Is there something wrong with me?

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    Mar 09, 2013 10:51 PM GMT
    OK, so,...I was born and raised in a different country. ... Due to a FUCKED up childhood, I was exposed to a lot of sexually related situation... ANYHOW... Since I was a teen, I have dabbled in the homosexual acts thing. My first time knowing about jerking it was due to a male friend...and ive have some encounters (no penetration)... WELL...Im married (to a woman), a wonderful, loving, caring, gift from God, whom I love with all that is within me. I consider myself to be straight and would not in anyway think of being involved (in a relationship) with a guy, However, I've found myself having desired to be sexual with a dude. I have my preferences of course, but I just find it strange that I even feel the way I do because of my faith and my emotions and the fact that I dont consider being capable of being in a relationship or want it, but... what is wrong with me that makes me desire or (within reason) be willing to be sexually involved with someone of the same sex?
  • jackthejock

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    Mar 09, 2013 11:00 PM GMT
    people are attracted to men, women or both. if you're attracted to men and women there is nothing wrong with that but you'll have to decide for yourself whether or not you want to break your vows to your wife and pursue sex with another man. personally I'm attracted to tons and tons of guys but when I've made a commitment to somebody then I'm only with that person, I think cheating is inherently wrong unless you discuss with your partner and agree that you have an open relationship.
  • MidwesternKid

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    Mar 09, 2013 11:06 PM GMT
    There are some other great guys on this site who can offer fantastic advice. I personally can't since I have never been in this situation. If at all possible, I can only recommend finding a professional that can help you break down your emotions, feelings, thoughts, and what not.

    I can relate to having an experience as a child that has messed up my understanding and maturity in regards to sex. I feel you might find answers in the past that can help you understand what is going on today.
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    Mar 09, 2013 11:17 PM GMT
    Your "faith" is wrong.

    I'm currently an atheist, but was raised in the church. It's my understanding that Jesus came here to abolish the Old Testament, including Leviticus...which if you've read the bible, that's the ONLY place you'll find anything remotely against homosexuality. Jesus never said a damn thing about homosexuality; but he did vehemently chastise divorce and gluttony.

    This is why I get all bent out of shape when some divorced fatass glutton tells me that being gay is a sin. icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 09, 2013 11:24 PM GMT
    The only thing wrong here is YOU sir did not take time to explore your sexual identity..

    Some men like... men, Some like women..Some both! (since the beginning of time)..

    You have to be honest with who and what you are, and treat people accordingly. in this case your wife.!

    These feelings cannot be swept under a rug..
    Deal with them head on.!!

    BTW...you don't necessarily have to have a bizarre sex spent youth to be a homosexual.

    Accept yourself...Seek some counselling..and if you really care about your wife..she has to know what you are going through!..

    I hope you find peace.. icon_neutral.gif