Forgetting names & nouns ,is that hurtful & would u be angry ?

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    Mar 10, 2013 5:07 AM GMT
    i would remember the conversation ,& things that are 10 years old
    but i forget names ,there have been times when people ask me my name & im like ,...????? S.s.s Samuel ,yeah ,
    lol my brothers think i do it for fun but i don't do it by intention
    im good in studies & remembering events ,i still remember my first kiss (at age 5) ,my first love ( Dec 27th)

    my best friend & i met after two long months & i said " happy new year , Selma" & she was like "im Haifa"
    its was a really sad day for me that i hurt her as everyone was laughing in my class-room but she was fine but i think i did hurt her, but not by any purpose

    rest its so common that i forget the names of dishes & desserts i ate minutes ago ,
    but i never forget incidents or things that happened 20 yrs ago

    i tried with many people,they think i do it to insult but i never do that to hurt,it just happens
    maybe i have a noun forgetting disease

    all i always do is tell them how great times we spent, joked together & laughed ,i even tell them things which they forget or never notice but after a few minutes i again forget thier names but i use a pronoun to adress them coz by that time id forget the name of that person again after say some months if we dont stay in contact much

    but thats how it is
    though id forget nothing about what happened & its the reason i made about say a 100 emails till now & i dont remember them i write it down thesedays so i am using the same email since 2 years & this profile since near about a year,though i forgot this too & was away for say some 2 months
  • PolaroidSwing...

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    Mar 10, 2013 5:45 AM GMT
    I forget peoples names sometimes, I don't think it's that big a deal. I certainly don't get offended when it happens to me.
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    Mar 10, 2013 5:59 AM GMT
    I too remember obscure details from things that happened ten years ago, but can't remember anyone's name. It's very embarrassing at times saying "Heyyyyyyyy.... you!"
  • MikeW

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    Mar 10, 2013 6:02 AM GMT
    I'm "noun challenged." There have been embarrassing moments when I go to introduce two people I know VERY well. I mean, close friends I've had for YEARS. Total blank.

    But it isn't only proper nouns. Can be anything... a whatchamacallit or whatever. It is getting worse with age but I've always been this way. Sometimes I go to sign a credit card slip and really have to think about it first. Who *am* I, anyway?

  • AMoonHawk

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    Mar 10, 2013 6:02 AM GMT
    TallNYguy saidI too remember obscure details from things that happened ten years ago, but can't remember anyone's name. It's very embarrassing at times saying "Heyyyyyyyy.... you!"

    ^^^^
    Ditto icon_redface.gif

    I'll go a step further ... I have actually forgotten two lovers names and my mother's name when introducing them to someone
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    Mar 10, 2013 6:42 AM GMT
    Holy Gawd ,i thought im the only one , now im feeling relieved that its with many others
  • wild_sky360

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    Mar 10, 2013 7:38 AM GMT
    Nope, not alone.
    I noticed this begin in grade school. I believe it contributed to shyness and inhibitions. I think it self perpetuates, in that anxiety of anticipating a miscue, actually increases the odds of it happening.

    My grandparents threw huge house parties when I was a child. While I had been introduced...very briefly, they were one of the 60 or 70 persons that night and they always knew who I was and something about me beforehand. Yet I took it to heart that they remembered my name and I was at a loss for there's as the party progressed or ended when it really would have been exceptional to have remembered.

    There are probably mental exercises to help in general. I've had success at large social events by running through the names on evites or asking who is going to be there? ....or what's her husband's name? ..etc
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    Mar 10, 2013 7:46 AM GMT
    Being forgettable makes you used to this, but I've never gotten offended by it at any point in my life when they've happened to me.
  • Apparition

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    Mar 10, 2013 7:49 AM GMT
    people have names? that must be handy in identifying them.
    they certainly dont want to know the hashtag shorthand my brain assigns them as identifiers for memory storage 1.5 seconds after meeting them.

    gotta look into this memorizine peoples' names thing. I AM TERRIBLE AT IT.
    like Kryptonite bad

    unless their name is impossible, then it gets its own hashtag and I can remember it forever, like i do most things.

