50 PM GMT
    you might be confusing personalities with ego's?

    or the role personalities play, and why people have them at all..
  • jo2hotbod

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    Mar 09, 2013 6:51 PM GMT
    If they are part of the group they are a friend and probably enjoying the company and conversations of friends
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    Mar 09, 2013 9:08 PM GMT
    Sometimes I pretend to have no personality so annoying people will lose interest in talking to me.
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    Mar 09, 2013 9:10 PM GMT
    Give them alcohol. Almost always makes their personalities come out. icon_lol.gif
  • Andrushka

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    Mar 09, 2013 9:13 PM GMT
    chris_hastings1 saidI was thinking about the friends I have and how for the most part we all have biggish personalities, well defined at least. What does someone without personality.... do? what do they contribute to a group and what goes through their head when they are in said group, around all these people WITH personalities?

    are they basically just a shadow... always there but rarely noticed and never contributing?


    I would ask how to help them not what do they do?! If your friends are without personality everything depends on you when they are around. Your way of treating them and way of seeing them. People are so different!
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    Mar 09, 2013 9:28 PM GMT
    jonnyboy saidyou might be confusing personalities with ego's?



    mmmmmmm waffles
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 09, 2013 9:35 PM GMT
    Ape others
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    Mar 09, 2013 9:39 PM GMT
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    Having a "big" personality is not the same as having a good personality. A lot of outgoing people are obnoxious and boring.

    Quieter people, whether they are shy are introverted, have to find their own place to fit in. They may not like being in the same company as very outgoing people. It's up to each person to figure out what social situation suits them. If they are too shy to fit in where they want, then it's up to them to overcome that shyness. Otherwise, they can find quieter activities to do.
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    Mar 09, 2013 9:40 PM GMT
    Join RJ.
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    Mar 09, 2013 10:10 PM GMT
    jo2hotbod saidIf they are part of the group they are a friend and probably enjoying the company and conversations of friends
    Yup, I'm the "enjoy the moment" type of guy. I usually don't initiate conversations, but I'll chime in if something interesting comes up. Or if for some reason the conversation comes back to me, I'll try to keep it going.

    Or somehow deflect it to someone else. icon_lol.gif
  • chris_hasting...

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    Mar 09, 2013 10:20 PM GMT
    what i'm really asking is what do boring as fuck people who don't actually listen do?

    i'm not talking about the LISTENER's because they provide an ear to a group and are generally the ones that people talk to when they need advice etc.


    i'm talking about the guys that are so freaking boring (yet also self absorbed) who don't listen... yet don't talk much either..... that you want to shoot yourself in the face hanging out with them.

    i hung out with a guy a couple times and he had a shitload of issues but the main thing about him that bothered me was how freaking boring he was... he wasn't even listener-dull, where i could entertain myself by making him laugh or just let myself talk to an ear.... just a boring little dick.

    what do they do? what is going on in there head?
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    Mar 09, 2013 10:21 PM GMT
    So at this point, you're just trying to troll us? That's boring.
  • chris_hasting...

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    Mar 09, 2013 10:24 PM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidSo at this point, you're just trying to troll us? That's boring.


    no... you guys are mistaking quiet types for no personality... quiet people can have personalities.

    but this guy would invite me over to hang out yet i had to pull teeth to have a conversation and i could tell he didn't give a shit what I said unless it was about him in some way.

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    Mar 09, 2013 10:26 PM GMT
    Then next time, don't go over there.
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 09, 2013 10:29 PM GMT
    The devil's having a two for one sale on personalities and hotness. You can mix and match for the price of one soul. You can also pick up a love potion that's guaranteed to work, but that will cost your mother's soul. The prices are steep, but think of all the fun you'll have!icon_razz.gif
  • Andrushka

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    Mar 09, 2013 10:31 PM GMT
    HottJoe saidThe devil's having a two for one sale on personalities and hotness. You can mix and match for the price of one soul. You can also pick up a love potion that's guaranteed to work, but that will cost your mother's soul. The prices are steep, but think of all the fun you'll have!icon_razz.gif


    Wow! Well said! icon_smile.gif
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    Mar 09, 2013 10:38 PM GMT
    chris_hastings1 said
    DudeInNOVA saidSo at this point, you're just trying to troll us? That's boring.


    no... you guys are mistaking quiet types for no personality... quiet people can have personalities.

    but this guy would invite me over to hang out yet i had to pull teeth to have a conversation and i could tell he didn't give a shit what I said unless it was about him in some way.

    Then don't go. It's obviously you two aren't a match, in terms of friends or more than friends. So why worry about people without personalities?
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    Mar 10, 2013 12:37 AM GMT
    The mannequins in my room tell me I have ton's of personality when all the blood is cleaned up, before that? Not so much.
  • chris_hasting...

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    Mar 10, 2013 1:31 AM GMT
    DudeInNOVA saidThen next time, don't go over there.


    yeah... i stopped after the third time. i'm just wondering wtf. thanks for being helpful -_-
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    Mar 10, 2013 1:33 AM GMT
    There's someone I work with who legit rarely speaks and just sits there. Everyone of us at work are very talkative and active...always joking around, and she'll sit there with arms crossed. It's sad because she comes off as a cold bitch...mostly for that reason alone. I try to involve her and get her to open up but it's pretty much a flat line response...

    =/


    Boo hiss