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    Mar 09, 2013 6:09 PM GMT
    i think i may be having a mental breakdown ,my fiance doesn't belive a word i say because he says im a cumpulsive lyer but i was reading up on it and not telling me things is the same as cumpulsive lying infact it say "remaining silent is a form of lying."So i am asking for both of us
  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 09, 2013 6:13 PM GMT
    Trust takes time
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    Mar 09, 2013 11:04 PM GMT
    So... Did you tell lies??...
    What is his reason for distrusting you??..

    .. So have a talk with him..Be honest about everything if it kills you..Start there !
    ..Now calm down..
    If you two really love each other..
    You can work it out..
    Aww.. HUGZ ..And good luck.. icon_smile.gif
  • MidwesternKid

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    Mar 09, 2013 11:28 PM GMT
    We need more details in order to give you advice. But like the guy above me said, be honest even if it kills you. If things still don't workout after that then it might help if you went couples counseling to help you guys communicate better.
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    Mar 09, 2013 11:31 PM GMT
    liefericson saidi think i may be having a mental breakdown...
    I think you're lying.
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    Mar 09, 2013 11:38 PM GMT
    liefericson saidi think i may be having a mental breakdown ,my fiance doesn't belive a word i say because he says im a cumpulsive lyer but i was reading up on it and not telling me things is the same as cumpulsive lying infact it say "remaining silent is a form of lying."So i am asking for both of us


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    Mar 10, 2013 2:06 AM GMT
    jtz03932 said
    liefericson saidi think i may be having a mental breakdown ,my fiance doesn't belive a word i say because he says im a cumpulsive lyer but i was reading up on it and not telling me things is the same as cumpulsive lying infact it say "remaining silent is a form of lying."So i am asking for both of us


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    Mar 10, 2013 2:09 AM GMT
    lief, you didn't deny you have told some lies to your guy. His problem is often called, 'lies of omission'.

    Both of you should sit down, admit your foibles, and make a pact to start being honest with each other and upfront about everything.
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    Mar 10, 2013 2:19 AM GMT
    I believe you read up on compulsive liars because you think it could be possibly true, and now you are quickly going to the defense of accusing him of silent lying(a defense mechanism of a liar).

    Well all I can share is this: Being honest and valuing honesty even when being honest works against you...is what you need to learn.
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    Mar 11, 2013 1:34 PM GMT
    thanks integrity11, Ill take your advice.And yea it might just kill me ,the outcome
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    Mar 11, 2013 2:08 PM GMT
    A lie through omission is still a lie.. People tend to lie when they are afraid of the opinions of others. Perhaps you are ashamed of some of your actions or have some insecurities/ demons to confront. My advice would be full disclosure-be yourself and the people that appreciate you will stick around.

    Theres no point in misrepresenting yourself- eventually the truth will come out and you will lose whatever relationships you've built.