Are 95% of people really "un-dateable"?

  • Eli_jah

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    Mar 10, 2013 6:31 AM GMT
    Of course, the original anecdote was played for laughs, implying that this was mostly based on looks.

    However, applying this to the gay community, and looking at a broad spectrum of factors, does this seem more fitting?

    Let's use New York as an example. 6% of NYC's population is LGBT. Let's say 3% is gay men, which leaves you with 250,000 men (roughly). Roughly 5,000 are married. Leaving us with 245,000 men (which is still probably too high). How many of these men would be considered "dateable"?

    When you take into account things like age, race, socioeconomic status, things like physical appearance, personality, potential for chemistry, I imagine the number would be very low (sad to say, but all of these things matter, especially the last three, when it comes to dating).

    I imagine the 95% would be a bit outrageous for the het majority because there is obviously a vast pool to "choose" from.

    I just find it funny that to the average gay man probably 85% to 95% of guys are "fuckable" but only 5% to 15% are "dateable"

    P.S. My math might be off, feel free to correct me

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    Mar 10, 2013 11:00 AM GMT
    To be honest, 95% of people have absolute shit personalities and don't deserve somebody in their life.
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    Mar 10, 2013 11:34 AM GMT
    McQueen saidTo be honest, 95% of people have absolute shit personalities and don't deserve somebody in their life.


    Ill take a slightly different spin and say that 95% have unrealistic expectations and/or are not willing to ever compromise!
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    Mar 10, 2013 11:37 AM GMT
    Yeah I'd probably say I'm un-dateble.
    At least I realise it though so it's not like I'm going around wasting people's time.
  • alphatop

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    Mar 10, 2013 11:46 AM GMT
    NerdMonastery saidYeah I'd probably say I'm un-dateable.
    At least I realize it though so it's not like I'm going around wasting people's time.


    +1.
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    Mar 10, 2013 11:52 AM GMT
    I'm the guy you wanna bang and...push out the back door before the sun comes up.!

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    Mar 10, 2013 11:52 AM GMT
    NerdMonastery saidYeah I'd probably say I'm un-dateble.
    At least I realise it though so it's not like I'm going around wasting people's time.


    I'd date you. icon_confused.gif
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    Mar 10, 2013 12:35 PM GMT
    ozgreenguy said
    McQueen saidTo be honest, 95% of people have absolute shit personalities and don't deserve somebody in their life.
    Ill take a slightly different spin and say that 95% have unrealistic expectations and/or are not willing to ever compromise!
    Hence their shit personalities.
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    Mar 10, 2013 1:34 PM GMT
    Depends on who you ask.

    I say no.
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    Mar 10, 2013 1:58 PM GMT
    ozgreenguy said
    McQueen saidTo be honest, 95% of people have absolute shit personalities and don't deserve somebody in their life.


    Ill take a slightly different spin and say that 95% have unrealistic expectations and/or are not willing to ever compromise!


    +1
  • HottJoe

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    Mar 10, 2013 2:48 PM GMT
    NerdMonastery saidYeah I'd probably say I'm un-dateble.
    At least I realise it though so it's not like I'm going around wasting people's time.


    You're self deprecating to a fault. I've noticed that in many of your posts. You're a hot guy. You just need to dig a little deeper to find some confidence. Then people will see what a catch you are.icon_wink.gif
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    Mar 10, 2013 3:33 PM GMT
    Hmm... you need to make statistical adjustments for using New York City as the statistical survey sample. New York City is biased. NYC attracts/breeds/fosters certain behavior/mental patterns.

    But I say, so what? What if the date-able pool is only 0.0001%? You just never know who you may come across...
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    Mar 10, 2013 3:45 PM GMT
    McQueen saidTo be honest, 95% of people have absolute shit personalities and don't deserve somebody in their life.

    So this is what it feels like to finally be in the majority for something. Woohoo.
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    Mar 10, 2013 3:57 PM GMT
    I've heard nonsensical stats like this before, but I never really understood them. icon_confused.gif
    I've never had problems dating guys. All of my friends? The same thing.
    Seems like something that unattractive people who can't get dates make up.

    So why is this OP even entertaining this? He is certainly a goodlooking guy.

    Tristan
  • jtz03932

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    Mar 10, 2013 5:12 PM GMT
    musclefetish1 said

    So why is this OP even entertaining this? He is certainly a goodlooking guy.



    "Good looking" is all relative. He might be good looking to you but he might think Tyson Beckford is much better looking than he is.... if you decide based on physical appearances alone. Now we never really met him in real life, he might be the most charming person and that will trump his appearance overall.

    However, I think 95% is a conservative estimate, because it's more like 98% are "undateable". Ever wonder why two different people with the same interests in the same town are still in dating websites?

    (Most) gay men are superficial. Since there are not many of them in this world, they must take any opportunity to fuck when the need arises. You can't go out on public and start hitting on any guy, since the majority of them are straight.
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    Mar 10, 2013 5:29 PM GMT
    musclefetish1 saidI've heard nonsensical stats like this before, but I never really understood them. icon_confused.gif
    I've never had problems dating guys. All of my friends? The same thing.
    Seems like something that unattractive people who can't get dates make up.

    So why is this OP even entertaining this? He is certainly a goodlooking guy.

    Tristan


    Guys that want to date don't understand guys that don't. Undatable does not mean unattractive. It means a guy that does not care to bond with another human being. I have a new roommate that goes out and fucks around several nights a week but laughs at the thought of sleeping over or even seeing the dude again. He is the type of guy that will not return a text the next day . He is interesting , smart , social ,good looking guy . He just has no desire to love someone or become emotionally attached . He does not like to kiss or cuddle .
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    Mar 10, 2013 6:35 PM GMT
    Yes.
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    Mar 10, 2013 6:59 PM GMT
    Spend less time compiling banal statistics and moar time actually going out into the world, building self confidence and personality and work on being less fearful.

    Any time anyone starts a sentence with "Most Gay Men are..." they are almost immediately wrong. There is no one blanket statement that can cover such a diverse community.

    And I can gaurantee they have not met "Most Gay Men."

    Trust Me on this on - make YOURSELF "dateable." You will become a magnet for others who are as prime as you are.

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    Mar 10, 2013 7:03 PM GMT
    Sure why not.
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    Mar 10, 2013 7:39 PM GMT
    What's a date?
  • O5vx

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    Mar 10, 2013 7:58 PM GMT
    So what? All you need is one datable guy who meets all the criteria you are looking for.
  • SinfulWays

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    Mar 10, 2013 8:03 PM GMT
    O5vx saidSo what? All you need is one datable guy who meets all the criteria you are looking for.

    That is like trying to find one specific needle in a stack of needles.. Lol
  • O5vx

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    Mar 10, 2013 8:15 PM GMT
    SinfulWays said
    O5vx saidSo what? All you need is one datable guy who meets all the criteria you are looking for.

    That is like trying to find one specific needle in a stack of needles.. Lol
    isn't that what try and error is for, lol
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    Mar 10, 2013 8:23 PM GMT
    I was once given this explanation: Out of all the gay men you'll see, you'll find 10% attractive. Out of that 10%, 10% will find YOU attractive.

    And there you are. icon_wink.gif
  • SinfulWays

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    Mar 10, 2013 8:24 PM GMT
    O5vx said
    SinfulWays said
    O5vx saidSo what? All you need is one datable guy who meets all the criteria you are looking for.

    That is like trying to find one specific needle in a stack of needles.. Lol
    isn't that what try and error is for, lol

    I agree with you 100%, I was just sayin that after getting poked by so many pricks, it hurts after a while... Lol Pun intended....