    Dave..nope...never

    Nahasapeemapetilon...got it.
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    Mar 10, 2013 7:55 AM GMT
    I'm not good with names. Maybe it would be easier if you gave them nick-names so its more personal?

    I am rarely insulted by anything, so I wouldn't care if someone forgot my name, as long as they knew me.
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    Mar 10, 2013 8:12 AM GMT
    I wonder if you're face blind by any chance. Look up prosopagnosia. I'm not sure if it's possible to have varying levels of severity of it or if it's an all-or-one type of thing, but if you can't recognize faces then you wouldn't be able to put a name to one. Theoretically you wouldn't even be able to recognize people close to you.

    When I first meet people, I usually have to ask for their names 2 o 3 times before I remember, and I usually tell them I'm bad with names and apologize and I've never encountered anyone who seemed offended. I notice I that unless there are things that stand out about people's facial features, I usually don't recognize people easily unless I see them on a frequent basis. The people that stand out most are either really ugly or really good looking (to me at least).

    I also refer to things as thingy-of-a-jig often because I can't name it even though I have a picture in my mind of what it is and I can describe the features of it and what not. This only happens for things that I don't use often though, but it could be very basic, simple things.
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    Mar 10, 2013 12:06 PM GMT
    My C.R.S. occasionally flares up into full-blown C.R.A.F.T. icon_biggrin.gif
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    Mar 10, 2013 1:08 PM GMT
    Forgetting names is very common, and it's not clear how much is the result of socializing skills, and how much due to neurological issues and the way brains & memory work. There's a known difference between short-term and long-term memory, how they are acquired and how they are retained, how what begins as short-term becomes long-term.

    My own short-term memory is terrible, including names, possibly the result of all my head injuries, while my long-term is freakish, almost photographic. Many of the personal stories I relate here depend upon my ability to remember things from upwards of 60 years ago with stunning clarity, even conversations verbatim.

    But those spoken memories can also be selective: I won't remember an entire college lecture from years ago like I'm a tape recorder, but mostly things that are one-on-one, people who speak & interact with me directly. So there's where a social component may be at work.

    If the OP is seriously concerned about this there are simple memory tests that can be conducted that will suggest whether his memory is defective. Part of this may be merely his own mistaken notion of what human memory can do, and what it cannot do.

    Our brains are not like computers, whose digital memories are absolute. Human memory is by nature very patchy and unpredictable, and we should resist any modern tendency to compare ourselves to the perfection of digital memory devices.
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    Mar 10, 2013 1:12 PM GMT
    Consider me one of the few who can remember names and I'm good at it. I think it's one of my strengths when meeting people. When I meet them again, I immediately address their names and many are impressed by it. I think it puts me in an advantage with my social efforts.
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    Mar 16, 2013 7:47 AM GMT
    redox87 saidI wonder if you're face blind by any chance. Look up prosopagnosia. I'm not sure if it's possible to have varying levels of severity of it or if it's an all-or-one type of thing, but if you can't recognize faces then you wouldn't be able to put a name to one. Theoretically you wouldn't even be able to recognize people close to you.

    When I first meet people, I usually have to ask for their names 2 o 3 times before I remember, and I usually tell them I'm bad with names and apologize and I've never encountered anyone who seemed offended. I notice I that unless there are things that stand out about people's facial features, I usually don't recognize people easily unless I see them on a frequent basis. The people that stand out most are either really ugly or really good looking (to me at least).

    I also refer to things as thingy-of-a-jig often because I can't name it even though I have a picture in my mind of what it is and I can describe the features of it and what not. This only happens for things that I don't use often though, but it could be very basic, simple things.




    i remember everything moment & things except - Name ... lol